My sister has been with a guy for a few years now and lately he's getting physically abusive with her. She showed up at my parents house a few nights ago with one eye swollen shut and the other with a shiner. I know she should leave this dude and I'm sure she bares some responsibility for what led to the abuse (she has big dog syndrome) but she is my sister.
I know how I want to handle this but I'm worried that if I go have a "talk" with this guy that he's going to take it out on her when I'm not around. Have any of you ever dealt with this and if so what would you do ?
Well, here's my theory on situations like this. I believe that if a woman DOES NOT WANT TO BE with a dude, she will REMOVE HERSELF from the situation. Other than the situation of a girl being physically kidnapped and hog-tied in the back seat of a car, if a woman wants to leave....she will leave.
This might be an extreme example, but hey, remember when you were an AFC? Remember when you were a Nerd? Remember when women didn't like you, what did they do? They removed themselves and YOU from around them, now didn't they? And if they removed themselves from around you and you kept following her regardless, what did she immediately do? She called the police, called her boys to come kick your a.ss, etc., right?
Okay, so I just don't buy the bullshyt about a girl being the "victim" of any type of abuse from her "man" that she doesn't like. If a girl wants to leave, she will leave. If a girl doesn't want a guy around, SHE will make sure his a.ss gets removed.
So what's the bottom line? Let him keep beating her a.ss and mind your own business. Sure, it's your sister but guess what, your sister is also a woman and most women LOVE these stupid, ultra-violent a.ss men, so mind your own business or pull up a chair with a bag of popcorn and watch the "fight".
I know that's harsh, but it's the truth. You going over there to "confront him" and remove him from the house will do nothing, because the bytch will bring him BACK within a week.