Nope. She said "no" and I wasn't going to change her mind that night. Anything more aggressive could've f**ked things up royally for me.
What's the likelihood I was too sexual, which she interpreted as "He's only interested in sex."? Mind you, we did only meet for drinks, and I only met her once before at a coffee shop. Because calling and texting two days after a great date doesn't strike me as needy/desperate.
If I don't hear back after a week, is calling/texting a bad idea? I won't be butthurt, just re-instigating contact.
If you wait a week to contact her, that's fine. I usually try to get women out 2-3 times before giving up. However, if she goes a week without contacting you, it isn't the best sign. In the meantime, pursue other women.
In my experience, yes, pursuing sex aggressively will lead some women to believe you only want sex. I think it's also how you're perceived by them though. I knew my last girlfriend for a few months before we got together, and she declined all of my first few attempts at getting her out for a drink. When we finally got together, she told me she thought I only wanted sex given the reputation she thought I had. One of my current FWBs also says this kind of stuff but in her case, she's right.
No means no, but if you have a woman alone and you try to escalate the situation, take two steps back, then go two steps forward. I will always try for sex a couple of times. I guess this behavior can be interpreted as aggressive, or like I only want sex, but pursuing intercourse aggressively (again, no does mean no), usually works out in my favor. You have to be smooth about it though, and not needy or creepy. Usually if a woman is alone at your place with you, she has thought about screwing you... no two ways about it. She may be concerned about how you see her if she gives it up easily, she might be having second thoughts, etc.
There was a really good article I read a very long time ago about being seen as a lover versus as a provider. Provider is more of a boyfriend role. Nothing wrong with that, but the article suggested making the woman see you as a lover (whom she'll fvck sooner and more like in-line with her nature of wanting to be fvcked like a slut) as opposed to someone that she sees more long-term potential with. It's funny because if you really like her, it's easier to transition into a more boyfriend role after you've given her great and kinky sex than it is to transition from the provider role to lover role.
If a woman really won't fvck me at my place or hers, then what I'll do is pull her shirt up (not off) and do the same to mine and lay on top of her so there's a lot of skin on skin contact. I'll lick her stomach and eventually try to take more of her clothing off.
I don't think you can be too aggressive as long as you're smooth about it. One girl wouldn't screw me the night of our first date and I literally whipped my penis out, unsolicited, and while she objected then, she called me the next day and I was inside of her within 18 hours of our first date.
Just be smooth and cool about it, she wants to fvck just as bad as you do.
This all said, women do have "fat days" and a whole list of insecurities (bloating, period, etc.) that may make her want to not have sex right then and there. A girl I dated a very long time ago wouldn't give it up the first night we made out for three plus hours. After questioning her about it a month later, she told me I had made a comment that I prefer shaved vaginas and that her's wasn't shaved as short as she thought I would have liked... just go with the flow man. Who knows why she hasn't responded. If a woman is into you, a lot of the man's actions that could be interpreted as neediness are forgiven and/or not picked up upon. My two cents, anyway.
I also think that if a woman likes you and she believes that you're only interested in sex, she'll still want to see you again and see what's actually up with you. I really don't think you can be too aggressive with women, regardless of what society wants you to believe. But, if she's been hurt or burned in the past, she may be more cautious with how freely she gives her body to you.
