She Cheated

[Tweek_1984]

When a woman spills her guts and tells you she only "kissed him", in chick speak it means she swallowed his load. If she admits to sucking his c0ck it really means he busted his load up her dirtchute.

Lose this broad asap.

Despite how bad this should make me feel: :crackup:

 

[penkitten]

i just want you to ask yourself this:
if you can salvage the relationship ....
would you be able to trust her in the future? i mean you guys will still be long distance and there are times when people get lonely.
can you completely trust this not to happen again or to go even further?
because that is what it is going to boil down to, unless you are the type of guy who will just keep taking someone back to have someone regardless on how you are treated.
i am not saying it is going to happen again, however i am asking you to answer that question to yourself and make a choice from there.

if you choose to forgive her and rekindle the relationship, you have to leave the past in the past. there's an old saying that says: you have a two week deadline in bringing up the past. after the two weeks, its over, and you can no longer bring it up to throw it in someone's face. if you were willing to forgive them, then you can't throw it up after the two weeks.

if you choose to go separate ways, then leave it as amicably as possible, with no drama. wouldn't it be nice to look back on one thing and say, it was for the best that we parted before either of us did something to make the other look and feel terrible about?

you know what is best for you, you only posted a thread to see if you could find other's who would help you justify it.

 

[rapsta]

That sucks man. A girl gets drunk or whateverthefvck and whoops, she can't control her hormones anymore. I belive atleast 85% of the women are capable to cheating. We are living in a world full of slvts.
Atleast this girl told you the truth immediately. Not all girls do that.

I haven't read any other replies, and i just skimmed through your first post, but if I was you, I'd find another girl to get infatuated in. What else is there to do when it comes to women?

EDIT (after I've read some more posts):
You say you love her and you want to have a future together etc etc. Tell you what, after 18 months, can you really decide that you wanna marry a person? You haven't even been together that much, you guys live far away from eachother.
What infatuation does to your brain is that you think you know the person you love alot better than you actually do.

And I know exactly how you feel, you want to read our advice, you WANT advice, but we really can't help you as much as you think. We can only give you hints on what to do, and what YOU do with these hints, is up to you. You say you are not interested in sarging bla bla bla. You feel good now, with this girl. You feel complete, you don't need anything else. You had a best friend, and a girl that you "loved" and everything.

Finding a girl that won't cheat on you isn't the easiest task bro. It's like a fvcking trend now. It's like imprinted in the brains that it's ok to cheat. Don't you see the society? Everyone is out drinking and "having fun", everyone wants to "live life" before they get settled and get kids. They wanna fvck their brains out of themselves in their twenties, so they don't feel like they missed out on something when they have settled.

But this isn't a good way of thinking either, it's a glimpse of reality. Thinking that every girl will cheat on you will freak your brains out. If I were you, I would try to adapt. I mean, try not to take things so seriously. Ofcourse you have to think about your future, like you do. But a girl that shows disloyalty THIS EARLY in the relationship is not an angel.

DJDamage is right. Don't let yourself be fooled by believeing it was a "mistake" that she made out with this guy. She has full control of herself. If she was drunk, it was her fault she drank in the first place if she can't control the alcohol rush.

Don't size things up, believeing she is the ONLY ONE for you. Your brain lets you believe that, but it's wrong. There are millions of girls out there. Don't settle for less. If you take back a girl who's cheated on you, you will come out like a guy who is a makes a good future husband. Someone who forgives, whatever happens.. like "for the childrens sake".
Fvck that man, she doesn't want that guy yet, she needs to fvck 20 others first. Leave her alone, let her do her thing. And move on, do something more important than focusing on that "loss".

Whatever you do, don't size things up.. what you've just experienced is NOTHING. Worse things happen every day. This is as common as smearing butter on your bread. So keep fighting not to let your brain enter a negative mode. Take care peace out

 

[danielzxc]

Atleast this girl told you the truth immediately. Not all girls do that.

"At least"? That is the worst thing she could have done. How, pray tell, has her confession helped anything?

And how do you know she told him the whole truth, that she "only" kissed this guy? That's just one more reason why confessions are just so mindlessly stupid, because the person will immediately start imagining all kinds of scenarios far worse than what you confessed to -- and what are you gonna say to stop him, "trust me, that was it"? Why would he trust you after you've just admitted to betraying him? Stupid, stupid, stupid.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah see, right here!

Right here...this is my point.

Hey Tweek, I'm a little tied up right now. Tell you what. Dont' do ANYTHING until I respond to you. Give me around 4 hours, check back later on tonight, late night.

I will respond to you bigtime. Just something to think about until I respond to you is this:

THE DAYS OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE OVER. No matter what anybody tells you, trust me, 90% of women are NO LONGER relationship material.

The sooner you get that and understand it, the sooner you will be able to play the game.

You might be a little depressed and sad at first with this news taht I am about to give you. But what's that period is over, you will be FREE

He doesn't want to play a fvcking game, he wanted a good woman who knew the rules of a LDR. He thought they were on the same page because he was told that. He knew the risk, but it's not his fault she made out with another guy.

 

[Redux]

She told you because she doesn't want to be with you anymore - take the hint kid!!!! Your love for her doeb't count -- she obviously doesn't want you!!!!!

Right on the money.

 

[djbr]

So my girlfriend of 18 months called me tonight and told me that she'd made out with another guy last night.

She was brave enough to tell you. That is admirable.

I met her on my university exchange from the Uk to Canada in 2005/06. I'm currently in my last year of uni in Manchester. So we've been doing the whole long distance thing. However, I spent christmas with her family this christmas and was planning to see her again at the end of this month.

This wasn't enough for her it seems.

The plan was that I'd either move over there and do a masters (I've applied, but yet to hear whether I've been accepted). Or, move over there in the summer and work something out. I would have lived with her either way. We've had it all planned out.

Are you making your plans based on her?!

Dude, you're one year OLDER than me. Let me tell you something. My cousin is six months older than me and can't really take any decision for himself cause he got this girl pregnant of TWINS and he is now chained to her. You do NOT want this. This guy could be going HIGH by now, but he made this mistake and his freedom is forever lost.

Everything in our relationship was pretty strong, apart from the whole long distance relationship. Sure, we've had our issues that I've had a problem with, but she was my rock, until now.

LDRs are weak enough for all the rest to matter.

I told her I needed time to think and I'd call her back, but we'd probably have to end the relationship.

Probably?

I'm a bit shellshocked at the moment and feel sick. If we do split up, I'll have to re-evaluate my whole future. I thought we were going to go the whole way and get married, I love her etc.

Please do re-evaluate your future! You're 22 and making plans for your whole life based on another person? What if she change her mind?

Woops, she just did.

I don't know what to think or do. I need some advice people.

Put YOUR life back on track and do not ever fall for this again. Be single.

I know that the majority of the advice in this tread will be immediately split up with her, but bear in mind that I do love her, and I don't want to make any rash decisions that may drastically affect my whole future. Please take this into consideration.

That's not quite the point. You do love her, but she just do not desire you anymore. If she did she would NEVER EVER touch another guy.

You just can't go back with her. You know you're not ever going to trust het again, and also, you will have doubts about her interest level for as long as you stay with her.

And again, at 22, planning your future based on a woman is just plain insane.

Run man. It will hurt but you'll thank yourself for it in the future.

 

[djbr]

I totally agree with this sentiment. Cheating is not a mistake. I need to find out why she's done this.

You know why.

I was happy with the long distance LTR. If I could cope and was prepared to stay faithful, why wouldn't she?

Cause she did not want to.

I think I'm going to write down exactly how I feel and get everything straight and then call her and put the ball in her court.

Get out of this walking on your feet like a man, not on your knees like a chump.

 

[woods]

LDR's never ever work. You have to be single, and when you see each other, you can pretend you're together, when you are apart, you both need to see other people. You cant be too upset with her making out with someone. She's lonely and doesnt get to see you. I'd be more upset with the fact that she even told you. No good can come from that. Its an LDR. Dont ask, dont tell.dont give up on her, but dont consider it a relationship either. You're asking too much of each other to sit and wait.

 

[Remulak]

LOL If you stay with this girl who cheated on you, you're the biggest tool known to man. Walk away with some fycking dignity! If I ever found out my gf cheated even made out just once with another guy, I'd disappear like a ghost.

Normal Speak:
"hey sorry I made out with some guy at a party last night but I love you!"

woman ese:
"Wow do you actually believe we just made out? You dumb ass he fycked my brains out then proceeded to skull fyck me and blew his load in my face then left, I have zero respect for you but please continue to be my puppy dog!"

 

[muttley]

Im in a sorta LTR now. I love her. If things go well in the future ill marry her ( im taking at least 2 yrs together ). I know how u feel so let me tell u this:


A) She is feeling GUILTY.THIS IS A FACT. Guilt caused her to confess. Guilt or something else , which ill point out below.
B) She probably did alot more than "Just Make Out". If it was "Just Make Out" and was a small or minor thing, WHY TELL YOU? Simple... GUILT, shes feeling so bad and GUILTY. Females rationalise things differently. She is definatly feeling bad about something, who knows what.
C) You cant trust her
D) maybe she told you cos someone saw her cheating and decided to tell u before word got back to u!
E) you dont know what happend, shes only told you so much..
F) Imagine if you did that to her, how do u think she would respond?
G) If you forgive her this will communicate to her that she can OVER STEP the boundaries and that you will forgive her and it will be ok for her. Girls do this all the time, they test how far they can push u. Forgive her and recieve another fone call in a few months......
H) Deep down inside of you , you really know what you should do.
F) disregard any advice given to u by females. Follow their advice at your own peril...

Ive cheated with girls who were married , had boyfrends, LTRs , you name it( ive been the "other guy" they fvck). They did that with no remorse. Given the right circumstances, if the chicks "FEEL IT", they will DO IT.( cheat ). All they need to know is that "word dont get around" and that "it was all SOMEONE ELSES FAULT" that she cheated. Some girls cheat easily, some dont. Some dont cheat at all.

If i found my girl cheated, as much as i love her and want to be with her for teh rest of my life, il break it off. Ill turn my back on her just like that and meet new girls. Your girls needs are not being met and she is seeking them elsewhere.


say this:

"listen INSERT NAME, its been great with u all this time we have known each other and the experiences we have had. You chose another path to walk upon while i was away. If we stay together, who knows what you might do in the future. Im going in the direction i am going and would have wanted you to come with me but thats not gonna happen now. You are free to tread wherever your heart desires. goodbye"


and turn your back on her and walk away. There are better girls out there who will consider your feelings just the same way you consider theirs.


Hope you make right decision.

 

[muttley]

Tweek, if you want to salvage the relationship then you should pay closest attention to the advice I gave you. She didn't have sex with the guy...she kissed him. While that's clearly not good...she DID catch herself and stop. It could have been far worse. And as I said...for her to tell you when she could have easily gotten away with it DOES mean something...she values, respects and most likely loves you. For it to work you have to communicate with her and get beyond it. You shouldn't just avoid or ignore her entirely, either. You should let her know that you are hurt, feel betrayed and need time to think. When you genuinely love someone things like this will not turn the love off. You don't want to send her the message that it's definitely over if you aren't sure yet if it is. The advice on this site is NOT geared towards having successful LTRs. I just made a post in the Tips section about LTRs earlier today...go read that.

Please quit already. Your acting like the girl is innocent. Your assuming that the girl is telling the truth. How on earth can u know she ONLY JUST KISSED HIM? How on earth do u know there isnt another motive behind her confession? what fuelled her confession? Maybe she was caught? Maybe its not the first time shes done it? Maybe it was a geniune mistake? Maybe she is truly sorry? WE JUST DONT KNOW!. You on the other hand are assuming it was a "mistake" and the girls truly sorry. Please dont assume things and dont do that.

Peace.

 

[Corey]

My sympathies man. Get rid.

If you don't she will only do it again. It sucks but tell her you wish her the best and say goodbye.

 

[tobby]

Being around female friends, cousins, and having a sister I can pretty much tell you that this chick did this because she didn't want to be with you. Any chick that wants to keep a relationship with a guy that she likes will NEVER tell the guy that she kissed/made out with someone else. They'll only admit it if they were caught! Some would take that secret to the grave with them.

Wyldfire and penkitten may be honest, but this isn't the norm.

Honestly, I know it's been an 18 month relationship, but LDR's don't really work. It takes a lot of dedication and self-discipline that most people who aren't extremely in love with each other don't have. Considering the fact that any attractive woman gets hit on by multiple guys everyday and women who aren't married are "always searching for prospects" I couldn't see how it would have worked out if you aren't there.

Look it'll take a while to move on, but pick yourself up and find other women out there.

Another point: don't ever make your future plans on someone else. It's too risky, and see how you're a prime example of what can happen! Until you're "MARRIED", you still on your own so don't adjust for anyone until then.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

I thought we were going to go the whole way and get married, I love her etc.

I don't know what to think or do. I need some advice people.

I say get married to the dirty cheating ho.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

LOL If you stay with this girl who cheated on you, you're the biggest tool known to man. Walk away with some fycking dignity! If I ever found out my gf cheated even made out just once with another guy, I'd disappear like a ghost.

Normal Speak:
"hey sorry I made out with some guy at a party last night but I love you!"

woman ese:
"Wow do you actually believe we just made out? You dumb ass he fycked my brains out then proceeded to skull fyck me and blew his load in my face then left, I have zero respect for you but please continue to be my puppy dog!"

But he loooooves her! He can't wait to get married! He just needs someone to tell him that she will never do this again and that its okay to marry the cheating ho, and that they will live happily ever after in the sunset.

Can't you be that person?

 

[djbr]

When a woman spills her guts and tells you she only "kissed him", in chick speak it means she swallowed his load. If she admits to sucking his c0ck it really means he busted his load up her dirtchute.

Lose this broad asap.

!!!!!

 

[SAYNO]

I say get married to the dirty cheating ho.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Tweeky, So she was your "passport" to America?

Well, I don't think she wants you here so she told you about this to keep you away and not to consider coming to America.

She planned this many months ago - she didn't have to tell you about this sordid affair and gotten away with it, but she did tell you because she wanted a life here without you and this was your signal to don't depend on her for your stay in America!

 

[Wyldfire]

How do you guys ever expect to accomplish anything in life when all you ever want to do is run away from even the slightest challenge and give up and quit at the drop of a hat? Those are BAD habits to have. People who get into the habit of running away from problems usually end up in short term dead end jobs, never save any money and their lives typically don't amount to much.