David DeAngelo refers to it as "calling her out on her sh!t", Mystery refers to it as "the freeze out" and many DJs and PUAs promote this idea of standing up to a girl when she shows any signs of disrespect, disinterest or cool behaviour.
The problem is, many of us can't differentiate between addressing the problem in a mature fashion and throwing a tantrum.
In the former instance, you would just say "Look, I think we need to talk about a few things" and then you address what's bothering you and say how disrespectful you find it. You can even add that you're disappointed in her or that you won't stand for it if it continues.
In the latter instance, a guy will go into spoilt brat mode. He'll ignore her and hope she comes chasing, asking him what's wrong. He'll play mind games, pretend he's into someone else, cancel plans or even call her bluff and dump her when he doesn't get his own way.
Another thing many guys do is get touchy and defensive. If a girl cancels plans or doesn't reply to texts etc, he feels this need to defend his ego and will react by saying something sarcastic or making ultimatums.
A guy who does this will often convince himself he's standing his ground and taking no sh!t. He claims he is the prize and women should bow down to him, but what she sees is pathetic attention seeking behaviour and a guy who is deeply insecure.
Unfortunately, I've been guilty of throwing these tantrums many times before and it has cost me big! In one instance a girl I was seeing "liked" another guys Facebook photo, so I deleted her from Facebook and told her I won't stand for it. That girl was really into me until that point, but I just showed her a jealous and posessive side that put her off for good. More recently, my (now ex) girlfriend asked me for some space while she dealt with some genuine issues in her life. Instead of granting her the space and being cool with it, I overreacted and dumped her. Of course, I was hoping she'd chase me and reassure me, but she called my bluff and I lost someone I cared about deeply. Worse still, I left her with a last impression of me as a sulky brat.
Just heed this advice and know the difference between addressing disrespectful behaviour calmly and directly and throwing a tantrum.
The problem is, many of us can't differentiate between addressing the problem in a mature fashion and throwing a tantrum.
In the former instance, you would just say "Look, I think we need to talk about a few things" and then you address what's bothering you and say how disrespectful you find it. You can even add that you're disappointed in her or that you won't stand for it if it continues.
In the latter instance, a guy will go into spoilt brat mode. He'll ignore her and hope she comes chasing, asking him what's wrong. He'll play mind games, pretend he's into someone else, cancel plans or even call her bluff and dump her when he doesn't get his own way.
Another thing many guys do is get touchy and defensive. If a girl cancels plans or doesn't reply to texts etc, he feels this need to defend his ego and will react by saying something sarcastic or making ultimatums.
A guy who does this will often convince himself he's standing his ground and taking no sh!t. He claims he is the prize and women should bow down to him, but what she sees is pathetic attention seeking behaviour and a guy who is deeply insecure.
Unfortunately, I've been guilty of throwing these tantrums many times before and it has cost me big! In one instance a girl I was seeing "liked" another guys Facebook photo, so I deleted her from Facebook and told her I won't stand for it. That girl was really into me until that point, but I just showed her a jealous and posessive side that put her off for good. More recently, my (now ex) girlfriend asked me for some space while she dealt with some genuine issues in her life. Instead of granting her the space and being cool with it, I overreacted and dumped her. Of course, I was hoping she'd chase me and reassure me, but she called my bluff and I lost someone I cared about deeply. Worse still, I left her with a last impression of me as a sulky brat.
Just heed this advice and know the difference between addressing disrespectful behaviour calmly and directly and throwing a tantrum.
