Sisters BF getting physically violent

[Southbound29]

My sister has been with a guy for a few years now and lately he's getting physically abusive with her. She showed up at my parents house a few nights ago with one eye swollen shut and the other with a shiner. I know she should leave this dude and I'm sure she bares some responsibility for what led to the abuse (she has big dog syndrome) but she is my sister.

I know how I want to handle this but I'm worried that if I go have a "talk" with this guy that he's going to take it out on her when I'm not around. Have any of you ever dealt with this and if so what would you do ?

 

[SeymourCake]

Get the police involved. Don't get in the mess.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Not if you give him that Sonny Corleone treatment.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Maybe your sister deserved it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Ask him to teach you the moves, he clearly knows what he is doing after achieving such damage.

What kind of answer do you expect apart than "inform the police"?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

I'd give him a warning. Tell him next time he does it the police will get involved. Everyone gets what they allow. Your sister allows him to hit her so he continues to do so. Now, I've shook a girl before and I've chocked one as well briefly but it's not worth it and I know I shouldn't have touched them. I should have just walked away from the situation.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Maybe your sister deserved it.

Ok, sure, but no one is without sin. Let's throw the boyfriend down a few flights of steps and maybe through a window or two, and we'll call it even.

 

[WanderingMan]

Have you tried talking....to your sister?

 

[Desdinova]

You know I have to agree with LiveFree. After reading this thread and comparing it to the one where a random girl in the bar slugged the guy....the reactions for some people are completely different.

There are some real white knights here.

Questioning if the woman deserved it pops into my mind much more often these days. Women will go crying about spousal abuse after getting in her husband's face and intimidating him to hit her. My ex-wife tried doing that to me and all I did was laugh at how pathetic she was.

My mother has repeatedly complained about how her first husband treated her; beating the piss out of her, pulling her hair, etc etc. With the way my mother behaves, it's likely that she deserved everything she got.

Unless there's something psychologically wrong with the man, I can't see the average Joe beating the hell out of a woman simply because he likes to beat up women. I think the "coward" label gets far too quickly thrown on men who have beaten their gf/wife without questioning what she did to deserve the ass whooping.

Although I don't condone hitting a woman, I can certainly understand why it happens.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I'm sure she bares some responsibility for what led to the abuse (she has big dog syndrome)

Case closed.

 

[speed dawg]

Yeaaah....you might want to ask your sister why she keeps going back to him.

If she avoids him, and he pursues her, then it might be time to crack his head or call the police (depending on how much damage he can cause vs. you). But until that point, you're out of luck.

 

[cola]

I can understand see your sister getting out of line, said guy losing his cool and slapping her once.
However a swollen eye and a shiner means he punched her, probably twice.

No brainer for me, whip his ass! Take pics first of your sisters face to use in court for the assault charge.

 

[LiveFreeX]

You don't know what happened, maybe she burned his soup.

 

[backbreaker]

My sister, who is 16, about a year ago now that she's dating and stuff I had to sit here down and explain to her that because i'm her older, and only brother, i'm pretty much obligated to beat anyone's ass who puts their hands on you, and you don't want me to to go jail and throw away every thing i've done, so please don't put me in that situation. Because to me she's just like my kids, she's 16 i'[m 32. If a dude puts his hands on my sister i'm putting my foot in his ass.


so don't date dudes who are violent and don't do **** that makes a dude want to be violent with you

 

[Tenacity]

My sister has been with a guy for a few years now and lately he's getting physically abusive with her. She showed up at my parents house a few nights ago with one eye swollen shut and the other with a shiner. I know she should leave this dude and I'm sure she bares some responsibility for what led to the abuse (she has big dog syndrome) but she is my sister.

I know how I want to handle this but I'm worried that if I go have a "talk" with this guy that he's going to take it out on her when I'm not around. Have any of you ever dealt with this and if so what would you do ?

Well, here's my theory on situations like this. I believe that if a woman DOES NOT WANT TO BE with a dude, she will REMOVE HERSELF from the situation. Other than the situation of a girl being physically kidnapped and hog-tied in the back seat of a car, if a woman wants to leave....she will leave.

This might be an extreme example, but hey, remember when you were an AFC? Remember when you were a Nerd? Remember when women didn't like you, what did they do? They removed themselves and YOU from around them, now didn't they? And if they removed themselves from around you and you kept following her regardless, what did she immediately do? She called the police, called her boys to come kick your a.ss, etc., right?

Okay, so I just don't buy the bullshyt about a girl being the "victim" of any type of abuse from her "man" that she doesn't like. If a girl wants to leave, she will leave. If a girl doesn't want a guy around, SHE will make sure his a.ss gets removed.

So what's the bottom line? Let him keep beating her a.ss and mind your own business. Sure, it's your sister but guess what, your sister is also a woman and most women LOVE these stupid, ultra-violent a.ss men, so mind your own business or pull up a chair with a bag of popcorn and watch the "fight".

I know that's harsh, but it's the truth. You going over there to "confront him" and remove him from the house will do nothing, because the bytch will bring him BACK within a week.