Sensing an LJBF move?

[xtxt105]

Okay well I've known this girl, Stacy, for years and I've known that she's had a crush on me for years as well. Anyway I hooked up with her on the first Friday of term and everything went great for about 3 weeks after that. For the first 2 weeks she was the one doing all the contacting. Then on the 3rd week it kinda seemed to fall apart.

I asked her to join me to have sundowners with friends on the Sunday of the 3rd week and she gave me the, "I can't because I have too much work" excuse, and she didn't bother rescheduling. So I thought, oh **** she's gonna LJBF me if I push anymore, and so I cut contact with her.

My best friend (who had then been going out with Stacy's best friend for like 2 years) told me that Stacy was pretty crazy about me before going on dates. I asked him about the last Saturday that I was with her and he said that his girlfriend (her best friend) was kinda pissed at Stacy because she wanted a girls night out with her, but Stacy instead came and chilled with me. Now here's where I'm confused. Like I said, her best friend is dating my best friend (or was), but they broke up that week after Stacy ditched my date offer (NOT because of, after, just incase that sentence sounded ambiguous). Since the 4 of us were so close, could this impending breakup have also contributed to her dropping the date and us not making contact anymore?

I saw her at a friends digs warming party 2 weeks later and we seemed to have a really good time together just talking **** and messing around (but no kissing). From her body language it seemed like she was still interested. I didn't wanna push anything though in fear of the LJBF card coming out.

So what do you guys think? I was thinking of breaking contact until the start of next term to kinda start things anew (a month from now). I know this is serious oneitis but I feel like we can still work something out.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Young padawan, you must learn to gauge these things for yourself. It is the only way to.... uh.... master the force or something. Trial and error is key.

It's good that you recognize this as a oneitis, though. Because it is. You need to be talking to other women right now because you're way too involved in this one that you're not technically even with yet. This will only keep you in a pattern of AFC behavior. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but I promise it's the truth.

Good luck, man.

 

[xtxt105]

Sorry to bring this up again but it's good news: the no contact seemed to work haha. met up with her 2 nights ago and we were making out on the dance floor, I was feeling her up the whole time and she seemed to dig it.

After reading the Book of Pook in the holidays, I realised that I was too androgenous and didn't have a backbone, that's why I decided to escalate by feeling up her ass and legs when making out. But I need help on being a challenge, because she was still giving some sh!t tests during the night, so I don't exactly wanna ask her to come out on Friday, I want her to work for it.

 

[909pua]

If you dont want to be friendzoned, give them the confident sexual stare while conversating and your life will be easier.

 

[xtxt105]

Okay guys I'm so damn confused right now. I know I'm letting my emotions run the ****ing show which I VERY bad, but I dunno how the hell to stop them. Anyway, so like I said we were making out and all and had a good night, but she was giving me sh!t tests. Well I think maybe some of you can help me with the meaning of these tests:

So anyway, she was really keen to come out with my friends and I that night. +1
I was making her laugh the whole time. +1
Then made out with her on the dance floor and felt her up which she didn't mind. +1
I could sense there were a few things that made her a little jelous also that night like talking to other girls and ignoring her for a little while doing it (I thought that's what being a challenge was about). +1?

But now this is where I got so damn confused as to her signals: she went to buy a drink, and then came back but didn't sit down next to me again. She just stood next to me while I was sitting down and we carried on with the light hearted convo and jokes. I thought it was a test and I didn't wanna get pulled into her frame so I didn't get up and stand with her, I just carried on talking. Then after about 5 minutes of this, she went and sat on the other side of the table with another guy. I thought okay it's a sh!t test so ignored it and talked to my female friend who was sitting next to me. But after a few minutes of this she (the one I'm interested in not my female friend) leans over the table and pokes me in the side of the head and smiles, I make a sarcastic comment and we all have a laugh. After that I was almost certain that it was a sh!t test and I had won.
Then about 10 minutes later I invite her to hit the dance floor with me again which we do. We have a lot of fun making out and doing stupid dance moves on a strip pole. So I thought, "Okay, she's in my frame again, nice!". But when we leave the dance floor she says she's going to the bathroom, and when she comes back she sits next to another guy at our table who's like a few seats down. All this time I made as if it didn't phase me at all.

Anyway, it was getting late and I felt like I wasn't gonna go anywhere with this that night so I went over to her and said cheers, then said cheers to some other people. Once I was finishing saying the goodbyes to everyone she comes over to me and says happily, she's making new psychology friends that were in her class or something. She then hugs me and says, "see you later in the week".

Then the next day I see her facebook status is that she had an awesome night.

WTF just happened?! I'm so goddamn confused. Why'd she do what she did?! I thought maybe it was because she got too jealous of me talking to the other chicks. Also she might have overheard my stupid ass female friend saying, "please take her (my interest not the female friend) home tonight", but I highly doubt it since it was kinda soft and she'd just returned from buying a drink. And I was a lot better looking than her psyc friends (a lot were really nerdy also).

So what do I do now? I didn't ask her out last night but **** I wanted to see her bad (I know, emotions are damn evil!). I dunno if I should just try and bump into her again since there are only like 4 spots to go out at night, or ask her out sometime next week.

Sorry for this soppy gay ****, but girls are soooo damn confusing sometimes.

EDIT: oh, and BTW we NEVER see each other on campus since we do totally different degrees, so when she said, "see you later in the week", she meant socially like this night (another goddamn confusion).

 

[Kailex]

Supreme over-thinking.

Just call her in a few days and ask her out.
That's one sure-fire way to know whether she's still interested or not. She came out with you and FRIENDS, but there was no isolation for the entire night.

And just because you are better looking than other people (in you own mind), it doesn't mean that you are the shoe-in. Maybe one of those other guys is a member on these forums and took her to bed that night.

And stop stalking people's facebook statuses.... I sincerely HATE THAT.

You have her phone number, right? Just call her in a day or two and ask her out, 1 on 1... and then go from there.

I'm pretty sure you'll have your answer there.

 

[xtxt105]

Okay **** yea guess ill ask her out again some time. shot dude.

EDIT: there was isolation when we went to dance. But other than that not much else, I'm guessing isolation is important?