She stopped initiating contact after 3 months of dating

[AM349]

Ok, but what would have been the correct course of action?

some guys proposed to text her and setup a date?

otherw suggested to do nothing and let her reach out?

 

[Chow Mein]

Dudes, we are pushing back and forth in this thread on what OP should presumably do with a chick probably his own age, 20.
Let this thread die and have OP read this 5 years from now and a few more notches on his belt. He ain’t learning now, but he will

 

[New_Journey]

Ok, but what would have been the correct course of action?

some guys proposed to text her and setup a date?

otherw suggested to do nothing and let her reach out?

Forget what we say. Do what you wanna do, you don't daddy making a decision for you, so make a decision, let her go or text her.

 

[BeExcellent]

This sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that you married a winner.


You making of fun of your husband for having a condition says a lot about you, you appear having a successful life, but a wife who respects her husband won't fun of him, and much less with another female. Congrats, you married a trophy hubby so you can present him to everyone like he's the Chad with all the great qualities, but in reality is an outcast of society with zero social skills, you are the equivalent of a male millionaire who marries a trophy wife cause she's hot, but in reality she is a retard.

A bit judgy perhaps ol' boy?? Well once you get off your high horse of self righteousness you'll see that humour is a way to be lighthearted about life.

I am flattered that you seem to think he is a trophy.....certainly plenty of men would love to trade places with him in many ways.

The TV show "The Big Bang" features an Aspie main character, Sheldon, and much of the humor in that show derives from his misadventures in social cues, while also demonstrating his intelligence and nerdiness and sweet nature. Another show "The Good Doctor" also features an autistic main character, who is a physician. The reason those shows are so popular is they resonate with people; art imitating life as it were.

ALL the men I date are very handsome & accomplished. That's my landscape and always has been. I don't see looks or accomplishment as a trophy, lol. Those things are prerequisites for me. Clearly you seem to think neurodiversity is a "retard" of some sort, but it is simply a difference in neurologic composition and focus, and it can be quite amusing the miscues that occur between a neurotypical individual and a neurodiverse individual.

You are probably that guy who gets super offended when comedians make jokes about racial generalities, but give it a rest about my husband. Jeez.

The medical community is still trying to figure out how to properly characterize neurodiverse people, and if you look at the versions of the DSM since the early 1980s forward you will see this. The social aspect of interpersonal interactions can be quite difficult for people with these conditions, but it varies widely.

I married my husband because I love him. And I love him for all the right reasons. Yes he's handsome. But so is any man I'd consider, sheesh.

I find it funny that you are so indignant about by life, which I am living just fine, thank you so much.

Relax. Take a deep breath. Worry about your own life. We are all good over here.

Cheers.

 

[New_Journey]

A bit judgy perhaps ol' boy?? Well once you get off your high horse of self righteousness you'll see that humour is a way to be lighthearted about life.

I am flattered that you seem to think he is a trophy.....certainly plenty of men would love to trade places with him in many ways.

The TV show "The Big Bang" features an Aspie main character, Sheldon, and much of the humor in that show derives from his misadventures in social cues, while also demonstrating his intelligence and nerdiness and sweet nature. Another show "The Good Doctor" also features an autistic main character, who is a physician. The reason those shows are so popular is they resonate with people; art imitating life as it were.

ALL the men I date are very handsome & accomplished. That's my landscape and always has been. I don't see looks or accomplishment as a trophy, lol. Those things are prerequisites for me. Clearly you seem to think neurodiversity is a "retard" of some sort, but it is simply a difference in neurologic composition and focus, and it can be quite amusing the miscues that occur between a neurotypical individual and a neurodiverse individual.

You are probably that guy who gets super offended when comedians make jokes about racial generalities, but give it a rest about my husband. Jeez.

The medical community is still trying to figure out how to properly characterize neurodiverse people, and if you look at the versions of the DSM since the early 1980s forward you will see this. The social aspect of interpersonal interactions can be quite difficult for people with these conditions, but it varies widely.

I married my husband because I love him. And I love him for all the right reasons. Yes he's handsome. But so is any man I'd consider, sheesh.

I find it funny that you are so indignant about by life, which I am living just fine, thank you so much.

Relax. Take a deep breath. Worry about your own life. We are all good over here.

Cheers.

I worry about my life and what advice I give because of what this gentleman wrote:

The reason this is relevant is because you counsel men here on the virtues and importance of alpha men

Smart people challenge each other as a form of learning, so if you are going to teach, expect to be challenged.

- Your hubby is the perfect Adonis with all the quality of a HVM but without kids. Other members questions why would a perfect guy will marry a 50yo woman and when he has no kids, like he is the exception to the rule. But the reason is he has asperges or autism which is fine, but is good to know that your experiences do not reflect the average HVM (or Alpha) which men in here should aim to become.

- In other posts you throw the dirty laundry of you husband onto us

- In other post you make fun of him with your female friend which is in the same circumstances.

Gentlemen, this the perfect example of a woman not respecting her husband. What would you guys do if you find your woman is saying your dirty laundry to a bunch of online randoms? Your advices do not reflect what the average HVM go through. Otherwise, you would not be here, a 55 yo woman in a forum a 99% men from 18-40 active members. Imagine 55 yo guy in a forum where 18 yo girls ask for dating advice. That's why I challenge your advices.

 

[BeExcellent]

Yes. Imagine a 55 year old man advising 18 year old women. There is a name for that:

Father.

The same as I advise my children who are 22, 19 and 16. You see people with life experience are never at the mercy of someone with a theory.

Only there are so many young women running around with "daddy issues" that there is an obvious shortage of good fathers these days. Fortunately my ex husband, for all his personal shortcomings, is a great father. He is open and transparent about why his life is how it is; he owns and is accountable.

@New_Journey my husband knows I am here. So does my son. My husband knows some people here through me. This is an anonymous forum for obvious reasons. Because of that I can share freely. So I do.

And there are people, like you, who insult me and shame me from time to time. Big deal. You think you can hurt my feelings? You aren't important enough to be able to. Sorry to burst your bubble. If I posted the same advice but as a man, it is still the same good advice but without the flak for being female. No worries. It's a male space & I believe the world needs more capable men.

Know why I start posts with the tag line "Advice from the old lady"? It's transparent. It started as a nod to some young men nearly 10 years ago who think some woman old enough to be their mother or grandmother must be a cat lady and ugly and couldn't possibly have anything worthwhile to contribute. The avatar is me in my 50s. I am obviously attractive and always have been.

There are a number of posters here who are 50+, from all over the world. But here's the thing my dear. People who are 40+, 50+, 60+, 70+? We were in our teens/20s/30s before. In some cases before you were born. We didn't just get born at 50+ with no other life experience, and our brains did not get erased, and NO, people and dating are not THAT different. Technology has changed. People? Not so much.

You have an ignore button. Feel free to use it. But don't worry about saving other posters from my advice. They have brains. They can read & discern things.

Worry more about your own qualifications, you who won't even list his age. Lol.

Let me guess, 34, never married, no kids, living somewhere outside the US. Obviously lacking a sense of humor but with an ego the size of Austraila.

You aren't the first new guy to come at me & you won't be the last. Yawn.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes. Imagine a 55 year old man advising 18 year old women. There is a name for that:

Father.

The same as I advise my children who are 22, 19 and 16. You see people with life experience are never at the mercy of someone with a theory.

Only there are so many young women running around with "daddy issues" that there is an obvious shortage of good fathers these days. Fortunately my ex husband, for all his personal shortcomings, is a great father. He is open and transparent about why his life is how it is; he owns and is accountable.

@New_Journey my husband knows I am here. So does my son. My husband knows some people here through me. This is an anonymous forum for obvious reasons. Because of that I can share freely. So I do.

And there are people, like you, who insult me and shame me from time to time. Big deal. You think you can hurt my feelings? You aren't important enough to be able to. Sorry to burst your bubble. If I posted the same advice but as a man, it is still the same good advice but without the flak for being female. No worries. It's a male space & I believe the world needs more capable men.

Know why I start posts with the tag line "Advice from the old lady"? It's transparent. It started as a nod to some young men nearly 10 years ago who think some woman old enough to be their mother or grandmother must be a cat lady and ugly and couldn't possibly have anything worthwhile to contribute. The avatar is me in my 50s. I am obviously attractive and always have been.

There are a number of posters here who are 50+, from all over the world. But here's the thing my dear. People who are 40+, 50+, 60+, 70+? We were in our teens/20s/30s before. In some cases before you were born. We didn't just get born at 50+ with no other life experience, and our brains did not get erased, and NO, people and dating are not THAT different. Technology has changed. People? Not so much.

You have an ignore button. Feel free to use it. But don't worry about saving other posters from my advice. They have brains. They can read & discern things.

Worry more about your own qualifications, you who won't even list his age. Lol.

Let me guess, 34, never married, no kids, living somewhere outside the US. Obviously lacking a sense of humor but with an ego the size of Austraila.

You aren't the first new guy to come at me & you won't be the last. Yawn.

Good advice is good advice no matter who is giving it.

Only fools try to claim advice is good or bad due to someone's gender.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I worry about my life and what advice I give because of what this gentleman wrote:




Smart people challenge each other as a form of learning, so if you are going to teach, expect to be challenged.

- Your hubby is the perfect Adonis with all the quality of a HVM but without kids. Other members questions why would a perfect guy will marry a 50yo woman and when he has no kids, like he is the exception to the rule. But the reason is he has asperges or autism which is fine, but is good to know that your experiences do not reflect the average HVM (or Alpha) which men in here should aim to become.

- In other posts you throw the dirty laundry of you husband onto us

- In other post you make fun of him with your female friend which is in the same circumstances.

Gentlemen, this the perfect example of a woman not respecting her husband. What would you guys do if you find your woman is saying your dirty laundry to a bunch of online randoms? Your advices do not reflect what the average HVM go through. Otherwise, you would not be here, a 55 yo woman in a forum a 99% men from 18-40 active members. Imagine 55 yo guy in a forum where 18 yo girls ask for dating advice. That's why I challenge your advices.

For what it’s worth, she is in here explaining her rationale. There is a lot to be said about being open to criticism. I asked @Manure Spherian the following a couple of weeks ago when he was suggesting that certain age groups don’t mix, which directly contradicts my personal experience . I didn’t get an answer. I’m just pointing it out, because he liked my original post to @BeExcellent

In the 90’s when I was in my teens, where I went to school and grew up, few people cared about sports and lifting and few were gorgeous men. Those who got first dibs were scumbags, criminals, and rich boys. I’m not kidding.

You’re over 50 years old and memory serves your married to a childhood sweetheart. What would be your basis for giving any advice on the dating tendencies of younger women and middle age men?

I ask this because I am 40, and at 37, the only women I seriously fooled around with post separation were attractive, in their 20’s, save for the 36 year old that jumped on me 8 days removed from my marriage.

What forms the basis for what you are trying to say and what good does it honestly serve to try and dissuade men from doing what they want to try and do?