johnny_dangerously
Don Juan
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A friend of mine is about to get married. Allow me to quickly enumerate the rules he's broken:
-- Chose a woman he liked even though she didn't like him.
-- Chose a woman with a young child from an abusive ex, & all the issues that go along with that.
-- Came down with a case of oneitis so severe that even the biggest AFC that ever lived would say, "Damn dude, you've got oneitis something fierce."
-- Supplicated & threw himself at her w/o mercy for her or himself, like watching someone smash his head repeatedly against a concrete abutment.
-- Acts like she is the greatest thing in the universe.
-- Is now getting married.
-- Thinks that making it to the altar is crossing some kind of a finish line.
She:
-- Has plenty of weird hang-ups
-- Says very hurtful things to him for no reason that I can see.
-- Has gotten so upset over what I think are minor things, that she's told him, in effect, "I'm sending you away & I'll let you know when (& if) I want you back."
Now, despite doing everything wrong that one can do, she has agreed to marry him. He has pointed out to her that she will never again for the rest of her life EVER find a man who's as good to her as he is. This is true, and she is smart enough to know it logically, but we all know how much logic matters to women.
OK, I'm presenting a very grim view here because I'm summarizing the red flags. I'm sure he would tell the story very differently. But still.
I am flabbergasted that she agreed to even DATE him, much less MARRY him, when he behaved like that. How is it possible? Is this going to come to a bad end for him? How did he ever make it to the 2nd date?
-- Chose a woman he liked even though she didn't like him.
-- Chose a woman with a young child from an abusive ex, & all the issues that go along with that.
-- Came down with a case of oneitis so severe that even the biggest AFC that ever lived would say, "Damn dude, you've got oneitis something fierce."
-- Supplicated & threw himself at her w/o mercy for her or himself, like watching someone smash his head repeatedly against a concrete abutment.
-- Acts like she is the greatest thing in the universe.
-- Is now getting married.
-- Thinks that making it to the altar is crossing some kind of a finish line.
She:
-- Has plenty of weird hang-ups
-- Says very hurtful things to him for no reason that I can see.
-- Has gotten so upset over what I think are minor things, that she's told him, in effect, "I'm sending you away & I'll let you know when (& if) I want you back."
Now, despite doing everything wrong that one can do, she has agreed to marry him. He has pointed out to her that she will never again for the rest of her life EVER find a man who's as good to her as he is. This is true, and she is smart enough to know it logically, but we all know how much logic matters to women.
OK, I'm presenting a very grim view here because I'm summarizing the red flags. I'm sure he would tell the story very differently. But still.
I am flabbergasted that she agreed to even DATE him, much less MARRY him, when he behaved like that. How is it possible? Is this going to come to a bad end for him? How did he ever make it to the 2nd date?