Richard Cooper - The Unplugged Alpha (2021) Book Review

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Sending messages behind an electronic screen to a woman you've never met in person before is a low return on effort activity. That was true in the dating website era and has been true in the swipe app era.

The better play is meeting women in real life.

Arranging first dates in real life leads to a better chance of positive outcomes (shorter term sex or longer term relationships with sex being common desired outcomes).

Some guys can also get same night sex from a bar approach. Same day sex off of an approach in a non-bar venue is super rare and barely worth mentioning. Approaches in non-bar venues usually require a bar date/activity date to get to sex.
You're right, sending messages to broads you've never met behind an electronic screen is a low return on investment.

What I had the highest success rate with as far as tech methods was posting Craigslist ads (back when Craigslist allowed you to post personal/sex ads). That's ideal because rather than wasting your time cold-messaging broads galore, you simply post your ad and let her come to you.

Even cold-messaging on dating sites, however, got me more success in college than in-person approaches did.
 

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Today's dating landscape cannot be compared to ten years ago. Even if ten years feels like yesterday.
Yeah: Ten years ago, our entire civilization wasn't ensnared in analysis paralysis to the degree we are today
 

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It's an interesting thought experiment to try to figure out how a person would react if entering the dating market in 2024 after a 10 year relationship.

Someone who was in a steady relationship from 2014-2024 likely got married at some point during that time and is possible re-entering the market with a child/children.

Smartphones and text messages had been well established by 2014.

Tinder launched in 2012 and had made its presence felt by 2014. Ghosting and flaking were big by 2014.

I don't think 10 years ago is that much of a change though a man would likely feel rusty if not having had to seduce new people since then.
20 years ago we had MySpace, MSN with the girls with hearts and smiley's in their profile names and cellphones. We had rockband that seemed unstoppable.

Fast forward ten years. Rock is gone, MsN is gone. Ten years ago Tinder was still newish and online dating was still frowned upon. Nobody knew that an obsese 50y.0 hb3 would get a full inbox in the matter of hours. Facebook was unstoppable and we were ballzdeep into hiphop.

That's why I say 20 yeas feels like yesterday. Meanwhile we have Amazon, Facebook is dying and every woman older than 40 grew up with OLD. Meanwhile we have an entire generation of men who are invincible in the dating market.

Popular culture didn't progress hence the endless stream of remakes and remixes. This makes US feel as if tike stands still: it does NOT.

It will take another 5/10 years to determine what's going on today.
 

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Yeah: Ten years ago, our entire civilization wasn't ensnared in analysis paralysis to the degree we are today
Our own progress might be our downfall.

You need people to repopulate society. On an individual level nobody think about the greater good. It would be interesting to go 100 years ahead in time and see the results
 
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