From my observations and experiences, many women go into relationships seeking security and will keep striving for it as long as it eludes them.
This is why even the nicest, most monogomous women will blow off a nice guy in favour of a jerk/player. Women want their men to be unpredictable and live for the thrill of the chase. They may seek love and security, but on a subconscious level, they never truly want to find it.
This is where most good, caring guys fail. They are a little too compassionate and don't want to hurt or deceive anyone. They try too hard to make their woman feel secure and happy and sadly for them, this usually leads to her becoming complacent and taking them for granted.
Speaking from experience, whenever I start seeing women or showing interest, they're always cautious of me. They love my attention, but they suspect I'm a player and never sure if I'm misleading them or if my interest is serious. YET this is when their interest is at the highest. They get jealous, confused, a little posessive and like putty in my hands (my current gf is at this stage).
Until recently I could never work out why a woman could put me on a pedestal one day, then LJBF me only weeks after we started dating. But now I know. Instead of keeping her on her toes, I'd try to win her trust and reassure her I'm not a player, I'm a good guy and I'm only interested in her. If she asked about my day I'd avoid telling her about any women I spent time with, or if she enquired about women, I'd reassure her they're just mates and I have no interest. If I got a call from a female friend, I'd tell her "it's just a mate", all to make her feel more secure. Bad move, because this is when they all start getting complacent and lose interest in me.
Why would she compete for a prize she's already won?
I don't believe you have to act like a jerk or a player to maintain interest, but if you're a good guy, learn to defy your compassionate instincts once in a while - postpone a date or two, occasionally tell her you're too busy to talk, drop the names of female friends, let her wonder where you are and what you're upto and keep the challenge alive.
This is why even the nicest, most monogomous women will blow off a nice guy in favour of a jerk/player. Women want their men to be unpredictable and live for the thrill of the chase. They may seek love and security, but on a subconscious level, they never truly want to find it.
This is where most good, caring guys fail. They are a little too compassionate and don't want to hurt or deceive anyone. They try too hard to make their woman feel secure and happy and sadly for them, this usually leads to her becoming complacent and taking them for granted.
Speaking from experience, whenever I start seeing women or showing interest, they're always cautious of me. They love my attention, but they suspect I'm a player and never sure if I'm misleading them or if my interest is serious. YET this is when their interest is at the highest. They get jealous, confused, a little posessive and like putty in my hands (my current gf is at this stage).
Until recently I could never work out why a woman could put me on a pedestal one day, then LJBF me only weeks after we started dating. But now I know. Instead of keeping her on her toes, I'd try to win her trust and reassure her I'm not a player, I'm a good guy and I'm only interested in her. If she asked about my day I'd avoid telling her about any women I spent time with, or if she enquired about women, I'd reassure her they're just mates and I have no interest. If I got a call from a female friend, I'd tell her "it's just a mate", all to make her feel more secure. Bad move, because this is when they all start getting complacent and lose interest in me.
Why would she compete for a prize she's already won?
I don't believe you have to act like a jerk or a player to maintain interest, but if you're a good guy, learn to defy your compassionate instincts once in a while - postpone a date or two, occasionally tell her you're too busy to talk, drop the names of female friends, let her wonder where you are and what you're upto and keep the challenge alive.
