*Sigh* Really...?

[Korrupt]

Went on a first date tonight, which I thought went well. Teased her a lot, let her talk a sh!tload about herself, felt like I was on *my* game for the most part, but when I went for the kiss I got the head turn and "I just met you" line.

Deleted her number.

Right? Wrong?

 

[Mike32ct]

I think you did the right thing. The head turn is usually a very bad sign.

I don't expect a makeout on date one, but a light kiss on the LIPS not cheek is the bare minimum if she's attracted.

 

[Sparky]

let her talk a sh!tload about herself

Groan... I bet you floated off and started thinking about sport or something, and said "really" every 27 seconds as is required.... :crackup:

I tell you what when a woman actually asks about yourself rather than waffling inane **** about herself for hours, that's a major attractive quality.

 

[Scars]

No point in pursuing a girl with low interest. You did right.

-Scars

 

[Sparky]

I disagree slightly. If you really like her give it one more date. Some girls are just slower moving. If you think there was a spark there. She didn't say she didn't want to, she said you'd only just met. Perhaps she takes pride in not being too easy?
If on the second date you don't get a kiss, I'd give it up.

 

[Tyson420]

Groan... I bet you floated off and started thinking about sport or something, and said "really" every 27 seconds as is required.... :crackup:

I tell you what when a woman actually asks about yourself rather than waffling inane **** about herself for hours, that's a major attractive quality.

True, to a point.

 

[ARrocket]

I disagree slightly. If you really like her give it one more date. Some girls are just slower moving. If you think there was a spark there. She didn't say she didn't want to, she said you'd only just met. Perhaps she takes pride in not being too easy?
If on the second date you don't get a kiss, I'd give it up.

I agree with this, actually. IF you enjoy her company, don't be so quick to abandon ship.

You're 21, so she's probably young...there's a chance she's just inexperienced and shy about it. Give her the benefit of the doubt...if you want. No harm in trying other than your time, so do some cost-benefit analysis in your head and figure it out!

 

[Johnny_Kage]

It's hard to know what really went on with this date (since I wasn't there), but usually you know if a girl wants to kiss you. She gives you that glossy eyed look and keeps glancing at your lips.

Typically, on first dates, you should try to get to that point as often as possible and just keep going for the makeout (of course you pull away first and all that jazz). But I've found it to be more effective to more on the aggressive side and only pull back based on her vibes or if she tells you to.

If you never get that glossy eyed stare, just randomly throw her up against the wall and tease her a bit. I've found that to be effective in significantly increasing attraction.

Like I said though, I wasn't on the date. And there are those girls that like to move slow and she definitely could have been one of those.

I agree with what many of the other posters said. Undelete her number (I'm sure you still have some of her texts...so you could just re-save the number) and schedule another date. Let us know what happens!

 

[PokerStar]

maybe your lead into the kiss took too slow.

 

[TheJazz]

It was the right move. Withdraw all your attention from her as well. She disrespected you, so she doesn't deserve the gift of your attention now does she? You'll soon notice that because you're too busy for her, she'll want you more. She'll eventually BEG for your attention (and maybe even affection). Don't give in. She's not worth it.

 

[scribblec]

I agree with this, actually. IF you enjoy her company, don't be so quick to abandon ship.

You're 21, so she's probably young...there's a chance she's just inexperienced and shy about it. Give her the benefit of the doubt...if you want. No harm in trying other than your time, so do some cost-benefit analysis in your head and figure it out!

man i double agree with both quotes, the people here are nexting girls after every little thing, give it one more go and if its the same thing then next her, maybe it was your game which didnt build enough comfort maybe ANYTHING could of happened, the only way to be sure is to try again so its not nexted based on one result

 

[Tyson420]

This will not end well.

This.

Like it's only a kiss, why would she turn her head like that. She doesn't like you bro.

 

[Jariel]

I've met girls who don't kiss on the first date. They're usually quite defensive because they've been played in the past and don't want to give the wrong impression. However, these girls are too much hard work and not much fun to date.

Instead of caring whether it was a sign of low interest, you should ask yourself if you would enjoy dating such a girl? If you wanted to give her a second chance then I see no harm in it, but if she's still behaving cold with you then I'd save yourself the hassle and move on.

 

[Tyson420]

Girls that follow that trend aren't worth it. They don't get the big picture, if you like someone why not just show it?

 

[ARrocket]

Girls that follow that trend aren't worth it. They don't get the big picture, if you like someone why not just show it?

Where do you draw the line? This is about INDIVIDUAL preferences, there can be no hard rule for what's "worth it." What if I say "I won't bother with a girl who won't suck my d*ck within 5 minutes of meeting her"? You think that's absurd, but maybe that's what I expect for her to do to show that she likes me! So, YOU expect a kiss to show she likes you. To YOU it's "just" a kiss, but to her, it could be much more. So she shows it non-physically initially.

Now, perhaps you don't agree with this, and thus she is not worth your time. Fine. But it's up to the OP to decide whether or not he should continue macking on this chick. You can't make blanket statements like that.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Another case of a young gun getting confused and upset by the female psyche, and rushing to a conclusion to next her...

Be the DJ.

You may have met a quality girl. If you don't like her, by all means NEXT her, as there are plenty of girls to go for.

If you want to learn, then here is a different between a Beginner and DJ:

Girl says: "I just met you."
Beginner thinks: WTF, she isn't worth my time because she doesn't like me.
DJ thinks: I need to get her more wet for me before trying again.

 

[yuppaz]

Evil Agenda is right on the money.....

I personally wouldn't delete her number just yet, go out with her again, get her more turned on and try again