reverse FR: iqqi goes to mardi gras, runs away with gypsy boy

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by JustDoItAlways
C'mon you guys, give her a break.

This guy is a total catch. He wears a red (encye?) jumpsuit, juggles fire, juggles machetes, rides a unicycle and he is a comedian.

With that kind of talent, he can clearly make over $4,000 per month, what with all those people throwing change into his hat and all.

All seriousness aside, clearly the guy did something for her. Peacocking, chemistry, adventure, emotion, whatever it was.

Chicks are looking for something. They'll drop their whole life in a flash if you can find out what that is and (promise to) deliver it. Fantasy and emotion almost always gets to chicks like Iqqi. Other girls look for something a little different but it often comes down to the same thing, emotion.

Hahahahahaha, good one jusdoitalways,

Why didn't I point that out? I was too serious trying to help her see the error of her ways, I guess. At this point my visiting this thread is for laughs!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

x

 

[Trapspringer]

I hear you justdoit. I guess, since she is a woman, I automatically thought in the long term. Maybe she is just looking for a little adventure but if she is looking for something close to forever, I have my doubts.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Jay Fiedler
Iqqi, no offense..but thats making kind of a rash decison isnt it? You dont even know this man. For all you know he could be a serial killer. To give up your life you have for a person you barely know? Why not keep in contact with him, visit when you can, and then after a period of time has gone by make a decison like that. He'll be there in a few months if he cares for you.

this is probaly the biggest reason not to do it. this is why i turned him down while i was there, so that i could go home back to my reality and think on it. and when i did? i missed him, and i really wanted the chance to see what would happen if i took him up on his idea. i want to get to know him, seriously.

i am definately a dreamer, and i give high credit to the chemistry and magnetism between two people. it is risky, but hey, you only live once. i believe in destiny!

as for the danger level of this guy, i have his name, his website, where he is from, not to mention i am making him come to my home to get me. this means my people will meet him (interrogation, hee hee), so if he is willing to go through all of that then he may just get the chance he is asking for.

thanks for the concern and the support, fellas.

anyways i haven't heard from him today yet, so maybe he has gotten cold feet! he is supposed to be here tomorrow around noon.

i am terrified! that either i am really about to go off with him, and leave something else special behind. or that he has changed his mind. i am not sure which one scares me more! this is very scary, yet i can't wait to see him again, atleast....

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Oh jeez iqqi for the love of G0D no...

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
Oh jeez iqqi for the love of G0D no...

i don't understand why it seems so bad to people. he is not some old loser who put the mack on me! he is in his early 20's, clean cut, respectful. he doesn't seem too perfect, as i can already see some of his "flaws". he seems like a somehat normal guy, considering what he does for a living.

the situation itself is a little bizarre, but who strives for ordinary anyways. "better safe than sorry" is NOT my philosophy. although don't get me wrong, i am streetsmart enough to not be ignorantly stupid.

here i am, about to take a leap of faith in someone that i FEEL like is a good person. is it really that awful?

 

[WestCoaster]

Yes, that leap of faith is awful

What American relationships are built on: Cliches.

Leap of faith

Soul mate

Meant for each other

It was fate

Opposites attract

(None of these are true by the way -- not one.)

Meanwhile we have the highest freakin' divorce rate in America. I'm not saying abandon romance, chemistry and fun -- who wouldn't want that?

But for God's sake girl slow the he-l down!

Relationships are built on "boring" things like trust, faith, belief in one another, support when the going gets tough, even temperance, honesty, commitment ... none of these things have been built. America HATES these qualities, just look at our society and the media. But these qualities are what sound relationships are built on.

This is a house of cards waiting to collapse. It's built on fantasy and fun. I like those two things, too -- for FLINGS not relationships. What, you've known this guy for about a week, if that?

This isn't hollywood, it's real life and some of us have lived it.

If it's built on a leap of faith I have no faith in it.

If it's built on a long development period where you've gotten to know him and built up those "boring" things I mentioned, more power to you.

When that gleam wears off his eyes and he's treating you like dirt, don't say I didn't tell you so.

* I've known smoothies like this my whole life. These guys are 100 percent incapable of maintaining a relationship. If it wasn't you that night iqqi, it would've been someone else.

** Only an 18-year old would say we're too rough on you iqqi. Wait till he lives life a little. I'm not bashing you iqqi, I'm warning you.

 

[Fantasy]

Originally posted by iqqi
as for the danger level of this guy, i have his name, his website, where he is from, not to mention i am making him come to my home to get me. this means my people will meet him (interrogation, hee hee), so if he is willing to go through all of that then he may just get the chance he is asking for.

You think serial killers have never been interrogated before, don't have addresses, and don't keep an email address or website? How do you think psychotic pedophiles get a hold of their victims and have a basement to bury them in? For the love of God, woman, stand him up at noon tomorrow!

 

[Jay Fiedler]

Iqqi, please think about this. THis is wrong on so many levels. YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT THIS PERSON. Is your life so unfullfilling and your family and friendships at home so lacking that you could actually do this? I think not. You met a guy........for one night.....and you're ready to run off with him? Leave your job, family, friends? Your life?

THink about it. Will you be sharing a room together? Eating together? Sleeping together? What will you do when hes off working? You are going to get majorily homesick.


The reason you had so much fun in New Orleans was because you were in a fun and exciting place with a new and exciting guy...with no pressure. Now you'll be living with this guy...on the road..sharing such trivial things as showers, the toilet, food, etc..and you KNOW NTOHING ABOUT THIS GUY.

For the love of all humanity.....NOOOOOOOO.

 

[CLOONEY]

Re: Yes, that leap of faith is awful

Originally posted by WestCoaster
What American relationships are built on: Cliches.

Leap of faith

Soul mate

Meant for each other

It was fate

Opposites attract

(None of these are true by the way -- not one.)

Meanwhile we have the highest freakin' divorce rate in America. I'm not saying abandon romance, chemistry and fun -- who wouldn't want that?

But for God's sake girl slow the he-l down!

Relationships are built on "boring" things like trust, faith, belief in one another, support when the going gets tough, even temperance, honesty, commitment ... none of these things have been built. America HATES these qualities, just look at our society and the media. But these qualities are what sound relationships are built on.

This is a house of cards waiting to collapse. It's built on fantasy and fun. I like those two things, too -- for FLINGS not relationships. What, you've known this guy for about a week, if that?

This isn't hollywood, it's real life and some of us have lived it.

If it's built on a leap of faith I have no faith in it.

If it's built on a long development period where you've gotten to know him and built up those "boring" things I mentioned, more power to you.

When that gleam wears off his eyes and he's treating you like dirt, don't say I didn't tell you so.

* I've known smoothies like this my whole life. These guys are 100 percent incapable of maintaining a relationship. If it wasn't you that night iqqi, it would've been someone else.

** Only an 18-year old would say we're too rough on you iqqi. Wait till he lives life a little. I'm not bashing you iqqi, I'm warning you.

AMEN! However Iqqi, I still say go for it! WestCoasters advice is SOLID, but who knows, might as well try! Although I HIGHLY doubt anything will become of it, worth the try!

Good luck, keep us posted!

 

[Jay Fiedler]

One other thing. Im not calling him a liar, but I find it pretty hard to believe a guy doing a non planned show on the street juggling is making $4,000/week. Do you realize thats over $200,000/year? I dont think so. If he was making that kind of money he wouldnt be staying at a "guest" house. Hed be staying at a nice posh hotel. So in reality..hes already told you a pretty big lie. And you want to run away with him? You cant be that desperate.

 

[Señor Fingers]

funky coincidence

I dunno if you guys remember the one-itis that brought me here...

A quick recap if you have no idea...

http://sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=29398

Anyways, I been keepin in touch with her ever since she LJBS-ed me

I admit it yall... For a while I fostered the hopes that I would one day convert her to the hottest lay ever.

*sigh*

The joke was on me when I found out she ran off to Switzerland with this multi-millionaire dude. She called me all excited about the trips they had planned, a world tour and talk of a spontaneous wedding. She left New York floating on cloud 9.

It came as no surprise that I lost touch with her for months, but I was still disappointed that she had totally forgotten about my broke ass. I mentally wrote her off as a shallow gold-digging whóre and closed that sad chapter in my mind.

Well whaddya know?

Just today she surprised the hell out of me with a random email. I expected glamorous tales of exotic adventures and perpetual happiness. I shoulda known better...

All she kept saying (repeatedly) was how miserable she is. She has everything she thought she wanted, the exotic travels, the five star hotels, yachts, etc..and yet she is dying to go home. It turns out the very freedom she was craving only eluded her grasp more on this "adventure" of hers.

Why?

Basically because she had no backup plan and is completely dependent on this guy. She feels "obliged" to continue this adventure even though she is hating life right now. Apparently it has gotten so bad, that the crazy b!tch plans to swipe some cash off him to pay for her plane ticket home!

Iqqamus my friend,

Follow the path of your heart, but do not do so blindly. I´m not saying whether you should take this mission or not. Just reminding you that if you do, then have some Plan B´s in case this dude ends up being a major sleazebag/flake/drugaddict/controlfreak/satanworshipper/etc.etc.etc.

That is all.

Best of luck on whichever path you choose...

 

[Fantasy]

Originally posted by Jay Fiedler
One other thing. Im not calling him a liar, but I find it pretty hard to believe a guy doing a non planned show on the street juggling is making $4,000/week. Do you realize thats over $200,000/year? I dont think so. If he was making that kind of money he wouldnt be staying at a "guest" house. Hed be staying at a nice posh hotel. So in reality..hes already told you a pretty big lie. And you want to run away with him? You cant be that desperate.

Not to mention that she will be completely at his mercy since she is unlikely to have a stable job with traveling and all. I guess she can get paid keeping the machetes sharp or something. Well, I can see her bags packed already so I guess.........

 

[WestCoaster]

Here's a novel idea, how about ...

... DATING him first, you know that old fashioned sh-t where you go out for a few weeks to try and get to know someone to make sure you're compatible, have chemistry (more than one night), share interests, laugh together (more than one night) and see if it's worth the investment -- not financially, more importantly EMOTIONALLY.

Frankly I've seen 15 year olds act more rationally. This go for it, foillow your heart stuff is for fools and everyone telling you to do so is acting foolish. Try DATING him first, not running off into the sunset.

I've always kind of had this like-dislike thing with Iqqi. She's a talented writer and fairly interesting, but she also ticks me off a lot. However, from her writing I do sense a person who has a soul and a soul that could get destroyed by Rumple Stiltskin here.

 

[ManOMan]

Is it just me or do you guys really believe this story of emotions run amok?

This sounds to me like either the clown is lying or iqqi is, maybe they are two wanna be spontaenous souls just looking to do something crazy, adventures, risky and exciting

I mean seriously, look at it from the guys point of view, would you pick a drunken girl from the crowd, and decide to move her to your city and support her?

Its hard enough finding true love and good people in your own city, what makes you think you have found it on the streets of Mardi Gras?

I almost didnt even bother to respond to this ridicluous thread, because its NEVER going to happen, but I cant stop laughing at iqqi's attempt to try and glorify a clown sweeping her off her feet and carrying her to his make believe castle

 

[Lionheart]

Iqqi's mind is obviously made up.

She'll be thinking "What if?" for the rest of her life if she doesn't do this.

Iqqi : Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
We don't always get Disney Fairy-Tale style endings, but sometimes we do.

Just be ready and be prepared to bail out if and when things get bad, but don't pretend that you actually are going to decide on what the guys here tell you, this is a decision of the heart and I think if you don't do it, you are gonna be wondering until it drives you mad (der )


I'm after a little adventure myself, go for it, but in the name of everything that is holy - be careful.

Lionheart.

 

[DreamyChick]

For once I agree with the Don Juans. Don't depend on a man that you know very little about. My grandma always says never trust a man 100% just 90% even less in this case. Just be prepared. Have a back up plan. Money never brings happiness alone. Do a background check. Get to know this dude before you run off together. If he really feels the chemistry with you he'll want to get to know you. Besides you might not even like him in reality.

 

[DankNuggs]

You want to run off with a circus performer???


Classic girl coming up with a random fantasy in her mind of being swept off her feet. You think you like his lifestyle, you want to like him because he fits in your cookie cutter model of fantasy.

If you met a random guy this weekend that you connected with along the same lines as Houdini, would you drop your entire life and sprint away? You'd give up everything you have, your friends, your lifestyle, so you can be with this guy?

Sounds sketchy to me...

If one of my gf's got more serious and the topic of living together came up, I'd be extremely wary of it, and that would just be SHARING my lifestyle with someone else, not giving it up entirely and taking on someone elses.

 

[DankNuggs]

As I read a little more of Iqqi's thoughts, Its also very apparent that you thinkshe thinks her life is boring. That making this 'leap of faith' will somehow elevate and validate her. However, all of these comments reflect on the experience of travel and adventure, and have absolutely nothing to do with developing a relationship.

So basically she wants to use him for the lifestyle she can have travelling around. He's also just nice enough and normal enough that she can put up with him while this goes on.

I'd question this clown if he shows up as well. Must be mentally unstable to make a decision like that.

goodluck

 

[Trogdawg]

Iqqi, I really dislike you on this forum. I would like nothing more but to never see a post from you again. But,...sadly I must tell you to stay with your current life. As my dad always says "get your head out of your a**" You have a brain for a reason, it's called logic, intelligence, etc. etc. Now why the he77 would you just get up and leave with someone you do not know. MAKE NO MISTAKE YOU DO..NOT...KNOW...HIM...AT ALL!!! I know a lot of names...I've been to a lot of websites...and i've learned a few things about people. THAT DOESN"T MEAN I KNOW THEM.

You need to take a step back and think of your situation as happening to someone else. Fvck you being a 'dreamer' in all. This is real life not a dream. What would you think of that person just leaving her life for someone she does not know? If you still say go for it. Make a list with two sides. One sides is the advantages of your current life. Friends, family, job, place, education, clubs, hobbies, pets, independence, freedom (yes freedom) etc. Than make a list of the advantages of leaving. Now when you write these advantages only write the FOR SURE things. Yep, that's a pretty short list. You know a lot of bad things can happen to someone in your situation. Just because you don't think it can happen, you still have to think about that. Yeah, you actually have to THINK for a little while on this situation. Man, I'd slap some sense into you if I knew you. Why don't you just find some guy in a traveling nobody band and follow him around.

If you want to have a fantasy there are plenty of romance, fantasy novels out there. Just go to your library or Barnes and Nobles.

To sum it up. Yes, this could be your dream. And it could be your worst nightmare. As the old saying goes. "be careful what you wish for, it just might happen."