Stupid mistakes I will never make again...

[I-am-someone]

I'm starting this thread for people to post their stupid mistakes on. I want you to post your stupid mistakes, so others can learn from them.
Everybody learns through their mistakes - posting them here can help other people analyze them so they will learn what to avoid.

The mistakes you post here, are meant to educate others. If you decide to start posting things like "HAHA That's stupid," then I think you need to take another look at yourself and think of all the mistakes you've made as well.




The stupidest mistakes I have made so far:

Mistake: Not kissing a girl that was so extremely into me it was almost not funny anymore, because I hadn't brushed my teeth all day long. She was staying at my brother's place and I didn't kiss her while we were lying on a bed, my hands on her titties and totally getting into the moment, when I hesitated because I realised my mouth was foul. No sex for me that night.
Lesson: Just kiss the girl, even if your mouth does smell like sh!t! She'll accept it and just move on to other areas.

The rest of these mistakes were all made while clubbing.

Mistake: Flirting with a girl for almost an entire hour, dancing, having fun, playing around her totally digging me. Then, suddenly my brother appears and asks me if I want to come with him. I say "No". Then, he comes back later, and it seems like he really wants me to come with him, and I say "Yes". Stupid mistake, I leave, I'm away for 30 minutes, talking to other girls and everything, come back and ofcourse she's gone. DOH! Stupid!
Lesson: When you've got a good target in front of you, don't let her out of your sight or you may very well end up losing her - unless ofcourse you tell her you'll be back (which I didn't).

Mistake: Telling a girl I was a virgin only a few minutes after meeting her. Took her less than 2 seconds to run away.
Lesson: Don't tell women you're a virgin - esspecially not after a few minutes.

Mistake: Approaching a girl I know from school while extremely drunk - making a complete ass out of myself, her totally rejecting me.
Lesson: Don't mess up this stupidly with people you know you're going to have to see every day.

Mistake: Not pursuing a woman, even though she's hot, is giving you straight eyecontact and starts riding your leg after 10 seconds of dancing with eachother, but then gets yanked away by some of her friends.
Lesson: Pursue! Just keep on going, keep dancing and tell her friends to fvck the hell off.

And many, many more smaller ones.

 

[Phrase]

3 years ago a girl I had been talking to for about week decided to come over to my room at 12 am after work and drink with me. We finished a whole liter of rum and watched a movie. I didnt even touch her in any way. Over analyzed the situation too much and basically chickened out. She ended up leaving a few hours later never doing anything. Needless to say she never really came over after that. Will not make mistakes like this again.. taught myself to look for the signs and go with the flow. Most of the time you only get one good chance, either do it or end up sleeping alone =)

 

[topher]

Originally posted by Phrase
Most of the time you only get one good chance, either do it or end up sleeping alone =)

sh*t man i can attest to that, i was so dumb. about 2 years ago i was in a really small town (pop. 250) working and after work one day i asked the girl at the gas pumps if she wanted to hang out, she said yes. so anyways we're driving around drinkin and smokin chillin and she starts to tell me about an old BF and how she used him for sex, she was hinting at the no strings sex she wanted from me i now realize, man i was such a dork. so im like whatever yeah and start to talk sh*t about something else completely clueless, oh well ya live and ya learn.

 

[alphawolfx]

Glad you learned your lessons. They'll serve you well.

 

[b's nuts]

i was up skiing standing in a lift line when an HB9 CAME UP TO ME and told me she liked my skiis, she was extremely hot and had this surface piercing, i froze up and simply said "me to" and skied away. grrrrrrr, regret eating me inside for days.


biggest mistake i have made thus far: being to available to the ladies and always giving them the sex they wanted (which became to readily available and apparently after a while lost its value to some degree; went from banging this chick like 7 or 8 times a week down to about 3). Because i wasn't calling this girl in particular (i mean literally she ALWAYS called me) i thought that i wasn't being to available. Let me tell you that i was, and after a year and a half relationship, i now realize that i should have been a little more busy besides her (even though i wasn't the one making contact) and had IL drop significantly.

 

[Royal Elite]

My biggest mistake was not thinking Big and therefore thinking small which is losers thinkings.

Winners know something is going to pop off tonight when I go to the club with the hottest chick here tonight, while losers hope that maybe I can get a number or at least a dance from any chick tonight.

My biggest obstacle in life has always been myself, because when I apply myself, and think like Im suppose too I never lose, because losing is for loser. So I will never think small, or even average (still the thought pattern of losers) again.

The spoils of war only go to the winners!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[earthshyne]

Investing in the tech bubble;
Telling my dad to f*ck off;
Getting married the first time;
Getting married the second time.
(guess I'm a slow learner)

 

[I-am-someone]

Come on, I know more mistakes have been made
Help us out, spill your biggest mistakes so others can learn from it.

By the way, I'd appreciate it if you'd also write down what you should have done instead - it may just sound like stating the obvious but when people read it, they'll get a lot more out of it.

 

[Kaine]

Mistake: Telling a girl I was a virgin only a few minutes after meeting her. Took her less than 2 seconds to run away.

I can only imagine .o0

You: Yeah so would you like a drink, you sexy b.itch?
Her: A double vodka shot would be nice?
You: I'm a virgin...

Game Over

Continue?

 

[Freeman]

Regrets

Probably the biggest regret I have in recently memory is not getting with this chick that I used to see when I was a freshman...

 

[dereklearnslow]

Biggest semi-recent mistake: Pulling a girl to the side after an economics class and telling her that she looked really beautiful today (I'd noticed her before, but she had on some really low cut jean shorts that day that made her look extra hot). This girl was very very gorgeous to me, but seemed very introverted, like a nerd that had no place being a nerd.

After complimenting her she became all giggly and embarassed. In fact she almost tripped over herself trying to keep her composure. And she gave me the warmest smile I had ever seen on a girl in a long time.

But somewhere during all of this, I lost my will to go all the way and said, "Well....have a nice day." and walked my sorry ass away. I swear those words echoed in my head for an eternity. They still do. I mean, I basically had this girl swooning over my generous compliment and I TOTALLY CHICKENED OUT!

Needless to say it was pretty akward after that. I'd see her in the hallway and say hi, and she'd say hi back pretty nervously and then walk away. I die a little inside everytime I think of this.

The mistakes I've made could fill an endless hole of wimpiness. Just the other day I chickened out on # closing this girl who I met at work. She kept giving me this awesome smile and kept looking down, which I've read is a sign of interest. Ah well.

And I keep making these same gotdamn mistakes.

 

[skeeloo]

in junior college i visited a girl room late one night(her room mate was out) she invited to help her with some animation desing stuff. she said she modelled and if i would like to see her catalogue that was 4 years ago , and after a long convo, she asked me what do u like about me, and i said your ass, then she got up and locked her door and said would you like to have a feel of it. with a smile on her face i said yes i felt and and we made out after she asked me to do something (sex), i chickened out and said i reallly got classes tommorrow and i gotta go, she couldnt belive her eyes.

after a dry spell of no for one whole year that year , i regreted that day.
she couldnt even look me in the face the next day.

i could right a whole book about mistakes i made during my teen years lol.

 

[I-am-someone]

Originally posted by Kaine
I can only imagine .o0

You: Yeah so would you like a drink, you sexy b.itch?
Her: A double vodka shot would be nice?
You: I'm a virgin...

Game Over

Continue?

No, more like a conversation about sex... her getting into more detail...
Me suddenly saying like:
"I wouldn't know anything about that!" ...
"Why?" ...
"Don't tell anybody, I'm a virgin!" ...
"Oh... Bye!" ...

Who would've thought huh...


As for the rest, good mistakes!
Let's never make those again, eh?

 

[sapphire]

Having two extremely attractive women stay over my house on two successive nights and not making a move on either of them.

No wonder they did not return my calls afterwards.

 

[romangod]

Stupid mistakes I've made.....

1. Letting my desire to bed this one gal overtake my knowledge that she was just spun trailer trash with massive baggage.

2. Listening to a girl's words without noting her actions. Actions speak louder than words!!

3. Giving women more power than I should in my psyche before realizing they are useless except for sex.

4. Not realizing that women are like fruit. When they are young and fresh they are tasty and intriguing. However, like fruit and unlike men, they rot with age and should be used for compost.

 

[Lickaclit]

During my last semester I had thoroughly impressed this 19 year-old Chiropractic assistant—with my intellect. It was damn obvious that she was infatuated with me in the most serious way. The woman had long blonde hair, and when I tell you that she had no split-ends—she had not split ends. She kept herself a pristine condition, superficially (makeup, pedicure et cetera), physically (her body was just… tight) and intellectually (she got the second best grade in the class to me… of course). She was perfectly tanned, had a great set of perky b-cups and often tried to get my attention with her eyes.

Unfortunately… I was too busy trying to establish myself (my name) within the school to recognize her “want” of me. I let her go and never saw her again…

To add to the hurt, I later found out from a colleague of mine that she did kickboxing and was a former gymnast. Go-effing-figure.

 

[I-am-someone]

Originally posted by Lickaclit
During my last semester I had thoroughly impressed this 19 year-old Chiropractic assistant—with my intellect. It was damn obvious that she was infatuated with me in the most serious way. The woman had long blonde hair, and when I tell you that she had no split-ends—she had not split ends. She kept herself a pristine condition, superficially (makeup, pedicure et cetera), physically (her body was just… tight) and intellectually (she got the second best grade in the class to me… of course). She was perfectly tanned, had a great set of perky b-cups and often tried to get my attention with her eyes.

Unfortunately… I was too busy trying to establish myself (my name) within the school to recognize her “want” of me. I let her go and never saw her again…

To add to the hurt, I later found out from a colleague of mine that she did kickboxing and was a former gymnast. Go-effing-figure.

Hey, I did something along the same lines a year ago (except mine wasn't a chiropractor but a massage specialist). Sucks, doesn't it?

Please try mentioning what you should have done instead though - that will add the positive spin to this thread. Otherwise it quickly starts to sound like a whining thread, which isn't what I had in mind.

If you don't know what you should've done instead, that is definitely something you should figure out.

 

[Lickaclit]

Sorry 'bout that, that part must have slipped my mind during the story-telling.

What to do: It is always important to be more aware of your surroundings and the people in it—ASAP. Do not allow your general routine to get in the way of an opportunity that might prove to be beneficial to your social and personal life. If you find yourself in a similar situation, it might be a good start to give your salutations and move on from that point—perhaps ask how she faired on a test or what she thinks of the teacher. Conversation isn’t always about game. It can be as mundane as getting to know what she thinks of her environment and incorporating her views into your conversations.

Ultimately, don’t ignore the little details because they can help her “feel as though she knows you” even if you’re fundamentally regurgitating what she has said. As someone said on one of the forums, you both lose in the end if you don’t take the initiative to take a swing (because I liken women to prey, they tend not to act but to react). So you will more than likely have to make the first move, even if it’s just an acknowledgement of their existence. It took me a damn semester to start putting that little bit of information into actual practice.

 

[dreamer]

i have this problem as well. im only 15 and for some reason so many girls like me and ive heard from my friends loads of times that "so and so fancies you" but im too scared and cant think of how to strike conversations with them. whenever they try and flirt with me i can never think of what to say and its so annoying. Also sometimes i get in an amazing situation but never realize until an hour later and think "if i had done that - things would be so amazing right now". I just never think quick enough.
There's this girl in my class who fancied me for eight months and i fancied her too. Shes one of the most popular girls in my year, whereas im not too popular. but then this other guy who is way more popular than me asked her out. he always used to flirt with her and she said yes. I dontknow if she still likes mme but she always acts really nicely to me. i knew she fancied me before though but i just blew my chance coz i dont have the confidence. i also just messed up another great chance to flirt with her and realized what i shud have done now. can anyone please give me advice on this? it will actually save my life and i will thank u forever!

 

[Bigdavis]

I met this girl thought she was perfect. We were the same age, both professionals, etc. She seemed really into me. Wanted to see me all the time.

For some reason after about 6 weeks she started flaking a little, so what did I do? I sent her a really long email and poured my heart out to her. It wasn't long until she had totally lost interest and quit returning phone calls.

What should I have done? I shouldn't have even noticed that she was flaking because I should have had other *****es to call...