Slicks Approach Journal

[Slick101]

Broke up with EX officially on DECEMBER 6 2009

A week later now.. I just miss her,,. Bothers me a lil bit inside...
This was recommended by many people to star this Journal So here it iz:


Went out last night to a club 4 people including me...
Wasnt confident with the way I was dressed.. My hair was down and flat (no style)... and so on...

I bought a drink to WARM MYSELF UP. and Start an approach:

I was shy to go up to girls.. I was just dancing in the middle of crows by myself.. Why my boys were watching me and other chicks... 2 of them know the game but also shy to approach... I dont have a method I follow...

Mystery Method is the method I used to pick up a HB 8.5 which was my girl for 2 years until we broke up...

I tried Bad-BoY direct.. it worked with confidence... NOW!!.. its just natural What comes to mind first style:

I tried approaching a chick at dance floor to grab her hand and spin her.. But she turned around and started walking away.. Then 30 min later I approached a HB 9

ME: Hey Im actually gay so dont think I want to hit on you, I juss have a question?
HER: (she looked at me all wierd and walked away)


After all this ... My confidence dropped and we went to a strip club next door.. where I had much more fun and SIK SUCCESS!

HB 9.5 (stripper) was walking through with some blonde Korean ugly 6.5 chick

I STOPPED HER!!

ME: Grabbed her hand,, while leaning on a wall.. I like white girl,, Give me a spin..
HER: She gave me one and laughed... She said what nationality are you?
ME: Russian and you?
HER: Italian And Irish
ME: (my friend was occupying the korean chick this whole time) ... I took her to the side and spoke to her about where shes from and all and her name...
HER: My name is Carmen..
ME: After more DHVing, she was opening up to me telling me how she moved to NYC 2 weeks ago... After that she told me
HER: All business aside My real name is Shelby...
ME: I did the CUBE on her... She was amazed and I said to her after .. "You have no clue what I would do with you in bed"
HER: she started laughing and pushed me a lil...
ME: You look very beautiful, but looks are very common... I see that you have even a much more beautiful personality... You have been her for 2 weeks.. You havent seen anything... I want to take you out this upcoming week and show you the greatest time of your life...
HER: Sure,... gave me her number and I called her right there...
ME: I made her stay to talk for another 10 min,, Until she was called to the strip pole to dance...
HER: cheer for me..
ME: Give me a kiss... She kissed me 2wice and left

I WAS EXCITED PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY! AND I COMPLETELY FORGOT ABOUT MY GIRL!!

I NEVER TIPPED HER,, SHE NEVER ASKED ME TO GO FOR A LAP DANCE WITH HER I FELT LIKE I WAS CONNECTING WITH HER ON A DIFF LEVEL..

AFTER SHE DANCED SHE CAME BACK AND I APPLAUDED HER..

Me: so when is the best day for you next week?
HER: Tuesday or thursday
ME: ok, Tuesday were gonna go out,,
HER: Yes we will...
ME: I have to go but I will ttyl
HER: call mee BYE!

..........................

Today I texted her at 2 PM (my friend left the club after me so he saw her bust her ass on the floor when she left) LOL


ME: The cube didnt predict that you would bust your ass last night now did it?
HER: (responded an hour later).. No I am ashamed forever now
ME: (30 min later)... Its ok I wont use that against you... much.. lol.. I need to teach you how to dance
HER: never responded to that so I retexted 2 hours later
ME: something occured to me at acting auditions today (i was bull****ing)...Have you ever done a photo shoot?
HER: Well a lil back in Florida
ME: I know someone that can use you for a certain flick,,, say I call you around 9 and we will talk
HER: HAHA ok.. Call me around 8 if you can. I am going out later. HA
ME: 8 15 it is

I CALLED AT 8 30 She didnt answer NOR CALL ME BACK... MAYBE SHES OUT>>>

I wanna get this chick

WHAT YOU GUYS THINK??

 

[thegoodstuff]

I think you're looking to get an STD here.

Try this:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/meetwomen.htm

I think you're acting desperate, and you're looking in the wrong places for quality. Join a club sport or something. A pole dancer? Come on.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Its very possible to bang strippers.... however in this situation your nothing mroe than a source of attention to her. Her main job at the club is to pull in $$$$$, if its slow she'll spend more time with customers she feels comfortable around.

However expecting her to show up on a date outside the club is not gonna happen in this situation.

You came off too eager and stamped it by texting her already!!!

This girl will text with you here and there, but you'll never see her again unless she's sitting in your lap at the club.




PIMP

 

[drak_ool]

I WAS EXCITED PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY! AND I COMPLETELY FORGOT ABOUT MY GIRL!!

there you go Slick! That s the feeling i'm talkign about, that s why i kept telling you to go out and sarge! So the good news is now you're back in the game, back to interacting with girls, and soon you'll be getting some poonani!

The not so good news is this:

I think you're acting desperate, and you're looking in the wrong places for quality

Generally speaking, you have this tendency of putting women on pedestals. This girl is a stripper for god's sake! If you think your ex had problems, or the whacky coke-hor models, how about this one? It's not easy to change this mindset that has been engrained in our brain by the media since we were born. Remember that for every hot girl you think is a princess, there is at least one guy out there who is sick and tired of her shyt. But to become that guy, she needs to look up to you, not the other way around. Women will let MEN fvck them, not admirers. Those they only keep around for drama/entertainment.

Specific red flags:
- "Hey Im actually gay so dont think I want to hit on you, I juss have a question?" This could be an ok line later in the convo, depending on how you play it, but it's not a good opener. This would work if you were hitting on her aggressively and she reacted to that, then you throw the whole "i m actually gay ... "

- When you're trying to set up that date you said "what day works out better for you?". That's a huge dlv, never do that with women! It sends them 2 messages: 1. that you don't have much going on in your life, no important meetings, and especially no dates with other chicks planned... 2. that even if you have some minor commitments, you are willing to throw everything out of the window to accomodate a random girl you just met an hour ago. Overall it reeks of desperation.
Instead, pick a date and time that works for you. If she's interested, and the timing doesn't work for her, she'll counter-offer. Don't accept her first counter offer, at least not right off the bat. Make her understand that your time is valuable.

- Texting right away is always a no-no when you initiate it. When the girl initiates it, keep it short and sweet as well because having a txt convo at 3am after you got home from a night out again shows that you have no other women in your life.

Overall Advice: you're doing good, just going out there and having fun. Having been in a relationship for a while, it's normal that your gaming skills are kinda rusty, so just ease yourself back into it. As far as your approach anxiety: you're setting yourself up for failure. If you have limited game and little confidence, what makes you think you can pull an HB10? Instead, walk into a bar/club and approach just any decent looking girl, chat her up, build up your momentum, then you can transition to hotter girls once you've built up your confidence. And if it still doesn't work, go back to gaming less attractive girls until you sharpen up your skills.

Most importantly, though, remember that it's a numbers' game. The more girls you will meet, the less you will care about every single one and the less you will be inclined to put any one of them on a pedestal.

All in all it's a good start Slick!

 

[Slick101]

there you go Slick! That s the feeling i'm talkign about, that s why i kept telling you to go out and sarge! So the good news is now you're back in the game, back to interacting with girls, and soon you'll be getting some poonani!

The not so good news is this:



Generally speaking, you have this tendency of putting women on pedestals. This girl is a stripper for god's sake! If you think your ex had problems, or the whacky coke-hor models, how about this one? It's not easy to change this mindset that has been engrained in our brain by the media since we were born. Remember that for every hot girl you think is a princess, there is at least one guy out there who is sick and tired of her shyt. But to become that guy, she needs to look up to you, not the other way around. Women will let MEN fvck them, not admirers. Those they only keep around for drama/entertainment.

Specific red flags:
- "Hey Im actually gay so dont think I want to hit on you, I juss have a question?" This could be an ok line later in the convo, depending on how you play it, but it's not a good opener. This would work if you were hitting on her aggressively and she reacted to that, then you throw the whole "i m actually gay ... "

- When you're trying to set up that date you said "what day works out better for you?". That's a huge dlv, never do that with women! It sends them 2 messages: 1. that you don't have much going on in your life, no important meetings, and especially no dates with other chicks planned... 2. that even if you have some minor commitments, you are willing to throw everything out of the window to accomodate a random girl you just met an hour ago. Overall it reeks of desperation.
Instead, pick a date and time that works for you. If she's interested, and the timing doesn't work for her, she'll counter-offer. Don't accept her first counter offer, at least not right off the bat. Make her understand that your time is valuable.

- Texting right away is always a no-no when you initiate it. When the girl initiates it, keep it short and sweet as well because having a txt convo at 3am after you got home from a night out again shows that you have no other women in your life.

Overall Advice: you're doing good, just going out there and having fun. Having been in a relationship for a while, it's normal that your gaming skills are kinda rusty, so just ease yourself back into it. As far as your approach anxiety: you're setting yourself up for failure. If you have limited game and little confidence, what makes you think you can pull an HB10? Instead, walk into a bar/club and approach just any decent looking girl, chat her up, build up your momentum, then you can transition to hotter girls once you've built up your confidence. And if it still doesn't work, go back to gaming less attractive girls until you sharpen up your skills.

Most importantly, though, remember that it's a numbers' game. The more girls you will meet, the less you will care about every single one and the less you will be inclined to put any one of them on a pedestal.

All in all it's a good start Slick!

I didnt text her at 3 AM... I texted her the next day in the afternoon...

When I said what days are u off.. She said tusday thursday sat sun..

I said well Tuesday might work... IDK about the other days..

Im thinking about texting her at around 5 PM saying:

ME: Last night I was busy, I went out to an underground dance party in the city... What did you end up doing?

HER: (when she replies with anything)

ME: (I comment on her response).. since your next to ur phone ill call u in 5 min so I can tell you about tommrow.. so pick up dummy LOL

Then i will call her initiate an opener... talk about myself.. DHV.. connect with deep rapport.. hopefully close her for tommrow...

What you guys think?

 

[drak_ool]

I misread your post, thougth you said 2am... But my point is still valid, don't txt a girl the next day unless you are under a time constraint (leaving town soon or something)

a tip i got from a girl once: never call without leaving a voicemail. Sometimes call don't get through, or something else happens and the girl will never know you called, while you're wondering why you're not hearing back from her. Did you leave one? If the answer is yes, then stop contacting her for now. If she is interested, she will contact you, if not forget about her.

If you did not leave a voicemail, I would txt her tomorrow, to reconfirm. Just keep it short and business like, after all she did flake on you/did not call you back once.

Under any circumstances, I would not try to contact her 2 days straight, especially after she did not pick up or call you back last night.

Just curious: have you read the DJ bible? have you looked at this thread before? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I didnt text her at 3 AM... I texted her the next day in the afternoon...

Still waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too soon, given the fact that she's a stripper and you were with her until the wee hours of the morning.


I said well Tuesday might work... IDK about the other days..

Don't say things like "might" "maybe" etc, be firm and confident.

Im thinking about texting her at around 5 PM saying:

The fact that your thinking of texting her at a set time and planning out what your gonna say is very AFC!! Bottom line is conversations are spontaneous, you can't plan them ahead of time.

ME: Last night I was busy, I went out to an underground dance party in the city... What did you end up doing?

Don't say this, it shows that your trying too hard. No need to tell her what you were doing...

HER: (when she replies with anything)

ME: (I comment on her response).. since your next to ur phone ill call u in 5 min so I can tell you about tommrow.. so pick up dummy LOL

Again this is bad, it tells her you have a fear of her not answering her phone. A DJ would call whenever he feels like it, if she answers great, if she doesn't he wouldnt care and would follow up with other girls.

The point is you want to communicate that you don't need her and she's lucky to be talking with you. Right now, its the other way around, your just another customer, who's kissin her @ss.

Then i will call her initiate an opener... talk about myself.. DHV.. connect with deep rapport.. hopefully close her for tommrow...

Tough to do when you've already DLV through all the texts. Your putting too much stock in this STRIPPER!!! Go meet more girls.


What you guys think?

PIMP

 

[Slick101]

lol this quote is golden, im gonna include it in my signature.
best approach ever!

I don't mean to be rude but you have no game. I think you should go and get your girl back. But then again your AFCness is what turned her off from you in the first place. In combination with that you have had Oneitis for the longest time so now that you are out on the field you have no clue what to do. Getting a strippers number excited you? TSK TSK. You should have sarged when you were in your relationship.

Why?

1. it would have saved ur relationship as u wouldnt have been as needy
2. the two years you spent in your relationship you could have been polishing up your game.


Now not only are you are lonely, your game is rusty, and AFCness all over you.
As more and more girls reject you, you will start to miss your girl again.
Go get ur girl back, cuz ur not gonna be getting one anytime soon with this approach.

Thanks for your help.... but then again you didnt help me.... what were u trying to convey with ur post... yea im not with my girl..2 years i became an afc and i am rusty... and yes i was needy ur right...

but my mindset is still strong and i am at least trying... so if u got any further comments for me at least give advice.. not stupididty

 

[Slick101]

so wtf should i do... try again or forget her?... what would be the best way to play this game with her?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

so wtf should i do... try again or forget her?... what would be the best way to play this game with her?

Stop focusing on the stripper so much bro.

She's use to guys gawking at her and the attention that comes with her being naked in front of strangers.

I'd lay off for 3-4 days if I were you. You already called the other night and she said she'd be available but she didn't answer or call you back. Now if you call again, your clearly chasing and it makes you look unattractive.

Go meet more girls, hang with your friends you've lost contact with when you were in a relationship.

Its very possible to bang strippers, but much like any other girl, they will make it easy for you to do so if they want it. When they're after attention, you'll get what your running into now.

Keep your head up and keep swinging, you can only get better each time.




PIMP

 

[drak_ool]

He pretty much answered your question ^^^

At this point you should be focusing on getting comfortable at approaching girls. You shouldn't focus on the 1st girl(s) that you meet. Instead get better at approaching until you find a girl who shows you a high IL. It's really just a matter of practice.

Right now you have to reprogram your mind into "approach mode": no target is off limits. Talk to girls on the street, talk to girls who work in malls, go to the beach, etc. Don't rely entirely on night game. In fact you'll find that during the game a lot of girls are more approachable. Another benefit: you will not pick up a nasty looking girl during the day, because you have no beer goggles and there's plenty of light!

it's a win-win situation

 

[Slick101]

GOT IT!...

Next approach will be tommrow... Im thinking of putting together a couple of openers and using them..

Any suggestion of field tested openers...

I also want to follow a diff method.. Im thinking about Swingcat?

 

[pharoah1]

I think you're looking to get an STD here.

Try this:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/meetwomen.htm

hey thegoodstuff, I read the article and I see where it's going with it. These places have tons of single ladies minus the STD.But when it comes to online dating, I thought that option was for desperate people.

 

[Slick101]

Forget the Stripper..

i gav her a call.. left a message.. she never responded...

Looking for powerful approach next timee

So Dig in

 

[drak_ool]

Any suggestion of field tested openers...

I also want to follow a diff method.. Im thinking about Swingcat?

I would suggest not to sue field tested openers, especially not in a city like nyc, which is beyond oversarged. Instead rely on situational openers.

For example you see a pretty girl wearing a heavy coat. Look her in the eye, make eye contact, smile and then attack: "hey that's a sexy coat you're wearing! aren't you a little cold though?" You get a good response from her then you can trasition with something like "so do you always choose sexy over comfortable? bla bla bla"

By this point either she engages in superficial convo with you, or you move on. Keep it short, tell her you have to go but you would like to continue the convo over a cup of coffee or a drink. Get the number, call her phone right away so she has yours (a lot of girls don't pick up unknown #s) and eject.

Give credit to Paul Jenka for this method. He claims he gets 60-80 numbers a week using this tactic. A huge benefit of playing the numbers' game is that it takes a LOT of pressure off your game. You don't care anymore if you make "mistakes" with women on dates, when you got 10 other girls lined up. And since you have so many options, you will never sound needy. Women can smell this, there's really no way of faking it.

In your situation, for example, if you had met 10 girls after that stripper (that's only 2-3 girls a day, not really that hard to pull), do you think you would have called her again? of course not, she'd just be a distant memory.

 

[Slick101]

Well... I am going to the gym right now... lets see what I can pull

 

[Slick101]

OK!

3 Girls Picked up!

CHRISTMAS PARTY

APPROACH #1 HB 8.0 Red shirt, Black pants, Shot-girl, School Teacher look (glasses)

ME: Hey, I need a female Opinion on something, Friend just broke up with his girl 3 weeks ago, He didnt contact her, 2 weeks later she emails him the reasons of why they broke up and how she still loves him.. What do you think he should do?
HER: FVCK HER!!... Forget her and move on.. He doesnt need her anymore, I dont understand why girls do this..
ME: I know.. HA!!...I like your way of thinking.. You by the way look stunning... I like your school teacher look its sexy...
HER: HAHA THANKSS bla bla

After 20 min of talking I got her number and told her I wanna take her out... I stayted for another 5 min and left

I texted her 3 days later...

ME: How was ur christmas?
HER: Great.. I was with my BF.. how was urs?
ME: awesome.. I was skiing,,

BACK AND FORTH..

ME: Look I am busy, I will call you later on in the week...
HER: OK

Today I texted her

ME: Too much texting Tiff.. I hate the phone in general.. How about I call u in the afternoon wen Im not busy..Be prepared for a crazy conversation
HER:I actually probably shouldnt have given you my number to begin with. I dont think my BF would appreciate it if he knew I did that
ME:Since when was friendship a crime?.. My GF understands this..
HER: Ur right.. But mine unfortunately doesnt.. Of BTW.. I never stored your name.. so i have u as ?.. Which also doesnt help
ME: LMFAO.. Magician.. but u can store me as Slick101 look if ur bf is jelous or doesnt approve of soemtbing i understand.. i juss thought u were a fun person
HER:Ur right I am... Screw him!... hahahaha
ME: LOL... thats the spirit.. Look I cant text anymore.. I will speak to u in afternoon u funny tiffany.. hahaha
HER: mkay

I texted her later saying

ME: Call u in 10 min
HER: just got to work.. Im turning of my phoe... tommorow would be better..

I DIDNT ANSWER!!

APPROACH #2 HB 8.0 ( blonde, nice legs, Lithuanian)

Juss basically grabbed her and started dancing with her.. I dont really rememebr how it went down.. But I got her # by showing alot of DHVS and what not texted her 2 days later

ME: Hi (her name) liking NYC?
HER: yup who is dis?
ME: The professional Dancer Who piked you up... Physically lol
HER: The magician!!?? LOL.. How are you?
ME: HAHA Im great going skiing you?
HER: Cool You should invite my friend.. She wants to do that..Im good,, and yea.. You are a really good dancer
ME:HAHA Maybe we can all goo.. Im about to start work.. Ill hit u up later

I CALLED HER THE NEXT DAY!

HER: Hey, soory missed your call... How was work?> and theres no way im going skiing.. EVER!!
ME: Its ok.. Im playing scrabble now for money, and guess whos winning?
HER: lol im guessing you
ME:You know the deal.. we are coming back sunday.. r u doing anything nice over the weekend?
HER: hanging with frriends
ME: When I come back. Me you and ur friend and my friend will all hang out..I will plan soemthing extra-ordinary for us
HER: Hey I think, I might have been sending u the wrong message. I do that alot, I have a BF, and ur a reall cool guy, and I would love to be friends with you
ME: Only friends,... With benefits
HER: LOL Im not a cheater
ME: Neither am I,, but who said we cant have fun wihtout anyone knowing
HER: Thats what cheaters say, I could never do that Im a good person, I belive in karma. I kinda feel bad for ur future GF.
ME: How do you know thats what cheaters say>
HER: Thats what I would say if I was a cheater. Thats giving u stupid excuse to cheat.
ME: (Her name).. You got the wrong Idea..Im not asking u to cheat,, I hope u and ur BF make it great together in the future.. All i said was me you and my friend and ur friend should hang out.. Y you think i wanna Fvck you.. We can have fun without Pusy this time

SHE NEVER ANSWERED BACK W/E!! LOLLL

APPROACH #3.. HB 8.0 (spanish)

DANCED WITH HER SAME THING I DONT REMEBER!!
TExting back and forth.. I got her on the phone but it was too loud and I said call me back.. this was today.. she said she will But never did YET!!

...

I went to the gym and saw a chick I used to mess around with,, but never actually hooked up with..

HB 9.0

I spoke to her.. She said give me ur number... (she got a new phone and doesnt remeber her #) She memorized my # and said she would call when she got home..

She never did... I guess the forgot the Number LOL

But My approaches were allright I woould say.. .. But getting them on the phone is hard... And especially a date.. I dont understand why all these girls flake on meee

I went to the mall today there were 100000000 BABES!!!!

I approached a HB 9.0 (peroxide blonde hair sick body)

ME: is your hair real?

She kept wwalking didnt even stop.. (with a bVtchy attitude)

I came back up to her and touched her and said I LOVEEE YOUR ATTITUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And left..

She made me feel a lil DOWN.. I dint approached anymore...

I started to miss my EX GF that I broke up with 3 weeks agoo... Its like I cant succeed anymore... You knowww

 

[Neurosponge]

Hey man you're doing great, don't get down cuz of one btchy fake blonde.

I'm no expert, but when you get those numbers, maybe the best idea is to call them after 2-3 days, rather than text and tell them "I'll call you." Also, you have to simply get more and more numbers because a lot of chicks flake a lot of the time. If you don't have significant attraction by the time you # close, I think she'll flake most likley

 

[seano99]

hey man you're doing better now. approach #1 was awesomely played. approach 2 was funny as when u ended it with "We can have fun without Pusy this time".

just enjoy what you're doing and results will come, just dont let yourself get down if you get a b1tchy blonde. it's funny how you gave her sh1t for her hair haha. keep it up man i can see much improvement since the stripper.

 

[PlaysToWin]

Suggestion: The next few girls you get the numbers of, ban yourself from texting them to see how that works out.