reverse FR: iqqi goes to mardi gras, runs away with gypsy boy

[iqqi]

update

wuddup fellas. he showed up. he's been here for a day so far. things have been really crazy, and i have been really torn about things.

it seems like a lot of yall think that by me leaving with him i am giving up my life here. no! my life will always be my life. my friends, my family, everything i have here...will be here. i have left home before on a whim! when i was 19 i left for 2 years ALONE, just to experience another city. that is a passion of mine, experiencing places. but home is home.

honestly the only thing that might be different when i returned, and most likely, is my rappaboy. he would have been the only thing i was really leaving. we have become extremely close, and only getting closer. and that was the hardest part. i spent the 3 days before the juggler came with him exclusively, no breaks.

well juggler came. he is here. and i like him alot. but he has unstable social issues. he reminds me of my wolf (i have one unfortuantely- do not make the same mistake!). he latched on to me, but is extremely uncomfortable and paranoid around others. he does not know how to make real conversation at all. i am sure if i went with him, though, i'd be fine. because i can see through that he is a good person, and he wouldn't hurt me.

but...i discovered i couldn't leave rappaboy behind. we aren't finished here. and i don't know how to keep both, i don't know how to be anything but monogamous. ha i wish i could! be a player that is!

so i am just hanging out with juggler while he is here, he knows i am not coming with him and that we can keep in touch. who knows for the future. and i went back to rappaboy and what is comfortable and normal, what i KNOW, and am prepared to watch the "gypsy wagon" pass me by. maybe when i don't have any stings that tie me down here, i will be able to leave.

all of your concern about this decision has been touching!

 

[DankNuggs]

drama queen....

p.s. Provided anything you said have a shred of truth, I bet you were using this little fiasco to stir up your other dude....

If i was in a quasi relationship with a girl who spent three days talking about the pros and cons of taking off with a circus performer, I'd slap a couple stamps on her forehead and drop her off at the post office....

 

[Abnigh9]

Warning: I just skimmed through this thread so don't assume if I said anything that's been said or whatever.
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Iqqi, I guess we care for you simply because this society (the DJs) all care for each other, whether they're harsh or not is how you look at it.

Now as for the guy you want to "run away" with. Good luck... keep a gun under your pillow. I tell this to my daughter all the time because she, like you, want adventure, the chemistry, etc.
She went out with this dude who claims to own a high paying job and has to go to work "tomorrow". When he came home (not sure what exactly has he been doing outside) to my daughter, he brought her upstairs, they were kissing (I hate it when they do it in front of me! ) she was telling him "to slow down, she's not ready and since they're going out, she doesn't want to do it yet, only somewhere when they're in a good place like marriage". The guy was out of his mind, he said "no, you're gonna do it now, look it's already growing". He pushed her head to the groin, and tried to take off her clothes.
Of course as she got more nervous she screamed, I ran up dropping the book I was reading. The guy was like "oh it's not what it seems, I can explain".
Nonetheless I beat the **** out of him and called the police. And trust me, the guy has to breathe on something else. (moral of the story: 1- be careful 2- never mess with an angry father's kid 3- never mess with an experienced fighter 4- never swing at me, it doesn't work, I'll just break in and break your nose and kill you 5- how stupid can you get? having sex with the parents downstairs!)

Btw, (I love gloating ) when I pushed him to the side I kept gouging the guy, he was like "oh it's not rape" and so forth. I asked my daughter what the hell was he doing, she just cried. I knew it was rape. Boom out of anger (C'MON! don't rape! if she says no, BACK OFF!.. jeez you afc sonuva*****es) I tripped him, brought him down to the floor, choked him (his face was red, then white) then repeatedly punched his nose. I was joyous too! Hahaha I was almost laughing when I punched him. I threw him on the bed and I screamed "wanna ****?!", turn him around, he was like "oh ****, gimme a chance man! please!" and screaming like a lil *****, I did a rear naked-choke. The guy could hardly move or talk.
Got up, threw him next to the window (until I realize he was literally dying) I said "you're lucky I have a conscious, otherwise I would've thrown you out of this 3 story high house!"

He falls, can't move, I call the cops. My daughter gets interrogated. We're both arrested. I sue the guy (I just found out he's only 17?!) and he gets a 3-year plus other counts including the "alleged" rapes.

Hahaha joyous moments of fighting. Man I love my two hands. They do a lot of good jobs.

Ever since this happened, my entire neighbor calls me "the angry man who killed two bird with his fists". What a great nickname too. Lol!

I just hope that my daughter's experience can be learnt by you regardless of what situation you're in. Every situation is different but if you mistake the morals, you can be fked big time. Even if the bastard get caught, your life is thrown out of the window.

 

[Page]

lol, you beat the shyt out of that guy. I don't blame you, punks like him will get their comeuppance in spades sooner or later anyway.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Brain droppings

I'm not sure why I even bother expending the effort to respond to you iqqi. There are just too many bothersome itches for me to ignore without fearing a rash. In fact you're such a constant irritation to me that I am more than perfectly not only inclined, but prepared to play the @$$-hole here. So here goes. The first of the many things I am compelled to say is this:

YOU'VE OBVIOUSLY MADE UP YOUR MIND SO QUIT PROLONGING THIS THREAD!!!

No. Really. Tell me how anything anyone has said here is going to influence you in the slightest possible way to quit fuggin around and do what you already know to be the best course of action, despite how much you want, you yearn, you pinde desperately for an alternate plane of existence where it could be otherwise and you could have your heart's desire.

Oh yeah, then there's this reoccuring gem...

WAKE THE FVCK UP!!!

Men are not projects! They are fuggin people!

If he's a bastid to everyone else, he's going to be a bastid to you, so save that bad-boy-with-a-soft-spot crap for your masturbatory fantasies and those dime romance novels you've obviously been reading as non-fiction.

Oh, here's another beauty:

Have you ever stopped to wonder why you find yourself with such Deusch3bags? Because you court them with your blissful ignorance...

That very same blissful ignorance which is prodding you to go galavanting all over everywhere with a guy you just met because, he's cute and (this being the most ludicrous part) he told you he would take care of you.

Oh, and here's the best yet!:

You said he was from louisiana? Well I'm in Vegas and I can smell that bullsh1t from here!

Here's a hint before you even get the urge to have an inkling to even think about posting here again:

GROW THE FVCK UP AND QUIT WASTING OUR TIME!!!

And saving the best for last:

We have better things to do and more important affairs to attend to than the latest insipid heart palpitations of vapid princess wannabe. There are too many girls exactly like you to suffer you gladly or pay you any of the special attention you wh0re yourself for.

-Cyrano

 

[WestCoaster]

How does that pathetic Billy Joel song go?

"She's always a woman to me."

That should be "she's always an AMERICAN woman to me."

Iqqi follows the stereotype of most U.S. women: think a guy is cute, therefore he must be worth chasing. Doesn't matter that he's not a nice guy or doesn't treat people well, including herself. Her self-esteem is so shot that she thinks this is the kind of treatment she deserves, therefore as you aptly put it, she cultivates these kinds of guys.

You, me, the rest of the DJ's on this site knew it was a collasal failure from the start -- well, there were a few AFCs saying "chase your dreams" or whatever -- but most people with an ounce of common sense knew this was Americanwomanish, i.e., stupid from the start.

Iqqi can post here all she wants but her opinions have absolutely no validity with me ever again. She's a bumbling American woman.

 

[myfriendblu]

Re: How does that pathetic Billy Joel song go?

Originally posted by WestCoaster
[BShe's a bumbling American woman. [/B]

I think she is the biggest moron on this board

 

[Legend]

well said CyranoDeBergerac


iqqi...i cant believe you are in love....shes in love!! Love i tell ya...LOVE!!

 

[ManOMan]

Isnt it the weirdest thing in the world, for a guy to travel 1000 to meet a girl he just met last week? desperation? just a lie?

I havent known iqqi like you folks do, but most of her stories are inconsistent jibberjabber, I think its mostly to amuse herself

while somewhat entertaining, I wouldnt waste my time giving advice on something like this

reminds me of the thread where a girl came on here saying she wants to go to New York and be a escort/prostitute, and was wondering if th Bishop Don Juan hung around this forum

 

[iqqi]

hahahha, well thanks i guess!

as for those of you who think i have lost my mind, whatever to that. i am just not defining my life by the same standards as you. you only live once, is my philosophy. you can say all the smart comments you want, but i love the people who come into my life (due to this same openness that i extend to jugglerboy). i am proud of the wide assortment of people and characters in my life. they make my life one that i enjoy living. yes you heard me right, i enjoy my life.

me leaving with him would not be me escaping a life i don't like. i already said this earlier. if you go on a vacation, is it because you don't like your life? no, it is because you are taking a vacation, seeing something new, experiencing something else. that is what i was doing.


i had backups in case something happened. trust me, i did. but i don't let fear of something hold me back. i weigh things out first. i believe i would have been fine.

but i am not going with him. aiiight? not this time. we can get to know each other first. if he still wants to keep in touch. right now he feels like he is very hurt and upset with me. so who knows the future of this odyssey.

BTW, i am not writing this for any specific reason. it is a field report, haha. and i appreciate the insight.

 

[Trogdawg]

You know i wish you would have gone so you would have gotten fvcked over. Yep, you heard me I wish that reality would slap the zits right off your face. I'm sick of little girls thinking they'd be 'just fine' and that they've thought of everything. Nothing bad could happen to them, oh no NO NO. Cuz your SO SMART.

Now you have an 'upset' guy. Well, jee I wonder why he could be a little 'upset'. Could it be that he traveled how far for a little girl and when he gets there she fvcks him over with let's just be friends. Get to know him? How? via email? Please. May the good Lord give you protection and lift your veil of ignorance.

 

[WestCoaster]

Don't compromise on two things

Well, I have a rich life full of friends and interesting experiences, but I've yet to run off with the two-headed lady from the circus. When it comes to a love relationship or the potential of one I guard myself closely. Being impulsive about a guy you just met is crazy.

There are two things in this world one should never, ever compromise on:

1. Who you are married or in a long term relationship with.

2. Your career.

Much of the time in your life will be spent with a partner and on the job -- better enjoy both of them.

And to find out if you will enjoy the time you spend with a person you need to spend time with them.

Iqqi's quick trigger shows me she doesn't really value relationships, she values the "feeling" of being in a relationship or the old cliche "you only live once," which has spawned many a fatherless child in this country.

 

[ManOMan]

iqqi , just out of curiosity,

what are some of your hobbies, and career/school goals?

you said you work in a hotel and like to write.

to me it sounds like you invest a great amount of energy thinking about love and relationships, even when your friends left to go do something cultural at the museum, you declined to go get drunk and meet guys

 

[jakethasnake]

What the fvck...?

What the fvck is this shyt, guys?


Just look at yourselves.... three fvcking pages of tempers lost and attention over some... girl!


Like it or not, iqqi has become some 'superstar' on this forum, where guys pay way too much attention to her posts, anaylzing it like their lives depended on it, and telling her why she does what she does. The truth is, I don't give a fvck what iqqi does (no personal disrespect to you Iqqi). She isn't a real part of my life, nor does she affect me in any way, directly or indirectly.


So jesus.... if you guys are raving on about how she's an attention wh0re, you are doing a fine job of giving her all the attention in the world! This is just stupid. So Iqqi, good luck with Tarzan. Now everyone, just drop this bullshyt.

 

[WestCoaster]

It's the knee-jerk reaction of ...

... wanting to put a ditzy American woman in her place!

Chill out guys -- you're more uptight about guys posting than the guys posting. If you don't like it, choose another thread.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Hey babe--saw your message to the other post (weeks ago), but I got it late and it seems current events have pre-empted everything anyway.

Worse--I just found your PM from Nov! Talk about lame. I've missed a few PMs and probably offended a few people here--apologies--my bad. I check back in here occaisionally and usually find I'm way behind on every discussion now.

Anyway, back to this:

Go for it--eyes wide open.

I was in my 20s once and the stories that I look back on were the ones where I just went for it. You're in your 20's--now's the time to do it.

You may not find a traveling experience with someone exciting like this again.

Ok--that said, let's get the basic concerns out of the way. I say the above because I get the sense that you can pull yourself out of any situation that you get yourself into. Yes--I've had my head up my @ss and made decisions that way back when and even now, but I could handle myself regardless in any situation. Any dizzy chick with 50 IQ and I'd say "no way! run! find a decent guy, get married and have kids in the next 3 years."

But you're not that.

Go for it. Travel. See cities. Travel Europe, Asia, Central America. Get drunk. Party. Learn to speak French. Learn to draw. Learn to play an instrument. Learn to make and sell jewelry. Hang with this guy. Whatever.

Flip side of the coin: if you're on a career track, recognize it and follow it. Followin' jugglin' dude is good for a summer, but then get back to the corporate ladder if that's where your skills are.

Flip side of that: I wasn't ever meant for the corporate track and tried to pretend I was. What a waste of time. I should'a traveled more. I wasn't gonna make it on the corporate track, I always did better just wingin' it. If you're like that--get a skill, make enough to live and then some, and see what comes up. Juggler dude is one path.

Flip side yet again: set yourself up regardless of which way you jump. Juggler dude makes $4K--nice coin, especially at that age. How much of that is yours? Will you take on a salary from him being his GF in return for giving up your job and life? Or is he just vaguely offering and you're just vaguely accepting? Make sure you're not stuck in Arkansas with $25 in your pocket (like I got stuck for 2 years in Santa Fe with $50 in my pocket.)

Don't get me wrong--you may work out a real partnership here, but my guess is you and him won't be together 2 years from now. If I'm right--can you land on your feet if dumped in Aimes Iowa in 3 months? Keep it in the back of your mind -- make sure you can and then go for it.

But this is different than advise I'd give a guy. I wouldn't tell him to "make sure he can" -- he (as I did) would just go do it. But I think women (and you) are already ahead in handling responsibility and can handle that level of planning where most guys don't and can't.

The basic thing I thought about reading your post: you're 20 something--take the adventure, especially the rare adventure, now. Later--these opportunities won't come along so often. You'll find yourself at age 33 at a party and you'll find the interesting people are those that got an interesting career or those that got an interesting opportunity and took it. Either way, both threw themselves into what came their way.

Make sure you keep a glance on landing on your own feet if it doesn't work out.

Good luck babe.

[Tesque cues "Leavin' Las Vegas" on the CD player...]

Oh--don't get knocked up. You won't, but I had to say that...

And do this -- you know your patterns for falling for certain guys, so just ASSUME he is part of same. Identify how he is part of the pattern and correct yourself where you can, and leave yourself an out. You won't get it right--Ok?--but you can start to get it right. Now THAT's a pattern you'll follow till you're 90.

So go do what you think/feel best.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
Go for it. Travel. See cities. Travel Europe, Asia, Central America. Get drunk. Party. Learn to speak French. Learn to draw. Learn to play an instrument. Learn to make and sell jewelry. Hang with this guy. Whatever....

thanks tesque, you and i are listening to the same soundtrack in life!

i sent him on his way without me this time, but if we keep in regular touch, then i will probably be with him soon. the thought of passing up that opportunity kills me, but the feeling i got for just leaving my previous relationship that way killed me more. so i need to see what is up with that, and end it if that is what should happen, and be alone first, before i jump on any fantastic voyages. ya know?

peace.

 

[much2learn]

What an absolute b*tch. I just lost every ounce of respect I had for iqqi. You told a guy you want to run off with him, then after he travels 1000 miles to visit you, you then tell him "oh, ya know, I've changed my mind".

May one day you suffer the same fate.

 

[DEKKA]

the only thing i find interesting about these threads are how, for instance, when iqqi mentions that she's a poet, her thread, at that point, starts to wax more and more poetic. *laughs*

 

[DEKKA]

oh, and one other thing... why is it that legitimate posts that should be in the don juan discussion forum get a few replies here and there but iqqi's attention wh0re posts (secretly disguised as FRs) end up with 58+ replies? WHY? WHY? WHY?!?!?!?!

anyways.

at least its entertaining to listen to iqqi describe all the SIGHTS, SOUNDS, and PRETTY COLORS her female mind encountered and how its helped her make another rational decision.

good luck iqqi.