Spent the night with girl without having sex - best way to proceed

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OP I've been through this too when I was young and shook, if she likes you, you get another shot, if not who cares.

A few girls I'd been too drunk or too high on coke or MDMA to perform, some of them I never heard from again. It upset me at the time, but being older now just makes me realise first impressions even sexually really do count.

I'm a tactile person, I will cuddle and spoon a random wh0re because it gives me pleasure, it makes me feel good, so I do it. Downside they catch feelings quicker, I just love a cuddle.

I suffer from a picky penis, I envy you minute men
I'm the same, even worse when I'm drunk, I'll regularly fvck women and they are exhausted (me too) so we agree to stop. When we start again I usually come within 5 mins. I stopped masturbating and porn altogether which helped, now I can knock an orgasm out in 5-10 minutes (which I much prefer). Have to be in the right mental state though personally.

I use to hold back when I would come, feeling that the woman isn't pleasured enough, oh how wrong I was. Make a girl come (cl1torally), then fvck her hard until you nut, is my new mantra (only for worthwile girls you want to pleasure). No need to prolong sex when there's round 2+

50mg is way too much for a healthy guy. Try half that or less.
I have 5mg sachets of Cialis, I only need 1/3 or 1/2 to get a rise, basically nothing. Still works in the morning too. You need a lot less of this stuff than you think (if you can have healthy erections naturally).
 

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I'm the same, even worse when I'm drunk, I'll regularly fvck women and they are exhausted (me too) so we agree to stop. When we start again I usually come within 5 mins. I stopped masturbating and porn altogether which helped, now I can knock an orgasm out in 5-10 minutes (which I much prefer). Have to be in the right mental state though personally.

I use to hold back when I would come, feeling that the woman isn't pleasured enough, oh how wrong I was. Make a girl come (cl1torally), then fvck her hard until you nut, is my new mantra (only for worthwile girls you want to pleasure). No need to prolong sex when there's round 2+
I've literally lost plates because of my inability to finish. They usually give me two chances, but If I'm not finishing the third then they get all butthurt and start blaming themselves.
 

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I've literally lost plates because of my inability to finish. They usually give me two chances, but If I'm not finishing the third then they get all butthurt and start blaming themselves.
Are you sober? Have you tried just abstaining from ejaculation for a week? Even busting a nut a couple of days before gives me climax issues during sex.
 
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Are you sober? Have you tried just abstaining from ejaculation for a week? Even busting a nut a couple of days before gives me climax issues during sex.
I'm trying to go a week right now. I ended up caving after seeing so much ass at target yesterday unfortunately lol.
 

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I'm trying to go a week right now. I ended up caving after seeing so much ass at target yesterday unfortunately lol.
Go a week, trust me sex feels better and you come quicker (and a lot more of it).
 

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Go a week, trust me sex feels better and you come quicker (and a lot more of it).
I’ve thought about that. I’m just worried I would end up c*ming in 2 mins if I were to implement that.
 

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I’ve thought about that. I’m just worried I would end up c*ming in 2 mins if I were to implement that.
You think that, but it's really not the case, the sensations are great but not enough to bust in 2 minutes. 1 week is nothing I've done 3-4 weeks and then you really turn into a minute man. 1 week is good for a strong erection and good sexual feelings while still being in the 10-20 minute zone.

The one time I did nut in a few mins was with a girl I'd known since school, years of flirting, near misses, wrong timing with us having partners, we banged in adulthood and the excitement just made me nut so fast. I was telling a story of how long it takes me to nut with friends and she chimed in "it wasn't that long with me" and I had to admit the excitement/mental stimulation made me nut so quick. It was weirdly not embrarrasing to admit this (because it was my truth). I realised how much sex depends on mentality.
 

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OP I've been through this too when I was young and shook, if she likes you, you get another shot, if not who cares.

A few girls I'd been too drunk or too high on coke or MDMA to perform, some of them I never heard from again. It upset me at the time, but being older now just makes me realise first impressions even sexually really do count.

I'm a tactile person, I will cuddle and spoon a random wh0re because it gives me pleasure, it makes me feel good, so I do it. Downside they catch feelings quicker, I just love a cuddle.
Thanks man. The upside is that she did seem high interest from the beginning.
The downside though is that this one interaction might not have created such a strong investment on her part, and some other OLD dude she's talking to may get her attention.

Whatever, let's see how things play out.
 

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You think that, but it's really not the case, the sensations are great but not enough to bust in 2 minutes. 1 week is nothing I've done 3-4 weeks and then you really turn into a minute man. 1 week is good for a strong erection and good sexual feelings while still being in the 10-20 minute zone.

The one time I did nut in a few mins was with a girl I'd known since school, years of flirting, near misses, wrong timing with us having partners, we banged in adulthood and the excitement just made me nut so fast. I was telling a story of how long it takes me to nut with friends and she chimed in "it wasn't that long with me" and I had to admit the excitement/mental stimulation made me nut so quick. It was weirdly not embrarrasing to admit this (because it was my truth). I realised how much sex depends on mentality.
I’ll try that out. I usually abstain 3-4 days before a date so that I can keep myself fresh. But I’ll try a whole week before my next date!
 

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I have 5mg sachets of Cialis, I only need 1/3 or 1/2 to get a rise, basically nothing. Still works in the morning too. You need a lot less of this stuff than you think (if you can have healthy erections naturally).
I might try a super low does of Cialis. The Viagra works ok, but it can lessen sensitivity and I have tinnitus and it seems to aggravate it somewhat for a few days.
 
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You think that, but it's really not the case, the sensations are great but not enough to bust in 2 minutes. 1 week is nothing I've done 3-4 weeks and then you really turn into a minute man. 1 week is good for a strong erection and good sexual feelings while still being in the 10-20 minute zone.

The one time I did nut in a few mins was with a girl I'd known since school, years of flirting, near misses, wrong timing with us having partners, we banged in adulthood and the excitement just made me nut so fast. I was telling a story of how long it takes me to nut with friends and she chimed in "it wasn't that long with me" and I had to admit the excitement/mental stimulation made me nut so quick. It was weirdly not embrarrasing to admit this (because it was my truth). I realised how much sex depends on mentality.
aight, I’m going to try and make it til next Saturday and visit my girl
 

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Thanks man. The upside is that she did seem high interest from the beginning.
The downside though is that this one interaction might not have created such a strong investment on her part, and some other OLD dude she's talking to may get her attention.

Whatever, let's see how things play out.
I wouldn't even wait for her to reach out in this situation, I'd invite her out this weekend and right the wrongs of last week. Really nothing to lose here.
 

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I wouldn't even wait for her to reach out in this situation, I'd invite her out this weekend and right the wrongs of last week. Really nothing to lose here.
You think so?
I don't really mind texting her, it's not an ego thing, but many others on this thread seem to believe it's better for me to wait for her to reach out. So I'm still torn.
 

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You think so?
I don't really mind texting her, it's not an ego thing, but many others on this thread seem to believe it's better for me to wait for her to reach out. So I'm still torn.
At this point it’s a 50/50 deal. She’s either hurt/lost interest or she’s willing to give you another bedtime chance.
It’s the same 50/50 deal with your contact vs. no contact/wait for her reach out.
Do what you feel most comfortable with and accept whatever the result is…
 

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At this point it’s a 50/50 deal. She’s either hurt/lost interest or she’s willing to give you another bedtime chance.
It’s the same 50/50 deal with your contact vs. no contact/wait for her reach out.
Do what you feel most comfortable with and accept whatever the result is…
That's what I believe as well, thanks. I guess I'll wait a few days and then decide.
 
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