Stop dating women with guy friends.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEYtx7Fu8cg

Another topic by begood4000. Stop dating women with guy friends.


***IMO the presenter isn't talking about trying to control the chick you date, nor being a control freak and expect her to drop her male friends for you but you CAN control yourself in leaving a chick if she is more concerned with her male friends than developing a solid healthy realtionship with you. (Up front fine. You cannot expect someone to drop everyone for you or I, but if they keep them around constantly especially as time goes on it's time for you to move on without a word, argument or wasting your time with an explaination that leads to them denying it regardless.)

One commenter on the video made an interesting point:

"This is by far the best video on the net about this situation. I just recently broke up with my "girlfriend" because I saw a picture of her and her "friend" in which the captioning was referring to this guy as her "boyfriend". I for too long would overlook comments and things that I would see on facebook because I was convinced that I was being a "jealous guy". Well when I bring my feelings up, guess who this girl defends? No more disrespect for me, it hurts, but way less."

^^The bolded part of his comments is the most important. If you are going to be in a serious commited relationship with a chick and have been dating her for a while (not expecting her to just drop every male friend up front) and she would rather defend a male "friend" over the man (you) who she's in a supposed commited relationship with...it's time to just move on forever as you should know her words on "commitment and relationship" don't match yours.


The presenter (begood4000) had sound logical responses in the comments section:

"When a woman becomes commited to a man he needs to be the only man in her life. If a man is dating a woman with male friends that's called sharing, and no man should share his wife or girl friend with another man no matter how innocent it seems to be, and men need to learn this lesson and put a stop to being one of 20 men in a woman's life. Either he is the only man in her life or he is out the door. Many will try to convince their victim they are just being paranoid, it's all in their head, or the ever popular "you're just being jealous". This is only done to shame the victim back into submission to continue on with the relationship."

The below is the presenters best comment to a commenter and the bolded nails it.VVV

"There will always be a one in a million, but as a rule of thumb most people should not get envolved into such a situation, because most situations turn out for the worse. there may be exceptions for the rule, but even non loose women can become loose through having tons of male friends around and the temptation it brings. This is like saying one is above temptation. To say that is like saying you or I don't have the ability to do wrong, and that's a lie. We all do especially if we constantly put ourselves in harms way. The reality is this is a common trap men find themselves in and it needs to stop. Divorce and cheating are on the rise for a reason."
 

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BraddH said:
So you say that every girl with guy friends are like this?
Not "every" chick and you cannot expect chicks to just dump every dude they are already friends with being you are the new guy in her life but it should tip off any logical thinking dude that if she always keeps them around (as part of the two of your "one on one" relationship) as time progresses it's not a good thing for your definition of a one on one relationship.

You are supposed to base relationships around trust but like the presenter said you don't try to control the person / be a control freak but see by actions if YOU who are in the relationship with her come first as she should come first to you. "Unless you prefer relationships with a harem of her men involved in them."

Like the presenter commented it's like saying we are all above temptation and above lying which is of a lie in itself.

If you want a one on one realtionship and she does fine.

If you want a one on one relationship and she prefers your "one on one" relationship involving other men then you either accept/ and deal with it for what it is or move on to find someone who wants to be in a one on one relationship with you. Simple.
 

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Great video. This is one of the biggest problems with women these days, them always having guy "friends" hanging around them no matter what. They'll defend the guy "friend" before their boyfriend because the boyfriend to them is expendable.
 

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Agree

With all the sources of easily available attention from men it's better to lay some ground rules and show her the door if she doesn't like it
 

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The411 said:
Not "every" chick and you cannot expect chicks to just dump every dude they are already friends with being you are the new guy in her life but it should tip off any logical thinking dude that if she always keeps them around (as part of the two of your "one on one" relationship) as time progresses it's not a good thing for your definition of a one on one relationship.

You are supposed to base relationships around trust but like the presenter said you don't try to control the person / be a control freak but see by actions if YOU who are in the relationship with her come first as she should come first to you. "Unless you prefer relationships with a harem of her men involved in them."

Like the presenter commented it's like saying we are all above temptation and above lying which is of a lie in itself.

If you want a one on one realtionship and she does fine.

If you want a one on one relationship and she prefers your "one on one" relationship involving other men then you either accept/ and deal with it for what it is or move on to find someone who wants to be in a one on one relationship with you. Simple.
Chill out now.

I was simply stating that you are contradicting yourself.

"Stop dating women with guy friends." was your title, and now you say that it is okay after all. As long as ... and so so... and yada yada.

Either you are stupid and didnt realize you contradicted yourself (In this case you should change the title of this thread) or you were just looking for as much attention as possible to prove this stupid theory for your ego.

Either case, you have problems to solve before trying to spread information for others.
 

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BraddH said:
Chill out now.

I was simply stating that you are contradicting yourself.

"Stop dating women with guy friends." was your title, and now you say that it is okay after all. As long as ... and so so... and yada yada.

Either you are stupid and didnt realize you contradicted yourself (In this case you should change the title of this thread) or you were just looking for as much attention as possible to prove this stupid theory for your ego.

Either case, you have problems to solve before trying to spread information for others.

LMAO. Dude you seem to either have problems reading and comprehending and get fixated on the title alone of the video or are trying to put up some weird stance.

Carry on.
 

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The411 said:
LMAO. Dude you seem to either have problems reading and comprehending and get fixated on the title alone of the video or are trying to put up some weird stance.

Carry on.
BradH is a woman. That's why she gets upset a truth about women is revealed or knowledge giving a man the upper hand is revealed. Just look at her post history.
 

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There's a difference in women that have guy friends and women who hang around their guy friends ALL THE D@MN TIME and make you hang around them too. If I'm dating a woman and I notice a pattern where everything we do is always with her guy friends at the bar 3 times a week and that's considered a "date" then I drop her like it's hot.
 

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El Payaso said:
BradH is a woman. That's why she gets upset a truth about women is revealed or knowledge giving a man the upper hand is revealed. Just look at her post history.
You are right in a way. Every human being is 50% man and 50% woman. That's where we come from.
 
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