marmel75 said:
Translation:
"She's not interested in YOU at the moment"
Welcome to the friendzone! Let's show him his prize!
Endless amounts of blueballs as she toys with you enough to think you have a shot, gets you to a certain point, then drops you off a cliff...rinse and repeat
A lot of this. She'll keep repeating these lines over and over - whilst dating around, and keeping you for whatever services you provide. If you show interest, she'll just keep you around for attention and favors. If you eject yourself completely, she'll ask why you cant just be friends, and claim to not be ready. However, once she finds someone she's crazy about - she wont hesitate to be ready. Thats because she is lying to you - possibly to not have to reject you, and make things awkward (ie, you jumping ship). Its kind of a way to keep you around as a friend. But as you can see, she's not being honest, and wants you to do something for her already. There is no room for potential here - that is not how your mindset should be. You will see just how far down the list you are when she dates around, and eventually enters into a relationship. You will still likely be kept around as a back-up, however.
I think too many guys assume the best out of these situations, and killing themselves (emotionally) over the possibilities that NEVER come to frution - instead of accepting the facts. She's not interested romantically, but wants you around as a friend. Thats it. She's not afraid, she's not weeding you out through friendship, she doesnt see the potential in you, or whatever else you have cooked up in your head as a possibility, Dont believe her when or if she makes these claims, either - UNLESS she follows through with genuine interest, and escalates with you. None of that push / pull / mixed messages crap.
If you get rejected in any way - just accept it, and move on. Low interest is low interest. Excuses, LJBF speeches, not ready claims, etc are the symptoms. Her wanting to hang out to have you provide a favor doesnt mean she's taking it slowly. She's probably just selfish, views it as no big deal, doesnt care about your feelings, and still wants what she wants (ie, friendship). Dont be fooled by her selfish jerk claims for wanting all or nothing... Gah... Its just bad. ALL BAD.
Dont hang around in hopes for more, looking for that tell-tale sign that she likes you, clinging onto false hope, or putting yourself in a position to be strung along or used... Just get out. Dont come crawling back if you date someone else, and she has a change of heart, either. Her interest has not changed, and will go right back to where it was. Belie' dat.
Bottom line: dont bother with low interest girls. At any time. Ever. Be it on the first meet, or 4 months later.
