Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I'll have been married for 14 years in July and I can honestly say I've practiced every one of these tenets to varying degrees in that time. Mrs. Tomassi has never been insecure about a thing and even encourages several of these articles.
The trick to this is how you follow up after flirting. She has to be made to feel as though she's still the one you choose to be with even though you have obvious, provable options. Women are always unconsciously evaluating the men they are with. Her self-worth is associated with his value. This is exactly why women in the stablest of relationships will still sh!t test. There are precious few ways for a Man in a long standing LTR to demonstrate higher value better than flirting, or reciprocating a flirt with other women. Nothing stimulates a tired LTR like suspicion and jealousy. Her Imagination is the most important tool in your DJ tool box. Women don't want a man to cheat, but they love a Man who could cheat, but stays with her. That's the source of the flattery for her.
Far too many guys are too fearful to even attempt this because they subscribe to a scarcity mentality (see Rule 16)
This then dovetails nicely into,...
I'll be clear, I've never cheated on Mrs. Tomassi, but I do know I would be balls deep in pussie if we ever did split. I know this because I experience the receptiveness of women to whom I do flirt with. I know I'm in better shape, have more Game and possess higher status and value than 90% of the men in my peer group. So keeping two in the kitty for me is knowing that I CAN generate options if necessary.
Naturally you don't want to appear to be seeking the flirtation, but rather playing along with it. I have encouraged or played along with casual flirtations with my wife present that leave her with the impression that other women find me desirable. When you've been together long enough and a strong emotional bond has formed, you will be surprised at how many sh!t tests and evaluations you can avoid just by her perception of you being a commodity that other women are attracted to. Mrs. Tomassi has told me on at least four occasions that she finds it flattering that other women would find me attractive.
The trick to this is how you follow up after flirting. She has to be made to feel as though she's still the one you choose to be with even though you have obvious, provable options. Women are always unconsciously evaluating the men they are with. Her self-worth is associated with his value. This is exactly why women in the stablest of relationships will still sh!t test. There are precious few ways for a Man in a long standing LTR to demonstrate higher value better than flirting, or reciprocating a flirt with other women. Nothing stimulates a tired LTR like suspicion and jealousy. Her Imagination is the most important tool in your DJ tool box. Women don't want a man to cheat, but they love a Man who could cheat, but stays with her. That's the source of the flattery for her.
Far too many guys are too fearful to even attempt this because they subscribe to a scarcity mentality (see Rule 16)
This then dovetails nicely into,...
I understand this may be a very tall order for most men, particularly those with scarcity mentalities. However, I would interpret this less as spinning plates while in an LTR and instead replace it with keeping your options open. One reason to flirt in front of your LTR is to establish the suspicion that you have those options. Again this goes back to being a man who could cheat, but chooses not to. Men think that their dependability and steadfastness makes for a sexualized woman - it doesn't.
I'll be clear, I've never cheated on Mrs. Tomassi, but I do know I would be balls deep in pussie if we ever did split. I know this because I experience the receptiveness of women to whom I do flirt with. I know I'm in better shape, have more Game and possess higher status and value than 90% of the men in my peer group. So keeping two in the kitty for me is knowing that I CAN generate options if necessary.
This isn't hard once you internalize it. Too many guys think Game is a waste of time because it means a constant memorization of scripts and gestures that they can never hope to master in every situation for every eventuality. And they'd be right - if all they did was try to commit everything to rote memorization. But as any good teacher will tell you, that's not learning. Once the golden ratio becomes part of who you are it's effortless and becomes your default response. Remember this is an outline. I don't think aloud to myself "hmmm, well Mrs. Tomassi gave me 3 kisses this morning, I must remember to give her only 2 when I get home from work." It's an outline for a principle that you need to get the 'feel' for. The point isn't trying to keep some scorecard of t!t for tat exchanges. The effect you're establishing is,..
