Somebody Smack Me - BPD b**ch is back

[Supaman]

BPD women will keep your thoughts and emotions "glued" to them, in any way possible. Either you think a lot about her in a negative way and feel strong frustration/anger towards her, or you think a lot about her in a positive way and feel strong attraction/lust towards her. Any which way, they will illicit a strong response in your thoughts and emotions, which keeps you "glued" to them.

Consecutively, people often start to think a lot about the fact that they're "glued" to her so much ("WTF?! Why am I thinking about her so much? I can see no reason to do so, quite the contrary, I don't want to have anything to do with her, she's a poison! So then why do I feel "glued" to her? It makes no sense! Aaargh!!") They often become frustrated by the fact that they're seemingly not in control of their own thoughts and emotions, so they start to analyze themselves and the situation etc. Which just keeps the "glue" intact en reinforces it. In the end, there's one simple solution to the problem:

STOP THINKING ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION, STOP TALKING ABOUT IT, BANNISH EVERY THOUGHT AND EMOTION THAT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH THIS SITUATION OUT OF YOUR MIND.

People often figure that in order to get "unglued", they first have to find out the reason WHY they are "glued" to her. But that's a mistake, and the more you think about the reason why you're "glued" to her, the stronger the "glue" actually becomes. Just as a knot which becomes tighter the more you try to get out of it. There is no magical solution to getting "unglued" from a BPD cvnt, you just have to stop thinking about her. Same as when you try to quit smoking: you can read all kinds of books about special methods to quit smoking, read books about how nicotine affects your body and why that makes you addicted etc. etc. But in the end, it's just as simple as this: You simply don't buy cigarettes anymore, you simply say "no" when someone else offers you one and you simply think about something else as soon as you notice the urge to go smoke a cigarette. Tadaaaah, there's the magical trick!

So... You simply throw her out your facebook, you simply don't email, text or talk with her on the phone and you simply think about something else as soon as you feel the urge to think about her. Tadaaaah! And remember: Talking about her or anything related to her, reinforces the "glue". Indeed, by writing and reading in this thread, you are reinforcing the "glue"! So after reading this post, this thread should be off limits for you... Go on, get outta here, don't return and get "unglued"!!!

How about when you have kids together?

 

[ninja123]

Wow reading this thread pretty much describes my BPD ex. lol.

Anyway, stay away from her. You're like an alcoholic who has been sober for 5 years who is being tempted by a drink. You think you can manage it and "just have one," but you can't. Complete avoidance is the only way.

Here is proof: Go have a wank and then immediately afterward, think about her. Do you still want to see her? Hell no. You'll probably think "yeah... i definitely DON'T want to talk to her at all."

 

[5string]

Another thing to note is that BPD chicks will "mirror" your best qualities back at you. The result is that you may just fall in love with yourself. A fatal attraction technique. This is one of the reasons, I think, that alot of really good men seem to become attracted to BPD's. As a sidenote, I would speculate that there are alot more BPD girls out there than the statistics would indicate. Every guy on this forum should read up on personality disorders so that you will know what to look for out there in the world of dating/relationships.

 

[Miles28]

Many thanks to all for the replies, except for Comandante (while his post was definitely succinct, I found it less than instructive).

Squirrels, I'm not sure what penance would be appropriate here?

Anyway she's toast. As I said I just needed a smack round the head. Writing about it and reading the replies was kind of cathartic.

Die Hard - your brilliant post totally nailed it. You describe exactly the thinking pattern that I've been experiencing with this girl.

Kailex you're right - it's me that is the disaster waiting to happen. Your post was a big reality check for me. Thank you.

 

[jophil28]

Many thanks to all for the replies, except for Comandante (while his post was definitely succinct, I found it less than instructive).

Squirrels, I'm not sure what penance would be appropriate here?

Anyway she's toast. As I said I just needed a smack round the head. Writing about it and reading the replies was kind of cathartic.

Die Hard - your brilliant post totally nailed it. You describe exactly the thinking pattern that I've been experiencing with this girl.

Kailex you're right - it's me that is the disaster waiting to happen. Your post was a big reality check for me. Thank you.

AA has an expression called "stinkin' thinking' " .
It describes a collection of thoughts and feelings which a recovering alcoholic commonly experiences after a period of abstinence.

This thinkin' always emerges at a time when his life is returning to a state of normality, his health is improving, his finances are on the up and up, and a lot of his personal relationships are repaired .Life is good.

Because he feels so much better, and he is doing so much better, he starts to think that perhaps he was not an alcoholic after all, and that he is now strong enough and "together" enough to be able to drink socially, with safety. He can " handle it".
The memories of the 'good times' linger.

And so, many of those who are recovering well, go ahead and attempt so-called "controlled drinking" .
At this point he also has frequently heard and read that that 'controlled drinking' for a recovering addict is a delusion. It never succeeds.

Inspite of over 70 years of warnings and evidence from AA and the medical profession to the contrary, his ego and his will decide to try to return to occasional drinking.

Guess what happens ?

 

[GunShow85]

Still amazes me how similar all these girls are.

Great old thread