Slicks Approach Journal

[macallik]

Good stuff man, nice to see someone out there on the grind even when things aren't doing well.

First off, Frankie says Relax man. It looks like you are letting the rejection get to you a little after you chased the chick down in the mall to give her a sarcastic comment. It didn't make you look better and it didn't make her feel worse. It was.... pointless. Ignore what the gspwarrior has to say, he picks up dudes from gay bars.

If chicks are all like 'I got a boyfriend' whenever you call, I think they either forgot about why they gave you their number or they were not 'into' you enough. I think that you might need to get more rapport/attraction so that they are waiting by the phone for you to call instead of answering the text like, "umm who is this"

One other thing that might work calling/texting a little sooner, like the next day. I've been doing the 2-3 day wait (when I didn't drunkenly text the same night) in my journal it has been pretty fruitless.

My reasoning is that if you are in places like the Bronx, competition is heavy. I'm sure you are aware how MANY guys get at a girl in a daily basis in a spot like that. Here in Chicago, I see guys on the streets hollering at chicks 24/7 and don't even get me started on the competition in the club.

The 2-3 day wait might work in the small city or when she is waiting by the phone because you two clicked more than she has clicked with anyone before, but if you just grinded on her a bit or grabbed her number after a quick two minute conversation, you NEED to pull the trigger quicker. With each passing minute you become just 'that guy she gave her number to'. Strike while the iron is hot

 

[Pimp-sicle]

dude i've been sarging for 6 months and been out every thursday,friday, saturday.

I've heard the same stories that you have almost a million times.
I can tell you one thing. It doesn't get any better. It only gets worse. And right now what you are going through I can relate.

Ive approached over 3000 chicks in the past 6 months. 0 day 2s.
I can tell u that rejection will only sting worse if you keep trying.

keep it up, these girls love to play games, they want to get u all excited just to let you down, its their sick way of tormenting u.

P.S. why do u considered those 3 a pick up, alll u did was get their number and they dont respond to u anymore and they claim to have a bf

Oh I see how it is.... since you've approach X amount of girls in the past 6 months and haven't had success, then EVERYONE will go through the same thing? Dude, your attitude SUCKS!!!! And don't come in here and bring Slick down since you haven't taken the time to understand where your going wrong.

The funny thing about guys who get frustrated with approaching is most of them never realize that they keep making the same mistake OVER AND OVER AND OVER again!

Cold approaches work; but your not setting them up right and your definitely doing something wrong during the initial conversation.





PIMP

 

[drak_ool]

the gspwarrior is a loser, don't worry about him Slick.

It's very important to use the increasing number of approaches to improve your game. You see what works and drop what doesn't. But in the end, it's still a numbers' game. Try to aim for something like 10-20 new numbers a week.

Macalik's got a good point about the 2-3 days "rule". A hot girl in a big town will get approached by another 100 guys by the time you call her. Unless you built a lot of rapport with her in the initial interaction, she's already forgot about you by the time you txt her.

What i do is hint at a future meeting during the initial interaction ("let's grab some coffe/a drink sometime next week"). If i feel like I build up a good rapport with her and she is attracted to me I'll wait a couple days. If not I'll txt her the next day. If she responds I'll repeat the offer. If she comes up with an excuse and no counter offer, i forget about her. Sometimes she'll txt you later on with a counter offer, or you'll never hear from her again.

Stop worrying about girls rejecting you and def stop trying to figure out why they flake so often. It might not have anything to do with you. If EVERY girl flakes on you or stops contacting you, it means you're not building enough attraction at the initial stage. But right now it's too early to tell. Give it a few more weeks of hardcore sarging.

One mistake you keep making: the "i'll call you in 10 min line." Big no-no, it makes you look desperate to talk to her. Either you call her out of the blue, if she doesn't pick up you leave a quick message saying your name and telling her to call you back. That's it! Never try to set up a date with a voicemail. Or you set something up by txt.

 

[Slick101]

ok, let him keep trying, and we will see who is right

Im a recovering AFC.. I was able to pick up a girl, get her number and then set up a date before my EX... I know I can do it.. I just gota get out there and field test stuff.. I think your doing soemthing wrong if you been approaching 6 months without a lay...