I'm assuming the original poster is in college right now?
If you have the mentality that college is a template for the rest of your life, a closed system where the groupthink of people +/-2 years from your age determines what's cool and what's not (which is only ever true for maybe the first two years of college, and even then the premise is questionable), then maybe leaving college will shock your system a bit.
Once you leave that mentality behind you will realize that you're part of a big pool of people with a variety of interests, desires, life backgrounds, etc... And you can play it however you want. We are not bound by our age or education level.
I'm about 5 years out from school now. Here's what some of my friends who are successful at dating do:
- Lives in a glass box condo downtown, drives a sports car and a motorcycle, hits the gym hard, picks up 20 year olds at parties/clubs/tinder, rarely dates a girl longer than 3 weeks
- Just finished grad school, works at a small company making okay money, meets girls of all ages through his volunteer work, as of right now lives with a hot 30 year old fashion designer
- Anarchist who sleeps on people's couches. Pulls hot activist chicks.
- Guy who works part time as a postman and writes for one of the free newspapers in town. Likes to play online chess. Picks up girls at country dances.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make here: you already exist in a very complex and diverse social ecosystem, and it will continue to get more complex. Dating is not a zero-sum game; friend #1 in that list would never ever pull the girls friend #3 does. The whole "frat boys fvck the hot sorority girls" narrative does not hold up in real life. The only things that really matter are that you put yourself out there, stay physically fit, find yourself, and find your people... There's hot girls everywhere. You don't even need to stick to your age bracket/socio-economic status if you don't want to.
Don't get me wrong, the standard sosuave advice is still useful: take action, be direct, work out, improve yourself... But don't mould yourself into a certain personality type because you think it's the "best one." Because there is no best one.