Back when I was dating one of the firm rules I had was to NEVER leave a message on a new chicks voice mail. When I first met her and started to build a connection her interest level was high enough for her to give me her number. That is my starting point.
When I first attempt to contact her there is absolutely NOTHING I can say on her answering machine that is going to increase her interest. In fact leaving a message only HURTS my chances. It gives away any power I may have had and leaves the ball totally in HER court. No matter what I say on her machine the message she hears is, "I like you please call me back."
This is totally WEAK!!!
Also if she doesn't call back I'm really screwed. I can't call again because I'll look even more desperate and needy. Just don't do it!
Not leaving a message does far more to HELP. She sees your number on call display and then begins wondering WHY you didn't leave a message. It intrigues her. She wonders about YOUR interest level. She wants your attention. She needs to feel wanted.
Her interest level was there to begin with. That's why she gave you the digits. If you did a good job she WANTS you to CALL. When you don't leave a message she wants you to CALL again. If you don't leave messages it will gnaw away at her and many times you'll find her calling you.
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Texting (in the early stages) is NO DIFFERENT than leaving a voice message. You are essentially putting all the power in HER hands and giving away your interest level right way. There is NOTHING you can text that is going to increase her interest in the early going. Attraction doesn't work thru digital letters on a tiny screen. It just doesn't.
Think about it. Before cellphones and texting were invented you would never just meet a girl and write her a hand written letter and deliver it to her and expect that to work. It's absurd! Imagine a new chick receiving your letter saying "Hey cutie we should get together for a drink?" How is that going to work? Truth is it NEVER will.
The ONLY time texting works is if there was a high interest level there to begin with. You simply do not build attraction or interest early on via text. So stop it!
There are way too many guys around here relying on this form of communication early on. It is weak fellas. Do not give her an easy "out" by simply choosing not to respond to your text. Man up and call her! Get her talking, laughing, and flirting back and forth. Impress her with your communication skills. These are the things that build sexual tension and interest.
Guys who are really good at charming women by speaking with them would NEVER choose text over a direct conversation. Texting is far too limiting.
At the very best a real conversation can do wonders to her interest level. At the very best a text conversation either leaves her interest level right where it was or probably even lowers it.
Sadly I feel that too many guys use text because they are afraid to communicate by actually talking. They use excuses like "I'm too busy to call" or "That is how women communicate these days." Sorry guys but people communicate best by speaking. Always have and always will.
Quit relying on a severely limiting form of communication to get girls. You are holding yourself back. Take the time to learn how to communicate, charm and seduce women with your words, voice and personality. Once you do you will never use texting to get dates again.
