jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Lately, I have been immersed in music classes, taking up both piano and electric guitar, while also exploring art, painting, sculpture, and writing. While I enjoy these pursuits, they often feel quite solitary. Although they occasionally provide opportunities for interaction with others, most of the time I find myself working alone.
My goal, which I share with many of you here on the forum, is to improve my social skills. I am beginning to wonder if dedicating myself exclusively to these solitary pursuits is truly the best way to spend my time. Perhaps I could better direct my energies toward more social activities, such as dance, public speaking, comedy, drama classes, rock climbing, and board games. I want to ensure that my time is not spent in isolation but rather as an opportunity to interact with people.
I recently reconnected with a childhood friend who, once a very introverted person, has found his voice as a city councilman. Previously, he struggled to put two words together; now he has become a confident and charismatic individual.
I analyzed his transformation and found a simple explanation: his job requires constant interaction with others. He must address people's concerns, speak in public during meetings, and mediate conflicts. This has greatly expanded his vocabulary and improved his body language and diction. He has the opportunity to practice his social and communication skills every day.
Wealth is not only measured in financial terms; it also includes how work enriches us as individuals. Although there are challenges to face—such as dealing with difficult people and receiving criticism—confronting these situations promotes independence, assertiveness, and self-confidence. This leads us to consider which activities can enrich us as individuals and help us develop social skills.
I am a strong proponent of the rule of exposure: the more we are exposed to something, the better we become at it. This applies to both a city councilor and a musician. However, it is crucial to choose wisely how we "influence" ourselves each day.
What is the key question we should ask ourselves? What kind of person do we want to become? What activities should we incorporate into our daily lives? These choices will define who we are. We need to fill our minds with information aligned with our goals and filter out distractions—especially in modern times.
It is important to establish who we want to become and write a short text that we can modify and read every day to refine our identity. For example, here is what I have recently developed:
I want to become an independent person—both financially and emotionally—while being a family man. I want to be respected and know how to respect others; communicate clearly with correct diction and appropriate body language. I do not want to fear public speaking; on the contrary, I want to engage listeners with my story. I would like others to see me as a mature, responsible person who can be counted on at any time. But what is even more important is leaving a positive impression on those who interact with me: I would love for people to remember the pleasant moments spent together and look forward to seeing me again.
Based on these reflections, I aim to build my daily activities around these principles and filter the information that enters my mind in order to nourish my thoughts effectively. I am not ashamed to admit that I have wasted a lot of time due to negative feedback or my own insecurities; now I know that I can choose differently.
Reconnecting: What is the key question we should ask ourselves?
My goal, which I share with many of you here on the forum, is to improve my social skills. I am beginning to wonder if dedicating myself exclusively to these solitary pursuits is truly the best way to spend my time. Perhaps I could better direct my energies toward more social activities, such as dance, public speaking, comedy, drama classes, rock climbing, and board games. I want to ensure that my time is not spent in isolation but rather as an opportunity to interact with people.
I recently reconnected with a childhood friend who, once a very introverted person, has found his voice as a city councilman. Previously, he struggled to put two words together; now he has become a confident and charismatic individual.
I analyzed his transformation and found a simple explanation: his job requires constant interaction with others. He must address people's concerns, speak in public during meetings, and mediate conflicts. This has greatly expanded his vocabulary and improved his body language and diction. He has the opportunity to practice his social and communication skills every day.
Wealth is not only measured in financial terms; it also includes how work enriches us as individuals. Although there are challenges to face—such as dealing with difficult people and receiving criticism—confronting these situations promotes independence, assertiveness, and self-confidence. This leads us to consider which activities can enrich us as individuals and help us develop social skills.
I am a strong proponent of the rule of exposure: the more we are exposed to something, the better we become at it. This applies to both a city councilor and a musician. However, it is crucial to choose wisely how we "influence" ourselves each day.
What is the key question we should ask ourselves? What kind of person do we want to become? What activities should we incorporate into our daily lives? These choices will define who we are. We need to fill our minds with information aligned with our goals and filter out distractions—especially in modern times.
It is important to establish who we want to become and write a short text that we can modify and read every day to refine our identity. For example, here is what I have recently developed:
I want to become an independent person—both financially and emotionally—while being a family man. I want to be respected and know how to respect others; communicate clearly with correct diction and appropriate body language. I do not want to fear public speaking; on the contrary, I want to engage listeners with my story. I would like others to see me as a mature, responsible person who can be counted on at any time. But what is even more important is leaving a positive impression on those who interact with me: I would love for people to remember the pleasant moments spent together and look forward to seeing me again.
Based on these reflections, I aim to build my daily activities around these principles and filter the information that enters my mind in order to nourish my thoughts effectively. I am not ashamed to admit that I have wasted a lot of time due to negative feedback or my own insecurities; now I know that I can choose differently.
Reconnecting: What is the key question we should ask ourselves?
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