Harry's right. I've been telling you guys that texting kills relationships for years.
All this preaching about "I use texting very effectively" mostly indicates that men have no idea how dangerous it really is.
Nothing under the sun has more potential to ruin things with a woman than texting. In the hands of a man who knows how to use it (like myself, I humbly note) it can be very effective. I use it sparingly, and with the precision of a surgeon. Even then, there is the risk of starting a wildfire that you can't put out. You're dealing with a woman's perceptions and interpretation of what you text, not to mention her mood of the hour, so once the genie is out of the bottle you just end up observing the smouldering embers if it goes bad.
Finally, you should be too busy with life for texting. You should position yourself as accommodating her if you text her back, like you're doing her a favor. She should perceive you as too busy to be texting.
Why? Because excessive texting turns you into her girlfriend. It makes you common, just like all her girlfriends who she chatters away with all day about nothing. You need to avoid being lumped into that pile of vapid female chatter.
If you ever find yourself discussing anything serious at all, you need to stop in your tracks. For a man, texting should be like a sniper who only has 10 bullets. Each one is of extreme value and MUST hit its mark. Every shot must be made deliberately with as much certainty as possible that it will accomplish its purpose. A sniper carefully loads the rifle, observes the wind and temperature, makes his calculations, and fires at the exact right moment. Each shot REVEALS HIS POSITION, and he might well have to move to a different location to rtain invisibility.
Let me repeat that, because I know that flew over some heads:
Each shot reveals his position.
You are a mystery. You are formless and largely invisible. She LOVES to wonder where you are and what you're doing. When she pictures you sitting in a chair with your legs curled up, typing with your big fish stick fingers into that tiny, "cute" little keypad, it's not a good picture.
You're a man who deals with the business of life. You don't have time to sit around texting women. Texting is a women's pastime and is nothing more than a representation of her dull, boring mundane life. Women lead amazingly boring lives and a big part of her boring life is tapping away in inane, meaningless conversation with her equally boring friends.
Don't put yourself in that pipeline.
