Should I get serious w/ a Single Mother???

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I would advise extreme caution when dealing with single mothers. I'm speaking from experience when I say this.

There are alot of potential problems involved.

For one thing, the child's father is still in the picture.

If he is only involved as far as taking care of his child and other than that he has no relationship of any kind with the mother then that isn't necessarily bad.

If he still comes around and the two of them are still friendly or he comes by and just to chill sometimes, that's a huge red flag.

Also, I can tell you that you might as well get used to being #2 when it comes to everything regarding her because the kid (or kids) will ALWAYS be #1.

If you get deeply involved with her, she'll expect you to also take a great interest in her kids as well. Otherwise, she wouldn't consider you long-term mate potential.

Also, single moms usually don't have as much free time to do fun things like women without kids do.

Plus kids are expensive. Some single moms will expect you to shell out cash to help her and her kid (or kids) even if the child's father is still in the picture.

If you like to do wild, spontaneous things like pick up and travel or go club hopping, single moms have responsibilities that often prevent them from just picking up at a moments notice.

I'm not saying that it is impossible to date a single mom but factor these thoughts into your decision.

Your best bet is to find a woman without kids.

Alot less headache.
 

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self-mastery, i'm in exactly the same position as you matey, i've been dating a single mom for 5 months now and the one bit of advice i can give you is try not to get too involved!!,

i dictate our relationship at the moment and, as you do, get treated like a king from her so it's all good at the moment, i get on well with her son (who still see's his father) but dont see much of him as i only see him once a week and her twice, the rest of the week i'm busy in the gym and i also play semi-professional football so need my time to keep fit and time to myself which means i have an excuse not to see her as much ;)

keep her at arms length and keep pulling the strings, approach very much with caution!,

PM me if you want a chat about it,
Ste.
 
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