I can't think of a title for this...just read please. :yes:
This week I made a move on a girl that had a crush on me for the entire year. She had just broken up with her boyfriend, so I figured this was a decent time to start something casual. Things started, but then she left abruptly. I was stumped, angry, and for a while I was in more of a "vengeful" state than anything. Just one of many personality flaws, I suppose...
Anyways, the other night we put everything on the table and talked about it all in plain English (or as close as you can come with a female). She has been regularly hooking up with some other guy (a guy I've always considered to be a real obnoxious ****), and it seems that's the main problem. It isn't a serious relationship, but they are "seriously" hooking up...ie, ****ing. She still wanted to hang out and such...though I told her I honestly couldn't go out with her as a friend and sit there while she hooks up with this other guy.
I told her that I wasn't really going to just wait there, as though I were just waiting for her to be done with the ****...but that I was still waiting in some sense. In other words, I'm not just going to sit tight, but I am and will be single.
I then told her that I would miss her and I would see her around, and then I left.
Now:
Unless I truly did manage to turn her off to me (two of our mutual friends said that she thought I was too quiet), I think that she is still into me, but I need to get to know her more. I guess I'd need to give her a reason to stop ****ing the ****.
This is where I hit a brick wall though. I don't know how to build whatever type of connection she's probably looking for. I can talk to her and stuff, but I guess in the end it's all small talk. I played my cards in having her hang out with me, and then hooking up (though as I said, she left abruptly after about 10 minutes of making out).
I can't pretend that she's particularly important to me now...I barely know her. I can set my sights on someone else today and she'll just shift to the back of my mind. However, I do still want to be with her. This might sound a bit ****ed up, but...I feel that she's something I could and should have.
SHORT VERSION:
Pretty much all of my success and "game" has been on the short-term...ie. "one-night stand"-esque. I need to put longer-term game(a week or two?) on this girl, but don't know where to start. I've pretty much never been successful when it's not just a short-term hook up, and I'd like to start.
This week I made a move on a girl that had a crush on me for the entire year. She had just broken up with her boyfriend, so I figured this was a decent time to start something casual. Things started, but then she left abruptly. I was stumped, angry, and for a while I was in more of a "vengeful" state than anything. Just one of many personality flaws, I suppose...
Anyways, the other night we put everything on the table and talked about it all in plain English (or as close as you can come with a female). She has been regularly hooking up with some other guy (a guy I've always considered to be a real obnoxious ****), and it seems that's the main problem. It isn't a serious relationship, but they are "seriously" hooking up...ie, ****ing. She still wanted to hang out and such...though I told her I honestly couldn't go out with her as a friend and sit there while she hooks up with this other guy.
I told her that I wasn't really going to just wait there, as though I were just waiting for her to be done with the ****...but that I was still waiting in some sense. In other words, I'm not just going to sit tight, but I am and will be single.
I then told her that I would miss her and I would see her around, and then I left.
Now:
Unless I truly did manage to turn her off to me (two of our mutual friends said that she thought I was too quiet), I think that she is still into me, but I need to get to know her more. I guess I'd need to give her a reason to stop ****ing the ****.
This is where I hit a brick wall though. I don't know how to build whatever type of connection she's probably looking for. I can talk to her and stuff, but I guess in the end it's all small talk. I played my cards in having her hang out with me, and then hooking up (though as I said, she left abruptly after about 10 minutes of making out).
I can't pretend that she's particularly important to me now...I barely know her. I can set my sights on someone else today and she'll just shift to the back of my mind. However, I do still want to be with her. This might sound a bit ****ed up, but...I feel that she's something I could and should have.
SHORT VERSION:
Pretty much all of my success and "game" has been on the short-term...ie. "one-night stand"-esque. I need to put longer-term game(a week or two?) on this girl, but don't know where to start. I've pretty much never been successful when it's not just a short-term hook up, and I'd like to start.