She gets bored frequently / Sex is decreased

[Solomon]

I think there is some solid advice that has been giving in this thread, so no point of repeating some great points. However i'm going to address something that I think are very important

Long story short, she is becoming depressive, boring, and she does nothing after work apart from complaining that she is bored and that she is in the house all the time.

This is one of the main issues right here her life is just working, doesn't she have any hobbies? do you have any hobbies you guys enjoy doing together? like going to the gym, taking walks, going bowling or even watching movies? If the relationship is only based on sex then it's doomed to fail, as it's starting to sound like you guys are becoming roommates instead of lovers. I know OP you mentioned you are in your purpose and I'll get to that in a bit. However, your purpose isn't her purpose(unless you guys agreed to work toward your purpose togther). So what does she do to have fun or do towards her self-growth? If she doesn't have any hobbies or you guys have no hobbies together outside of sex then yikes. Most women who don't have purpose expect the guy to entertain them and be a jestermaxxer. Another thing is that you mentioned she is depressed, is she taking meds? is her depression something that has affected her, her whole life?

I'm asking this cause earlier this year I casually dated a girl who was depressed and taking meds. She would just work, she was always down, had no sense of humor, would complain about being broke, her apartment was filthy she was only 26 years old but by her demeanor, you would think she was 46. Needless to say, after 1 month it crashed and burned,

My point is if you're dealing with a woman who is legit depressed whether she is taking meds or not, It can make you feel like you're walking on eggshells

I told her that, i'm focused on my purpose, mission, and i have stuff to do daily, i'm not a guy to go out all the f3ucking time. And waste time on drinks and food. She also is a heavy money spender. Spending money on food and drinks and eating outside all the time.

I do love her, i do wan't her but the above points need to be resolved, i'm thinking of different ways around it.

So any advice is appreciated.

I commend you and salute you for being on your purpose, When you moved in with her was this discussed in regards to the dynamics of your living situation with her?

Personally, I would bring these things up to her, and if they change great, if not then it may be time to reevaluate if you and her a good fit. If this doesn't get addressed and things don't change things will only get worse and she may drag you down in the doom of misery. Remember

Misery loves company...

 

[Clockwerk50]

Sound a lot like what this guy is going through.

Does Being in a Relationship hold you back?

Was wondering about this today. Personally now I'm in a relationship. The chick I'm with is I consider her smart, PHD, good job, good money. But since I'm a very driven person for success I feel that spending time on creating a business, wealth and generally success takes time from my...

www.sosuave.net

Oh wait…

Just out of curiosity, have you done anything that was recommended in that thread back in January? Did it help? Has the dynamic changed?

 

[jhonny9546]

If you just want sex, if she likes reading, let she indirectly find some smut novels, somehow.
This can fix the dead bedroom thing.

Then

they say exposure effect will keep people togheter in a relationship. But then, why those relationship, then, broke up, if the exposure effect still present?

 

[Learning Curve]

Sound a lot like what this guy is going through.

Does Being in a Relationship hold you back?

Was wondering about this today. Personally now I'm in a relationship. The chick I'm with is I consider her smart, PHD, good job, good money. But since I'm a very driven person for success I feel that spending time on creating a business, wealth and generally success takes time from my...

www.sosuave.net

Oh wait…

Just out of curiosity, have you done anything that was recommended in that thread back in January? Did it help? Has the dynamic changed?

Slightly, but she complains mostly about the city, life, not happy, she wants to move back to her city.

This is our main topic of discussion every day.

 

[Learning Curve]

This is one of the main issues right here her life is just working, doesn't she have any hobbies? do you have any hobbies you guys enjoy doing together? like going to the gym, taking walks, going bowling or even watching movies? If the relationship is only based on sex then it's doomed to fail, as it's starting to sound like you guys are becoming roommates instead of lovers. I know OP you mentioned you are in your purpose and I'll get to that in a bit. However, your purpose isn't her purpose(unless you guys agreed to work toward your purpose togther). So what does she do to have fun or do towards her self-growth? If she doesn't have any hobbies or you guys have no hobbies together outside of sex then yikes. Most women who don't have purpose expect the guy to entertain them and be a jestermaxxer. Another thing is that you mentioned she is depressed, is she taking meds? is her depression something that has affected her, her whole life?

We do go to the gym together, and this was my idea. I told her to sign up for Latin classes as she likes to dance, she told me sure, and yet nothing happened.

She does not have long-term goals, aspirations, i told her to set some, to set goals, to find purpose in life. She thinks that this is pointless in the current stage in her life, and she does not know what do or what she likes.

I have tried different techniques of finding what she likes, but nothing really makes her energetic i would say.

She is not on meds or anti-depressants.

I commend you and salute you for being on your purpose, When you moved in with her was this discussed in regards to the dynamics of your living situation with her?

Yeap, but again when you move in with someone you tend to forget the dynamics as time passes by. You get familiar with each-other and you get complacent.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[Learning Curve]

Too early to move in. Won't stop me from saying it.

Ok.

You already made the mistake and you came here to complain. If you want our advice, stop being disrespectful and drop your pride. Own your L and read.

I don't came here to "complain" i came here to ask for an advice. No pride, and i own my sh1t.

You have an insecurity issue. You care too much. And you don't have much going cause you not only moved in with a new girl, but you seem to be thinking about her every day.

This is not a new girl. This is a girl i'm dating for 1 year. Go again and re-read the thread.

What is wrong with caring about someone? Have you become emotionally dead?

IF you are the type of guy, who is dead inside, and bangs and throws ch1cks around, then go and give your advice to those threads.

This thread is based on a relathionship advice, which usually people who are in a relationship need to care for each-other or is a lost cause.

Here's your solution. I could tell you everything about why it's happening, but I'm just going to give you the answer cause you're naive and need a hard truth. DROP HER. MOVE AWAY FROM HER. BE SINGLE FOR A WHILE AND **** SIDE GIRLS.

Bro really, you are clueless. If i neded to drop her, i would have done that already. No need to post here.

Thanks though.

 

[Agamemnon43]

In other words, you don't want to hear that you made a mistake, right? You want to some magic bullet solution that will instantly solve your problem?

Unfortunately, I have bad news for you. She's bored because...are you ready for it...she's got nothing to do. Normally, a woman would be occupying her time by caring after her kids. The only valid reason for moving in with a woman is to start a family. If you're not interested in that because you are focused on your "purpose and mission" (whatever that means), why in the world would you want to live with a woman??

Actually based as fuk.

 

[Canadian_Man]

Depression is difficult, and can be recurring.

There's only so much you can do to help her.

It's possible it will be flipped back on you, as in, being your fault she's depressed, because you're the one "responsible" for her living away from her preferred city.

Coming at it from a different angle, breaking up with her to allow her to move back to her city, might be what she needs.

However, if you want to continue down this path, it has the potential to this to be a continual problem for years, provided she doesn't improve her mental state.

Additionally, if/when she does improve, by making different life style choices & changing her mindset, she will no longer be the person you originally wanted. Whether that translates to you two being compatible afterwards is unknown.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

We do go to the gym together, and this was my idea. I told her to sign up for Latin classes as she likes to dance, she told me sure, and yet nothing happened.

She does not have long-term goals, aspirations, i told her to set some, to set goals, to find purpose in life. She thinks that this is pointless in the current stage in her life, and she does not know what do or what she likes.

I have tried different techniques of finding what she likes, but nothing really makes her energetic i would say.

She is not on meds or anti-depressants.



Yeap, but again when you move in with someone you tend to forget the dynamics as time passes by. You get familiar with each-other and you get complacent.

Thanks for the advice.

And that's why you don't move in with someone unless you are planning to marry them and already have the answer to the question.