Signs that a women is mentally unstable?

[GS750]

Good points, but if you walk away from any woman which exhibits some of these traits, you're actually walking away from most hot women.

So which one of these traits is enough to make you leave ?

The top three I'm always on the lookout for:

Love bombing
Badmouths all of her ex's (She'll do the same to you when it ends)
Signs of mental issues (depression, BPD, Bipolar)

 

[Infern0]

On the subject of love bombing, short story time

Met a girl during my AFC years, pre sosuave, pre everything, complete beta, no success with women. She was solid 7/10 which was way above anything i was used to, suffered from some depression but hey ho i thought. She persued me relentlessly, to be honest she had to because i was SO afc that she had to make the first moves because i was petrified of rejection and just froze up.

Anyway she love bombed me, non stop texting, wanting to see me and go on dates almost every day, calling me as soon as she got off work and wanting to talk on the phone if we weren't together, talking about our future together and how i was the one and she'd never felt anything like this and had never been this happy, it was intense and i was off down the rabbit hole.

Anyway anyone with the knowledge knows damn well what happens next, as soon as she'd built me up and i'd begun to get used to basing my whole life around her, BOOM, gone. and after barely hearing from her for two weeks she popped up to tell me she had a new boyfriend and proceeded to assasinate my self-esteem by listing all my faults and why i had failed her and we couldn't be together.

Oh yeah she also tried to friend zone me and said maybe we can try again if it doesn't work out with her new guy. (for those keeping record it lasted 6 months with him, and after he'd emptied his bank account she moved on again and he ended up becoming a heroin addict to cope)

Then i learned about bpd, made my way here, survived my 6 months of chronic depression and built myself into a new man.

If you have tangled with one of these monsters and lived to tell the tale it will stand you in good stead, but if you haven't, learn the red flags because if you can avoid it you should, it can get really, really messy.

 

[Reykhel]

Victim versus Responsible mentality

The level at which she is taking responsibility for her life experience past, present and future as opposed to the level at which she is a victim for her life experience past, present and future.

I view it as a graph:

VICTIM ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------RESPONSIBLE

Where is she on that graph?

The closer she is to victim, the more she is going to wallow in the past, not take action today and worry and fret about the future. You can tell what actions are going to spring from this mentality.

The more she is over to the responsibile side the more chance that she has dealt with and moved on from the past and she is a person who lives positively in the present moment with a healthy eye looking to the future.

Again, victim weighed down by the past, responsible moving forward.

The closer she is to victim, the more she is going to drive you nuts and suck the fvcking life energy from you.

The closer to responsible, the more likely she is going to be self-reliant (ie not needy and clingy)

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Lovebombing is creepy as heck. I've had it happen recently, as well.

In just a few days she is overly-sharing, by week two she says she fell in love. Soon after, I'm the love of her life. And I'm perfect -- very flattering, but smells too hard like BS.

And, of course, I am the first one who introduced her to many sexual experiences -- although she has had a huge sex drive throughout her life and quite a number of partners. Yeah, ok baby... lol

I was having much more important things to handle at the time, so I didn't fall for her.

She proved her selfish, self-centered personality many times (which I can't stand), but only when she proved that she's a psycho did I dump her. What a bullet to dodge !

 

[greatsnake]

crazies are only good for the hump and dump. Women that are mentally unstable usually come from unstable homes, generally have a jaded view on relationships, victim mentality and are manipulative.

Love bombing is definate
Moving way too fast
Too easy (girl persuing you rather than the other way round)
Oversharing
Clingy
Treats other people like trash
Bags all her exes
Dates down (like way down)
Loads of instagram selfies
unstable personal life (falls out with friends and family loads, goes through boyfriends rapidly)
Moves around a lot (different flats)


There's loads more but more than 1 or 2 of these and you are likely dealing with a nutcase

.... reminds me a lot about my FWB. I laughed as soon as I saw this post.

 

[btownbuck2012]

-- Extreme promises "I'll ALWAYS be here for you", "I would NEVER do that to you", etc. --------> followed by subtle push pull/cold stand offish behavior with no explanation of what is wrong.
-- Any type of indication that she enjoys seeing other people in pain or enjoys hurting other people emotionally is a gigantic red flag. Even if this is very subtle, it cannot be ignored.
-- a very vague, glossed over history of herself, relationships and her family.
-- no accountability what so ever. Wrongs are never righted or apologized for. When you do get an apology it will be force and like pulling teeth to get it. A big sign that you're dealing with a woman who is nuts is everytime you address something with her that is bothering you, and this could be something that she is genuinely in the wrong about, you'll always be left wondering, after the smoke has cleared, "maybe I overreacted?"
-- a complete shutdown or avoidance of anytype of emotion other than happiness.

^theres a ton of red flags obviously, but what's above is an indication that something is seriously wrong upstairs with a woman and will only get worse the longer you hang around. I'm sure I've missed a few tho, as well.

 

[Red Legg]

This. What's funny is that all of this is usually done unconsciously.

Not always...I have known several BPD's that "lovebombed" intentionally.I believe more often than not.

 

[soulforge]

The professional victim..

Yes no matter what, it wasn't her fault..

Or she doesn't even recognise doing anything wrong.. yes people like this exist, people who will say and do hurtful things, but are totally oblivious of there actions..

Woman who avoid responsibility, who don't know how to apologise.

Women who brush over there BS and pretend it never happened..

These types of woman will drive you bat chit crazy.. destroy your self esteem..

You will end up resenting and hating her!

Leave these hoes well alone!

 

[phil2015]

- Unable to take responsibility for anything - My recent ex has abandoned £1000+ worth of items at my house, which she has told me I can have because she is unable/unwilling to come and collect them

- Nothing is ever her fault

- Starts arguments to 'liven things up a bit' in an otherwise good relationship - I used to try everything from Corey Wayne's book to blanking her, but if she wanted an argument she would persist till she caused trouble

- Breaks promises easily

- Tells lies to your face and will swear you misheard if you catch her. I caught her do this and she said 'I mustve imagined things'

- Has a history of breakups where the man comes off much worst than she does. One ex got arrested/criminal record, one had his baby aborted, the other got discarded when he lost job/life fell apart. By the skin of my teeth I probably got off better than all these three......

- Uses make up as a mask - Low self-worth and to hide her real self - (Narcissim)

- Started to believe I was following/stalking her when we broke up

- Important One - Tries to persuade that you have Bipolar disorder/anger management issues/trust issues/Overactive imagination (Projection)

Some Quotes include....... "You knew I was unstable when you met me"........"I know I'm going to die alone, and it dosen't bother me"........."I'm a natural hothead"............."I felt like starting a row then"..............."Everything is going too well, I'm just waiting for you to cheat on me or for something to go wrong"

 

[phil2015]

It's funny how they make these statements(major red flags btw) acknowledging that they don't expect a real relationship, aren't fit for one, and never intended one, and then do everything in their power to hook you into one.

I once heard a Narcissist say he tried to give closure to a victim and told her "you were targeted by someone like me to be used for a purpose and then thrown away" more or less. The victim was apparently incapable of understanding, probably because the actions of the Narcissist are so incongruent with that truth.

Another Red Flag I overlooked she once said "I'm no good in relationships"

Looking back, that is possibly the biggest and most eye-gouging thing imaginable.

 

[wifehunter]

Why not run her through antidump's machine...it's like a checklist for eliminating crazies.

 

[The Duke]

I've had two girls that have said "You are too good for me". It usually comes out when they are overly emotional, acting difficult, stressed, and dealing with some tough issues. Their self esteem is low and they aren't in total control of themselves. Its almost like they are admitting that they aren't good for anybody at the moment and can't hold themselves together and are giving you a free out to leave.

I'm a person that handles stress very well, controls my emotions, always has high self esteem and confidence, accepts full responsibility. These girls realize that about me and see they are no where near my level and I believe it bothers them.

On @Reykhel 's Victim-Responsibile scale, these girls are probably in the 65th percentile. They aren't cluster B's, but they do show some traits as do most women.

Anybody else get this?

 

[JonnyD123]

-- Extreme promises "I'll ALWAYS be here for you", "I would NEVER do that to you", etc. --------> followed by subtle push pull/cold stand offish behavior with no explanation of what is wrong.
-- Any type of indication that she enjoys seeing other people in pain or enjoys hurting other people emotionally is a gigantic red flag. Even if this is very subtle, it cannot be ignored.
-- a very vague, glossed over history of herself, relationships and her family.
-- no accountability what so ever. Wrongs are never righted or apologized for. When you do get an apology it will be force and like pulling teeth to get it. A big sign that you're dealing with a woman who is nuts is everytime you address something with her that is bothering you, and this could be something that she is genuinely in the wrong about, you'll always be left wondering, after the smoke has cleared, "maybe I overreacted?"
-- a complete shutdown or avoidance of anytype of emotion other than happiness.

^theres a ton of red flags obviously, but what's above is an indication that something is seriously wrong upstairs with a woman and will only get worse the longer you hang around. I'm sure I've missed a few tho, as well.

Wow this one hit a little too close to home for me.

 

[phil2015]

I've had two girls that have said "You are too good for me". It usually comes out when they are overly emotional, acting difficult, stressed, and dealing with some tough issues. Their self esteem is low and they aren't in total control of themselves.

On @Reykhel 's Victim-Responsibile scale, these girls are probably in the 65th percentile. They aren't cluster B's, but they do show some traits as do most women.

Anybody else get this?

Yes I've had this, always emanating from an emotionally unstable or detached core

 

[Bayne05]

When the pvssy is good AF. She's crazy

 

[soulforge]

Another Red Flag I overlooked she once said "I'm no good in relationships"

Looking back, that is possibly the biggest and most eye-gouging thing imaginable.

This just bought back some red flags for me man..

In the first few months, my ex would fuk up and then use this exact excuse..

I don't think I am very good at relationships!

This is such a fuking cop out.. and just an excuse for her crappy behaviour..

Don't ever by into this rubbish excuse.. on the other hand, she could be speaking the TRUTH

In which case, get that fuk out while you can.. she is clearly letting you know, you will mess things up big time..

Holy chit.. it is amazing how many red flags we ignore!!

 

[phil2015]

I think there are a few things I've learned from my experience

- There was literally no other outcome from this. Irrespective of my actions/words things would always have ended in the same way. If I tret her well or if I'd been an azzhole with her. If I'd been a gent or treated her like chit.

- The Narc discard phase. This wouldve happened to anyone, similar to the above point. It would have happened to Brad Pitt or George Clooney, so don't take it personally. My ex had done this to other men and been equally chitty with them in the same way.

- Don't select a partner based on looks. From now on In happy to date a 4, 5 or 6 of she has good inner qualities.

- No contact is the best strategy for BPD women. Block on everything. Don't look, resist tempation. Ignorance is bliss

- They are unfixable. I tried, and it doesn't work and don't think you'll be different.

- BPD literally isn't worth the puvvy. 10 minutes if pleasure isn't worth the remaining 23 hours and 50 minutes of drama, blame, gaslighting, eggshell walking.

- Never move one in after 6 months like I did.

Most Important.. NEVER EVER overlook the red flags. There lies only pain and suffering ahead of you do

 

[phil2015]

Another Sign - Mine has sent the same text message to me every day for the past 3 days.

Went straight to the blocked log on my phone but i feel she may be upto something....

 

[greatsnake]

Love bombing is definate
Moving way too fast
Too easy (girl persuing you rather than the other way round)
Oversharing
Clingy
Treats other people like trash
Bags all her exes
Dates down (like way down)
Loads of instagram selfies
unstable personal life (falls out with friends and family loads, goes through boyfriends rapidly)
Moves around a lot (different flats)


There's loads more but more than 1 or 2 of these and you are likely dealing with a nutcase

Seems like these types of chicks have a certain pattern of behavior.

 

[bigneil]

I get a second date.