This article illustrates more than the writer intends:
http://archives.cnn.com/2000/HEALTH/03/15/divorce.suicide.wmd/index.html
The article says that there is a high suicide rate for divorced men. The suicide rate for divorced women and single men is much lower, so much lower that this article was written to wonder why it is so.
What is funny is that the story interviews the *experts*: psychologists or family law people. In other words, these the 'egghead' people.
Never once in the article do they interview a divorced man. They also do not remark on the suicide notes these men make.
However, any one of us can go and ask a divorced man why divorced men are highly likely to commit suicide. They tell me they are not surprised at all by such statistics. They say many divorced men want to commit suicide because:
-They found out the hard way that the wife was not who she said she was. She ends up becoming a demi-devil, initiating the divorce, creating lies about her husband, and attempts to turn the kids against him.
-That his 'deep love' was used as a manipulation tool.
-Realization that the law and family courts are stacked in the woman's favor.
-But the big reason is the fact that he cannot start anew. He is forever bound financially. He must pay child support and 'support' for the wife. He does not mind child support (since he knows it is his job as a father to take care of his children) but is furious that there is no overseer that all the money goes to the kids, or that the 'amount' of money for the kids is justified.
This is what they have told me. Now let us see the reasons the *eggheads* have. Speak eggheads!
super-human female powers that men do not, such as creating networks of social support with other women, and women are so superior to men with their super feminine powers that they have much deeper friendships."
We know better. Friendship among women is paper thin, they stab their girlfriend in the back if it suits them.
If your best bud came by and had a hot new girlfriend, you think, "Hey, I ought to get myself a hot new girlfriend too!"
For women it is different. The girl finds her best girlfriend comes by and has a hot new boyfriend, she thinks, "OMG, I MUST have that guy!! I'll do anything for it even if I have to slit that b*tch's throat!"
Deep friendship indeed.
But the article hilariously undermines itself by including single men as having much less suicide than divorced men. Single men, like all men, would be, in the egghead's eyes, inferior to women's super-human social network and friendship abilities.
Another egghead says:
What is most sad is that men see the family as breaking up, the women often see it as a family upgrade. "Look kids, you're getting a new father. An upgraded better father!"
These questions are not asked. The article gives us this explanation:
But, eggheads, pray tell, surely the women suffer as well?
"Blasphemy! How dare you say such a thing!"
If it wasn't an improvement, then why do most women initiate the divorce anyway?
The article is not concerned about that. Nor does it dare ask such questions.
What the article does tell us is that men's talents differ from women with one thing:
Self destruction.
Already, the article lists men cope with stress in self destructive ways. Divorced men commit more suicides not because they are 'sadder' than the divorced women, but because men are more violent as a gender!
"That is extreme for you to say."
But what other conclusion can be made from the following:
Also, the higher the age, the less likely the man can start over.
If the 51 percent is true, then that means African American men commit suicide at a rate of 2-1 against women. This is still majorly flopsided. Perhaps this is seen as 'normal' in the eggheads' eyes since they think all men naturally fall to patterns of self destruction.
This quote is insulting to say the least. Anything men do is their fault. The article says that divorces are man's fault. It also says that men kill themselves because they are inferior to women (since they lack the female super-support ability).
http://archives.cnn.com/2000/HEALTH/03/15/divorce.suicide.wmd/index.html
The article says that there is a high suicide rate for divorced men. The suicide rate for divorced women and single men is much lower, so much lower that this article was written to wonder why it is so.
What is funny is that the story interviews the *experts*: psychologists or family law people. In other words, these the 'egghead' people.
Never once in the article do they interview a divorced man. They also do not remark on the suicide notes these men make.
However, any one of us can go and ask a divorced man why divorced men are highly likely to commit suicide. They tell me they are not surprised at all by such statistics. They say many divorced men want to commit suicide because:
-They found out the hard way that the wife was not who she said she was. She ends up becoming a demi-devil, initiating the divorce, creating lies about her husband, and attempts to turn the kids against him.
-That his 'deep love' was used as a manipulation tool.
-Realization that the law and family courts are stacked in the woman's favor.
-But the big reason is the fact that he cannot start anew. He is forever bound financially. He must pay child support and 'support' for the wife. He does not mind child support (since he knows it is his job as a father to take care of his children) but is furious that there is no overseer that all the money goes to the kids, or that the 'amount' of money for the kids is justified.
This is what they have told me. Now let us see the reasons the *eggheads* have. Speak eggheads!
Translated: "Women do not commit as much after-divorce suicide because they are superior to men. Women have
super-human female powers that men do not, such as creating networks of social support with other women, and women are so superior to men with their super feminine powers that they have much deeper friendships."
We know better. Friendship among women is paper thin, they stab their girlfriend in the back if it suits them.
If your best bud came by and had a hot new girlfriend, you think, "Hey, I ought to get myself a hot new girlfriend too!"
For women it is different. The girl finds her best girlfriend comes by and has a hot new boyfriend, she thinks, "OMG, I MUST have that guy!! I'll do anything for it even if I have to slit that b*tch's throat!"
Deep friendship indeed.
But the article hilariously undermines itself by including single men as having much less suicide than divorced men. Single men, like all men, would be, in the egghead's eyes, inferior to women's super-human social network and friendship abilities.
Another egghead says:
The number one reason I hear from divorced men of why they DON'T commit suicide is because of their children.
What is most sad is that men see the family as breaking up, the women often see it as a family upgrade. "Look kids, you're getting a new father. An upgraded better father!"
If the woman initiates the divorce, why does the man feel guilty? A man can be guilty for many things, and he can make mistakes as a husband (for he is Human and Humans make mistakes). But it is unreasonable to conclude that the man is always guilty. How did the woman fare as a wife? Could part of the problem be due to the woman at all?
These questions are not asked. The article gives us this explanation:
Translation: "He doesn't get it because he is stupid. Women cannot even be partially blamed because women's communication skills, as we all know, are super-human for each woman is a social-genius and we would do well to learn from such genius."
But, eggheads, pray tell, surely the women suffer as well?
So what do the women do to 'cope'? The article does not say, it merely goes on. The article says the women also must 'cope' but it never hints at anything. For all we know, women cope well with divorces (not because they possess super-human emotional talents) but because they see it as an improvement in their lives.
"Blasphemy! How dare you say such a thing!"
If it wasn't an improvement, then why do most women initiate the divorce anyway?
The article is not concerned about that. Nor does it dare ask such questions.
What the article does tell us is that men's talents differ from women with one thing:
Self destruction.
Already, the article lists men cope with stress in self destructive ways. Divorced men commit more suicides not because they are 'sadder' than the divorced women, but because men are more violent as a gender!
"That is extreme for you to say."
But what other conclusion can be made from the following:
So according to this, women are equally distressed about their divorce. They, however, have a lower suicide rate because they try to kill themselves but they lack the 'self destruction' talents that the article says men hold.
We know that if a man is poor, a woman won't marry him in the first place. So where did this poverty come from? Could it have come from the payments along with the home?
Also, the higher the age, the less likely the man can start over.
How does it 'suggest' it? The article does not say. How does this correlation hint at the causation of lack of social support? There is no answer.
If the 51 percent is true, then that means African American men commit suicide at a rate of 2-1 against women. This is still majorly flopsided. Perhaps this is seen as 'normal' in the eggheads' eyes since they think all men naturally fall to patterns of self destruction.
Translated: "The reason why divorced men are slaughtering themselves is the fault due to artificial gender roles. We must indoctrinate young men to be more like women so they will adopt the feminine super-human communication/social network/deep friendships that women have. Men, currently, are inable to have friendships. Thus, we need more feminity in society so they will adopt the super-powers that women have."
This quote is insulting to say the least. Anything men do is their fault. The article says that divorces are man's fault. It also says that men kill themselves because they are inferior to women (since they lack the female super-support ability).
