Strange Phone Call With Plate

[calisurfer1984]

Met a girl on Friday at a bar, talked for a bit, she kissed me, and put her number in my phone. Her friend was a hot mess, so she left the bar before I did. I texted her when I left the bar with a standard, "Good meeting you tonight," deleted her number, and waited for her to text me back if she was interested.

Sunday night, I get a text from her saying that it was good meeting me too. I wait until Monday morning and text her back, but she asks me to remind her who I was because she was drunk and met a lot of people. We go back and forth on that for a bit before I deduce that it was just a ruse to start a meaningful conversation so she could feel more comfortable with me before agreeing to a date.

We text on and off throughout the day (30 mins to 2 hours between texts, approx. 20 total texts between us). I tell her we should meet up this week, and she calls me right away. We talk on the phone for 45 minutes, have a good conversation, I pass her flurry of **** tests, and then she says she might be free this Friday but possibly not because it's Easter weekend. If not, she'd love to meet up next week.

We continue talking for a minute or two, but I've had enough at this point. I hate talking on the phone to begin with, I normally only talk to a girl on the phone for 20 minutes (especially one I just met), and so I say I'm gonna go and we'll talk soon. She just says, "Bye," in a curt tone, but doesn't hang up. I pull my phone away from my face to see if she hung up, but she hasn't, so I say, "Oh, I thought you hung up. Ok, I'm going to go." Again, she's curt and says, "Ok. Bye." This time she does hang up.

Maybe I'm overthinking it, but she sounded pissed.

1.) If I made her mad because I legitimately didn't want to be on the phone with her, then she's not someone I'm interested in.

2.) If she was looking for a late-night booty call and I missed the signals, fine. I wasn't going to drive the 30 minutes to bang her anyway because I just got home from being out of the house all day.

3.) She could also be trying to get the upper hand, play hard to get, and wait to see if I chase her. I probably won't, because that was the weirdest end to a telephone conversation I've ever had.

4.) She's a crazy person.

That's the four things I think could be going on, but I'm stumped.

 

[MrWood]

why the fvck do you care if you made her mad?

 

[marmel75]

Wtf is with people using terminology wrong constantly.

This girl is not a plate. It's some random chick you met at a bar. A plate is a girl you see and fvck on the regular.

This sh!t gets so annoying when you go into a thread thinking it's about a plate and then it turns out to be some random chick he just met that he's never been out with.

And for the record hooking up means you fvcked a chick. Not made out a few times. Another one I constantly see dudes using wrong.

 

[Tictac]

You did not meet a plate.

You met a woman and texted a woman.

 

[El Payaso]

Plate?

You have a lot to learn, young padawan.

 

[Yewki]

I texted her when I left the bar with a standard, "Good meeting you tonight," deleted her number, and waited for her to text me back if she was interested.

So cute

 

[calisurfer1984]

Plate?

You have a lot to learn, young padawan.

Yes, I do have a lot to learn, I'm afraid.

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

 

[Yewki]

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

You care too much about girls. You're overanalyzing everything.

Go wrap your head around some hobbies and work on improving your life in real, meaningful ways. Stop obsessing over a girl.

 

[El Payaso]

Yes, I do have a lot to learn, I'm afraid.

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

There is nothing to answer because your mindset is all wrong.

But here are a few things:

She's not a plate. She's an insignificant woman among billions you just met.

You care too much.

You're investing more than she's investing.

You're showing beta tendencies to her by playing "who will drop the call first" with her.

You spent way too much time talking to a woman over the phone that you haven't fvcked at least 100 times. The amount of time spent talking to her is something reserved for husband and wife.

Read the DJ Bible, The Manipulated Man and Stop Being A Nice Guy. They will give you a new mindset and you won't have to resort to hand holding through every step of interacting with women.

 

[marmel75]

Yes, I do have a lot to learn, I'm afraid.

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

Maybe you should read up on the hundreds of other posts that are exactly the same as yours that have already been answered. It gets pretty annoying to read and have to reply to the same posts over and over again when you could simply use the search function.

And you could read up on some basic terminology so you don't call a random chick a plate.

But that's just me.

 

[WanderingMan]

5.) She's a woman, they're confusing.

Spin more plates (actual ones) Then when someone like this gets close to entering your life YOU can easily dismiss and move on.

Secondly, just from what you wrote, you did fail a few of her **** tests:

"she asks me to remind her who I was because she was drunk and met a lot of people."
Even though you knew her game, you let her get away with thinking it was okay that #1: she didn't remember you, and #2: that you were okay with a woman who gets blacked out drunk and gives her number away to guys she won't remember.

Her conclusion: your standards are low and you're desperate.

"she says she might be free this Friday but possibly not because it's Easter weekend."

Her conclusion: you're okay with being a standby guy - therefore you're desperate and have low-self esteem.

Now, you did end the convo soon after she said this, so you may have been alright here, and, depending on your context, it could be a perceived two way street because you're also busy. But that's not likely the case and she thinks you to be a guy that she can wait till the last minute to text - and you'll come calling.

You may be in pergutory with this one - nothing you can do. You're stuck in a power struggle.

My conclusion: erase her number - for good this time.

 

[Vivacity]

Yes, I do have a lot to learn, I'm afraid.

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

This is the problem with game playing and $#!7testing. You confuse the other person and you confuse yourself. Being a man means being decisive. What do you actually want with this woman, OP?

Do you want to just fukc her once or a few times? Send her a text, meet, and fukc her.
Do you want to get into LTR? Send her a text, go on dates, and get into LTR.
Do you want to marry her? Then go buy a ring and put that fukcing ring to that fukcing finger.
Do you not find her attractive and do not want to do anything with her? Then forget about her and find another woman.

If you do contact her again, make only one more call or send only one more text. No response from her? On to the next.

 

[ubercat]

Yes, I do have a lot to learn, I'm afraid.

However, and I could be wrong about this, but I wonder if I could learn more if people actually answered the post instead of criticizing the way it was titled.

Reading the DJ bible is the minimum cover. believe me you'll still screw up the difference is you know you're screwing up and do it less over time