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Married guy here. I got married because I wanted kids mainly, and kind of a mini team to create a life with.

as I entered my mid 30s, some friends died, some moved away, some because alcoholics, and other than my social club and golf club, I genuinely was pretty lonely. I don’t like an empty house.

now, regardless of divorce, I have a child and number 2 is planned. To the day I die; I will have 2 people in my corner, and I’m in theirs. I don’t need to worry about anything as I have my purpose and my reason to live.

Odds are one day I’m going to lose some of my assets and have to be part time dad - although nothing currently suggest this.

Probably more likely to leave than her!
Kids eventually grow up and live their own lives, having them in your corner isn’t an absolute, especially in a broken home. Why bring kids into the picture if there is a likelihood of a divorce? That is inward thinking in itself rather than for their well being.
 

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Kids eventually grow up and live their own lives, having them in your corner isn’t an absolute, especially in a broken home. Why bring kids into the picture if there is a likelihood of a divorce? That is inward thinking in itself rather than for their well being.
If you shouldn’t bring kids into it if you can divorce, you have to do away with marriage.

I acknowledge that it’s a possibility, that’s it.

The point I am making is not having kids or getting married because you’re scared of losing some money is a bit weak.

if you don’t want that life, don’t do it, but you shouldn’t desire it and not bother because of money.

no guarantees to anything, but never having kids does guarantee you never experience the incredible experience of fatherhood.
 

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If you shouldn’t bring kids into it if you can divorce, you have to do away with marriage.

I acknowledge that it’s a possibility, that’s it.

The point I am making is not having kids or getting married because you’re scared of losing some money is a bit weak.

if you don’t want that life, don’t do it, but you shouldn’t desire it and not bother because of money.

no guarantees to anything, but never having kids does guarantee you never experience the incredible experience of fatherhood.
There is a difference between a possibility and probability of divorce, again, taking into consideration what it does to the kids.
 

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There is a difference between a possibility and probability of divorce, again, taking into consideration what it does to the kids.
If kids are able to walk and speak, they're capable of learning that the degree to which they're wounded emotionally by external events is dictated by their thoughts and beliefs about such things, not the events themselves
 

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There is a difference between a possibility and probability of divorce, again, taking into consideration what it does to the kids.
splitting hairs.

odds are against all marriages failing
 
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