Should i give her another chance?

[MindOverMatter]

Not paying on the first date is like a filter for girls like the 2 h0es you just mentioned who are selfish and expect the man to pay her way through life. If she gets "insulted" or "angry" over not paying for her, then she's probably of that type. In that case you're better off without her and waste less time and energy.

I like how you think (filters and all), but I disagree here. I think it's a bad filter, because you will turn a lot of girls off who are not selfish and don't expect a man to pay their way through life. Paying someone's way through life is one thing. Not wanting to throw down $4 for a cup of coffee is just a plain scrub thing to do, and you will lose points with majority of girls cause of it.

Let me skip all the crap and get to this point:

I'd avoid using that word, cause it was your points I was responding to. If you think they're crap, don't write them.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
I like how you think (filters and all), but I disagree here. I think it's a bad filter, because you will turn a lot of girls off who are not selfish and don't expect a man to pay their way through life. Paying someone's way through life is one thing. Not wanting to throw down $4 for a cup of coffee is just a plain scrub thing to do, and you will lose points with majority of girls cause of it.



I'd avoid using that word, cause it was your points I was responding to. If you think they're crap, don't write them.

Well I have no problems picking up girls and NOT PAYING the first time. Am I some master DJ? I don't think so. Not all girls are as shallow as you think man.


I'm not saying anything I or you said is crap. It's just added detail that I don't need to get to the bottom line.



Edit - Where are living right now? It seems to me that the people in your area have a very different philosophy. Especially when you mentioned the networking girls talking about you with each other. That is very minimal in this part of Toronto I'm living in. Everyone is so segregated and mostly could not care less about others. It's a mixed blessing having this self-absorbed mentality, but it avoids some problems.


Oh wait a minute, I am a master DJ. It says so right under my name. See? Master DJ. Well until you have 500+ posts you can't pull off what I do.

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Assuming that the man asked the women out on a date, he should pay. If it were the other way around, then the women should pick up the tab..

This seems very fair, considering that men initiate 95% of the dates

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
FIRST DATE!!!! Not for life!! Is it too much to do????

Yes, it is. Why should i pay for it? Why don't you? I'm the CEO of a million-dollar corporation and my time is priceless. Yet i'm giving it to you and asking nothing in return. I'm taking time of my incredibly busy schedule to be with you. I'm also taking the initiative to ask you out, making all the plans, picking you up, providing a nice car and a nice place we can go to afterwards. I'm also generating most of the vibe and making you feel absolutely fantastic. I can take the most horrible day of your life and make it your best in minutes. And what are you doing? Nothing. You're just there. And you have the nerve to say that in addition to all that, i should also pay for your food?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Krauss, you may be too sensitive in this situation - I can't see anything crazy or disrespectful she did to you (maybe the phone calls) but you are going overboard on this.

Ask her out and maybe she will decline because of your stern attitude.

Maybe she took offense to paying because the custom in colombia is for the man to pay.

It was the first date - you didn't have to do too much or try to be so romantic with walks on the beach etc.. -- take your time!

 

[Krassus]

x

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
you didn't have to do too much or try to be so romantic with walks on the beach

I did it because i felt like it. I don't "have to" do anything, ever. It was a beautiful night and i just genuinely wanted to make her and myself feel good. Simple as that.

 

[DJDamage]

I think Allen gives out the best advice for that matter.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/check.htm

 

[Kaine]

What is the purpose of the date?

For YOU and HER to have a good time. It's equally important that not only you enjoy the activity but she does too, and be flexible about it.

We are trying to attract her right?

Maybe there just wasn't chemistry, maybe she WAS cold.


Location is the icing, and most would agree if a girl really REALLY likes you then it doesn't really matter where you are as long as she is with you. But you need to get that attraction up there first, been grumpy makes you look weak especially if you have just started dating.



Kaine