Scared of losing my virginity

[duke007]

Originally posted by Unbridled_1
Apparently he got over his fear

I thought he died of SARS?

That reminds me of a sad story. This kid in my sister's class lost his virginity one week before he died in a car accident at 18. Good thing he went through with it.

Just remember, don't pass up an opportunity to lose your virginity because you might DIE next week.

 

[Wiesman44]

a 28 year old slut from the club huh ? Have you checked down south yet ?

If IT turned green, I'd reccommend seeing a doctor. Hell, if its black, its probably gangrene and thats a bad sign.

 

[Unbridled_1]

Alboh, you live in Montreal, live it up , man

 

[The_Shnitz]

Sheesh, im nearly 21 and im still a virgin

Ok, I saw this thread and read the sob stories and just thought i would add to the list.

Yes, i am a virgin. I have worried about this a lot in the past but it doesnt seem to bother me as much as it used to, i mean about 6 months ago i almost had a nervous breakdown because of my lack of action with women. I still aint getting any but am focussing on my life a lot more, I am doing some stuff at uni that i have been meaning to do for a while and enjoying life a lot more. I think next term i will make a real concious effort to get a girlfriend.

Heres my deal.

I want to 'make love' to a nice wholesome, good looking girl that i care somewhat for....the first time.

I want to have a girlfriend like this that i can bang for the first few times and then after that i reackon that i will have improved confidence and will be ready to bang some real sluty types!...well, you know. Basically, i want to have a lot of sex in my life 'allways thinkin about sex but that i havn't had yet' as Axl Rose says!

Anyway, the point of my post. I have been through an excruciating time of self hate and hating the world and all that, mostly brought about through my laziness and lack of action with women. I am now in quite a content place where i cant be bothered anymore and i would really like some poon but cant get it together to get any BUT I AM NOT TEARING MYSELF UP ABOUT IT. Now.... all you people seem to be somewhere in this scale, what I think I need, and probably many of you lot too is PRESSURE! Pressure to actually do something about this virginity situation. Pressure and excercise, because excersize increases activity.

Sorry, im rambling..... this issue has been the bane of my existence.

I have tried to bang some real ugs in my time just to lose it, and for whatever reason i didnt, and im DAMM GLAD THAT I DIDNT!!! ooh lordy, what a disgrace it would be to lose your virginity to some ugly bird that you dont even fancy.

So anyway.....its not that having 'had sex' that matters, its the 'having had sex' and 'having had sex with a quality partner'

YES!

What I propose to do is see if i can get a girlfriend....and for the first time GET REALLY DRUNK WITH HER!!!

THIS IS THE ANSWER....

GET REALLY DRUNK WITH A GIRL YOU LIKE AND THEN THE SEX WILL BE FUNNY AND YOU AINT EXPECTED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING WHEN YOU ARE DRUNK ANYWAY!!!! IF YOU DO SOMETHING WRONG, (WHICH I EXPECT YOU WONT) IT WONT MATTER, BECAUSE THE TWO OF YOU ARE DRUNK!!!!

and after this you will no longer be a virgin. You are free to venture into the world with the knowledge that you have conquered one girls body and there are many more to follow!!!!

AVAUNT!!

Go fourth, and **** her brains out!

 

[Ragin_Asian]

Man I was a virgin until this year. I was so hung up on my ex-oneitis that I still hoped on getting back with her and saving my virginity until making love to her. So I held out for stupid reasons and I used that excuse because I couldnt get a root.

I lost it to a punkish, depressed girl who loves the c*ck. I previously hooked up with her a year before that so it was easier to let it happen as she initiated it. Needless to say I regret it sometimes but I had to get rid of the desperation hanging over me. If I didn't do it I would have been all AFC still cos I needed to let it out of my system (and into hers lol).

I lasted for well over 2 hours (foreplay and oral sex on each other made it last) cos I was drunk too. It was straight out caveman sex yet I felt very guilty for losing it. I think watching porn a lot gave me good pointers and it made her think I sleep with girls a lot lol. I did like 5 positions and I even put my hands behind my head while she gave me head lol. She wouldnt have known I was a virgin then.

My advice?? Watch a lot of porn and take notice on everything. you can call me a porn critic if you must but it will help you with your bedroom antics. If you can imagine yourself re-doing the scene from the clips then it will be a lot less harder for when you actually do it. That is very important as your mind just autopilots towards it. It also takes the edge of it. Just don't whack off too much to it. It helps if you dont watch gangbangs or Rocco movies lol.

If you already have a girl then phone sex to her what you would like to be doing with her and listen to what she wants the both of you to do. It helps if your both away on holidays and adds to the tension. If both are still uneasy on sex just o dry humping and be creative on positions so when the real deal comes its all a matter of just letting your wang out for her to enjoy. This has worked for me but I dunno how you guys would do though.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Ragin_Asian

I lost it to a punkish, depressed girl who loves the c*ck. I previously hooked up with her a year before that so it was easier to let it happen as she initiated it. Needless to say I regret it sometimes but I had to get rid of the desperation hanging over me. If I didn't do it I would have been all AFC still cos I needed to let it out of my system (and into hers lol).

I lasted for well over 2 hours (foreplay and oral sex on each other made it last) cos I was drunk too. It was straight out caveman sex yet I felt very guilty for losing it. I think watching porn a lot gave me good pointers and it made her think I sleep with girls a lot lol. I did like 5 positions and I even put my hands behind my head while she gave me head lol. She wouldnt have known I was a virgin then.

How friggen funny! I lost mine to some punkish, depressed chik to LOL.....Yep I was drunk too..funny

My advise to anyone about to lose it is -
1. dont tell her your a virgin
2. watch some porno beforehand so you know what to do
3. a little alcohol will DEFINITELY help...Not to much though
4. wear a jimmy
5. relax and enjoy the awkwardness as much as possible

 

[WeakMenNeverRise]

Reading this post has been rather entertaining. Especially the one about the 50 year old virgin. I think by that point you might as well say the hell with it, and focus on world peace or perhaps becoming a monk or somethin like that. One thing thats interesting is the fact that those of you who are still virgins are virgins because you want to be. Whether you don't want to bone a slut or you just want it to be "perfect. " That said, yall shouldn't feel bad about it. Its not like you CAN'T get any, you just have really high standards. Now that being said, you all are definitely in the minority here. I mean nobody wants to bone a slut but when I was still a virgin at 17, I would have boned just about anything. At that point my brain moved from my head to my schlong and I wasn't in control anymore. And a piece of advice, NEVER EVER EVER tell a girl you are a virgin unless yall are straight soulmates. They may say its cool but its not. Girls know how guys are and they will think you are weird. Finally, don't think that sex is the end all be all of life. I guarantee you once you finally have it you'll be like dang, this is not a big of deal as I thought it was. And one more piece of advice NEVER EVER EVER EVER beat raw unless you are either married or have been dating a girl for at least 8 months. I'm tellin yall, that shinobi is out there and that aint what ya want.

 

[dietzcoi]

Yeah, a lot of guys lose it to a complete sleaze bag ( I did at 19) so what? That is what they are for....

Protect yourself and do not think it is such a big deal. If you romantacize it you will put yourself in danger of oneitis or whatever....

But be careful... if you get some ho pregnant you will be ruined. Listen and learn

Dietzcoi

 

[akindofblue]

I look back at the reactions on this thread and smile. How incredibly meaningless peer pressure is at this point in my life. Listen, guys. Our society is waaaay over-sexed at the moment. If you look at the statistics, those who wait until marriage to have sex are both more satisfied with their sex and more satisfied with their marriages than those who don't.

With that said, I'm probably going to give my virginity to my girlfriend in the coming weeks at the age of 26. I've had several girlfriends in the past, several beautiful girlfriends. In a way, I consider myself lucky to have had religious girlfriends through life, particularly religious French girlfriends. The former because they understood my commitment to marriage and my future wife and to the purity of my own body. The latter because they were still exceptionally passionate and expressive. (Yeah, so I have a French-fetish.)

I think it's really unfortunate that (at least in certain areas; not so much in mine) our society places so much pressure on kids to have sex (and yes, most of you are still kids; that includes those in college). I'm extremely happy that I've waited this long, and at this point, I feel mature enough to avoid some of the pitfalls I've seen a number of friends fall in regarding sex.

Don't think you have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself. Let things happen when they happen. Our society is so bent on sex that it's forgot love-making, IMHO. Whatever it's worth...