Salines Boot Camp
So everyone here is focused on the so called mistake of the "So let me know when you want to hang out" text but OP, it really has very little to do with that if anything at all.
Its a matter of interest. If she was interested she would have said something like " OK. I will. Maybe tues. Hope to hear from you before that though" then she would have texted you again. And again.
What I am saying man is, your beta a$$ text did not torpedo your chances with this girl. The reality is, you never really had any chance to begin with. There are a million anecdotal reasons for this and half of them have nothing to do with you. Less so a junk text.
I think a lot of us around here tend to get mired in the details a little bit, myself included. A girl we like gives us tunnel vision and every move we make we feel the pressure of a winning field goal kick.
Killing that kind of attitude is the essence of this entire website. You must start to see yourself as the goal post not the kicker. Who’s frame in that analogy would you rather have?
Dude, I am going to give it to you plain, you might hate me for it at first, but someday soon youll realize I was right. You don’t deserve this girl. Not yet anyway. Plus, on top of that harshness I am glad she rejected you this early on because if she was a soulless b!tch she could have pounded a guy with your frame into dust. You care, way, way too much, way, way, too early. But there is hope. And I like hope. And everything I am saying to you as say with you, not at you. Everything I am saying to you I say to myself when I get real with myself and that is why I have no problem getting real with you.
So, here is your hope. Follow my advice and youll make so very fast progress (which you need)
Again every word of this comes from my own experience and is not a regurgitated word vomit found in youtube videos and DJ books. Although they have a lot of value to you as well.
This is what you are going to do. Yes, to get THIS girl back! Although as you will soon see its just a ruse.
First, FORGET about that f^cking text. It IS %100 percent meaningless. Your problems( and some of mine) go way deeper than that. In medicine they teach us that you must assess the whole patient BEFORE you administer treatment. Why? Because treating the most obvious injury makes you miss the most serious life threating one. Guy is bleeding heavily from his arm with an obvious fracture. Treat that injury without checking his airway and you got a very dead guy with a perfectly treated and non-bleeding arm. Get my point. Never think of that text again. And never send another one like it. That’s its. Over. Done. Stop it. Now.
Secondly, you will read one book per week about self-improvement. Here are a few selections I of the genres I mean. Audible.com is a great way to accomplish this while you do other things like, clean your house, drive, go to the gym, go shopping ect. All will keep your mind of ruminating over this girl.
http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Deve...f=a_search_c4_1_1_srTtl?qid=1425045953&sr=1-1
http://www.audible.com/pd/Science-T...f=a_search_c4_1_2_srTtl?qid=1425045988&sr=1-2
http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Deve...f=a_search_c4_1_1_srTtl?qid=1425046031&sr=1-1
http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Deve...f=a_search_c4_1_1_srTtl?qid=1425046069&sr=1-1
http://www.audible.com/search/ref=a...refixRefmarker=nb_sb_ss_i_1_7&sprefix=dale+ca
Just as a warning. The last thing you need is more “rules” to follow because you are already banking on them too much. You need inner frame in order to understand the practice of application of these guides. Just remember while you are listening, you are improving yourself, not improving to get better with women.
Thirdly, and possibly the most important. You will go to the gym and you will do this:
50x Bench reps of 20-25lbs (cable machine) do that “Set” 2 x for the first 2 weeks. Then try for 3 sets when you feel you are ready.
Triceps pull downs. (cable machine) 20-25lbs. Reps to failure. Try for 25. The lower the weight to 15lbs and do it again.
Curls. 30lbs 15x. 6 sets! If you can. Otherwise go to failure. Watch other guys in the gym for proper form. When you start to lose your form, that’s failure. Put it down, wait 45 secs. Next set.
That’s your Monday. Weds. Fri. :box:
Tuesday Thursday. :box:
Weighted row. 50 lbs. x15 reps. 3 sets. If the weight is to light DO NOT increase it. Rest less or go more reps per set.
Weighted pull downs. 50-60 lbs. 15x. 3 sets.
Shoulder flys. LOW weight. 12.5lbs maybe. Look at other guys for form and variations. 2 sets of 15 each variation.
Sat. Pool if the gym has one. Elipitical or run if it does not.
Yes I realize we are missing legs and abs for now. Forget about that. Also, forget about diet for now as well. Small steps, small goals. You are not a bodybuilder. You are not even going there to get ripped(although no matter what you look like now you will see an amazing change on MY timeline for you.) You are going there to because a man needs to sweat and self improve. A strong inner frame lives in a strong outer frame.
Plus, when I send you back to talk to this girl, she is going to notice, she is going to smell it on you. Let me finish.
Forth, you WILL do 5 cold approaches per week. It should be more but like I said, small goals, easy victories. The mall( we will get to that) the grocery store, bus, train, clubs, if you are a younger guy, library, church, in-between classes, school sporting events, parties, pool hall, bowling, anywhere, everywhere.
Enjoy rejection! Its fun. Its funny. And, its building your mountain like
Atom Smasher said. That was a refrigerator worthy post by the way.
You will also download
Tinder and swipe right only. You will text and communicate with any girl you can. Its not a marriage proposal. You will start to hone your text skills. You will take risks in what you say.
You will also start to see what its is like when a girl is fawning over you like you do with other girls. You will get and ego boost from it when a girl shows extreme interest and you will see what its like to have no interest in her! This will teach you how to recognize when a girl is NOT interested because you will remember what it was like to FEEL not interested yourself. This is SO important. When girls turn you off with their supplicating and overwhelming interest and beta texts and behavior you will realize why you shouldn’t do it either.
Fifth, take some money and go by yourself one complete outfit that fits you PERFECTLY. Tailor if necessary. If you don’t have the money by one thing at a time. Reward yourself every time you finish a book or a week at the gym.
You will buy:
1 Pair of Darker colored jeans.
1 Package of smaller fitting tee shirts.
1 Pair of nice boxers.
1 Pair of dress socks.
1 pair of Shoes. NOT SNEAKERS! Shoes. Clarks are pretty in right now. Or Casual dress shoes.
A button down shirt. Classy and nothing loud or to patterned.
1 belt.
And my favorite….A nice watch. Doesn’t have to be designer expensive. Just nothing digital. A mans watch. Also, no overgrown clock towers. It’s a fad. Be timeless(hahaha) and get a watch that fits your wrist well. Silver goes with anything.
The absolute most important part of your outfit is that its fits perfectly!
:rock:
