Recovery 101: How to stop hating women

[everywomanshero]

Women are not b1tches. Didn't your mom do a lot for you? If the answer is yes, then how can women all be b1tches because there is millions of grade A moms in the world?

If you feel you want to get women to ACCEPT SEX from you rather than CHASE after you, please don't read this post. You are simply too far gone to be disinfected. If you feel women want jerks and like being abused, please don't read this post, you are too far gone to disinfect. If you feel yourself starting to become negative about women but still have hope you can get them to chase you, then please read this post.

Take responsibility for your own decisions men.

If no women of any class or category ever react positively to you, if they NEVER EVER try to get you to ask them out, if they ALWAYS cut your conversations off shortly after you approach and NEVER try to resume them, then you are DOING SOMETHING WRONG, U PERSONALLY ARE CAUSING THIS BECAUSE IT SIMPLY ISN"T HAPPENING TO ME.

*You* select the women you are with. Just like the lady who keeps going back to abusive men, you guys with women problems keep going back to abusive women. You guys who cry all the time are no better off than a battered woman who keeps going back to the same losers!

*You* decide whether to be happy or not. No woman CAN EVER control your happiness. You alone decide whether to be validated and happy based on internal sources or external sources such as women. You are doing this to yourself by letting other people determine your happiness!

*You* put a mountain of pressure on her by completely changing your disposition SOLELY based on how you PERCEIVE she is thinking. Stop making women so freaking important that you can't live a productive life. If you've ever not went out somewhere to stay home *just in case she decides to come by" or something similar then I am talking to you.

I'm not even a PUA and I know this stuff man, come on guys!!!!! I have faith in you to overcome this stuff! I've turned down more women that I've slept with and I don't even try very hard. You guys are better than this stuff I continue to see on the forum. Read this post 60 times if you have to, but please let's get rid of this woman hating stuff for good.

Women want to love and nurish a quality man. They do not want a man who is unhappy with his own life, has mental problems, or changes his mood from one extreme or the other based solely on whether or not she is meeting his approved path of behavior. It's time to get real.

Where will hating women get you? Where? Where will assuming all women are the same get you? Where? Yes, when I fvcked a lot of married women I started to think it was all the same too. But there is another side to this some guys are completely ignoring. When you rise above the gutter of being so desperate as to try porking a bunch of married chicks, a whole new world becomes available. A world that I suspect many guys aspiring to be PUAs rarely see. Sex is so easily available to both men and women, that should never be a major priority, that's a given that there will be more sex available than one can ever take advantage of or even want to. Time to move on to something more productive like concentrating on how to get women to CHASE you not to ACCEPT SEX from you.

So don't let the scarcity mentality and perceived gender injustices push you to a path of hate under the guise of "understanding women". Realize these biases for what they really are: the vices of insecure, needy men who are badly infected with scarcity mentality and afraid they can't get hoardes of women to chase after them. I suggest you become a man of abundance, so start thinking like a guy who has more women than he knows what to do with, and soon you will be a man with more women than he knows what to do with.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Bravo!

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

Great tip

You may not be able to change the world

However, you can change yourself.

 

[Tazman]

I guess I can agree that you don't have to "hate" all women, but let's not try and create our own delusions by thinking we are somehow at fault for the way they behave. I'm not referring to guys who go after abusive women or any nonsense like that, I'm talking about stand-up guys who treat women "they believe deserve it" with respect. Things may even turn out great in the beginning, but know one can predict how any particular woman will behave in the future, as most people put their best foot forward when starting a new relationship. I don't hate women, but I've dealt with them long enough to know that you are setting yourself up if you think you can just let your guard down. I've seen the things my own mother and sister's are capable of in relationships, I'm just glad I don't have to deal with them in that way. I love the women in my family because "sex" is a non issue.

 

[everywomanshero]

If I could no longer get a woman to chase me, I would dump her.

I wouldn't become bitter, I would just say it's best for us both. I've had to do this more than once. Mostly it wasn't anything inherently wrong with the women, though, I've made some bad choices. I just wasn't at the right place in life to be in that situation anymore and needed more freedom.


So I never advocate playing the victim. If something isn't working anymore, I say change it. But don't waste precious time feeling bitter about it. A woman you've never met has NO CONTROL over what any other woman in the history of the world has ever done to you.

 

[d9930380]

Everywomanshero is right. Generally when a girl cheats on her man or does something to disrepect him it's because she's lost respect for him and she's angry that he doesn't even know it and she's anoyed she's wasted her time with him to begin with. You can tell this once she starts rolling her eyes at things he says. Once that happens - it's over, dump her and save your dignity because you will never get it back (or at least it's very hard).

Now I'm not saying I condone that behaviour however at least I understand it.

BTW - Good original post.

 

[d9930380]

Oh so called letting your guard down is probably you just being needy. As a man, that's very unattractive. They don't want to be our mothers.

 

[supajsilver2]

*You* decide whether to be happy or not. No woman CAN EVER control your happiness. You alone decide whether to be validated and happy based on internal sources or external sources such as women. You are doing this to yourself by letting other people determine your happiness!

YES. thank you.

 

[Nighthawk]

I love women, they've been very good to me.

The same women have treated many an AFC as they deserve and would no doubt be seen by some of them as b*tches.

Interestingly, back when I was 14, 15, 16 and not having much luck, I didn't think women were b*tches then.

I thought I need to improve myself, figure out what women want, work out what I'm doing wrong, and go out and get those honeys. And I did.

 

[Tazman]

Agreed, I'm a much happier person knowing the BS women are known for dishing out!

 

[Tazman]

Oh so called letting your guard down is probably you just being needy. As a man, that's very unattractive. They don't want to be our mothers.

Actually, when I refer to letting your guard down I mean giving them the benefit of a doubt, and in most cases, you shouldn't. You tend to give them too much credit. There was nothing "wrong" with me when I was 16 and there's nothing wrong with me at 27, I just figured out how to play the type of games that get you laid and minimize the BS.

 

[qwerty654321]

First off I want to thank you for making this post. It really helped me out. However, my sticking point is that I'm caught up in looks and all. I don't think I'm that good looking. Is it true that good looking guys get good looking girls and averge guys get average looking girls and so on. This has been a real frustrating thing to think bout. Could it be that girls don't respond well to you because they're not interested in you in the first place? What advice can you give to someone like me?

 

[Jariel]

Yet another top notch post!

*You* select the women you are with. Just like the lady who keeps going back to abusive men, you guys with women problems keep going back to abusive women. You guys who cry all the time are no better off than a battered woman who keeps going back to the same losers!

SPOT ON!!!

 

[crumpiteer]

Jariel, i thought you've bid farewell to this forum already?

 

[diplomatic_lies]

I guess I can agree that you don't have to "hate" all women, but let's not try and create our own delusions by thinking we are somehow at fault for the way they behave.

No, we're not responsible for the way women behave.

But we ARE responsible for choosing the type of women we hang out with. There's no point whining that "all women are b!tches" if you only choose hang out with b!tches.

 

[Jariel]

Jariel, i thought you've bid farewell to this forum already?

I did, but I was missing the motivation (mainly from the Health and Fitness forum) so I check in now and then and read a few posts to keep my motivation up.

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

You wrote a good post, and I can see why guys like Francisco are so enthusiastic about it. I will admit that I agree to a certain extent, but you're still not seeing the whole picture.

Yes, we as men are responsible for who we date and for basing our happiness on what a woman thinks of us. But to assert that women behave the way they do because we as men are doing something wrong is simply hogwash. It's really unfortuneate, but the poster who said that you can never let your guard down is exactly right.

Women talk all the time about how they want a "good" guy. A guy who will show up on time, be their shoulder to cry on, be understanding. But what do they usually do when they get a guy like this? They become bored and go with an abusive jerk. So to say that men are always responsible for women's behavior takes the onus off where it should be.

I think some of you are confused and living in a fantasy world. READ THIS NEXT SENTENCE VERY CAREFULLY. Even if you are the epitome of a "man", and you do everything right, some women will still leave you!!!

Now I don't think many guys on this forum "hate all women". I do think that guys are becoming frustrated and confused as to what women want. Women begin perfecting their dating skills long before men ever consider doing it. It's my assertion that if women would just knock the games off, then they wouldn't have to worry about blaming men for everything.

In conclusion: Yes, some of it is our fault, but I'm sick and tired of these guys making it seem like we as men are responsible for everything, and blaming women's behavior on us. If we have to take responsibility for our actions, so should they.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I think some of you are confused and living in a fantasy world. READ THIS NEXT SENTENCE VERY CAREFULLY. Even if you are the epitome of a "man", and you do everything right, some women will still leave you!!!

This is true because you can't always create enough chemistry, and this goes both ways. Ever go out with a woman who was completely cool during the date but you decide not to follow up because it "just didn't feel right?" It's not guaranteed that you'll have it with every woman you sarge.

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

This is true because you can't always create enough chemistry, and this goes both ways. Ever go out with a woman who was completely cool during the date but you decide not to follow up because it "just didn't feel right?" It's not guaranteed that you'll have it with every woman you sarge.

That's what I'm saying. Sometimes the chemistry isn't there, sometimes she has a character flaw, sometimes all she was looking for was a good time. But even in long term relationships, people sometimes grow apart. It might not be either person's fault. What I take issue with, is when you say that it's the guy who isn't doing something right, and that's why she left him.

We as individuals cannot control what other people do; we can only control the way we react to it. Men and women are both responsible for their own behaviors and actions. So lets remember that when you infer that a guy isn't doing everything right.

 

[mrRuckus]

Women talk all the time about how they want a "good" guy. A guy who will show up on time, be their shoulder to cry on, be understanding. But what do they usually do when they get a guy like this? They become bored and go with an abusive jerk. So to say that men are always responsible for women's behavior takes the onus off where it should be.

I think some of you are confused and living in a fantasy world. READ THIS NEXT SENTENCE VERY CAREFULLY. Even if you are the epitome of a "man", and you do everything right, some women will still leave you!!!

Now I don't think many guys on this forum "hate all women". I do think that guys are becoming frustrated and confused as to what women want. Women begin perfecting their dating skills long before men ever consider doing it. It's my assertion that if women would just knock the games off, then they wouldn't have to worry about blaming men for everything.

I agreed with you up to the point where you said they start perfecting their dating skills.

I was talking to this girl i'm dating the other night. I never call her but we email back and forth from work and talk on aim occasionally when we don't see each other.

The other night she was on AIM and i was doing my own thing. After a while she msgs me "not talking to me?" (yeah.. eye roll..) Of course i respond i talked to you earlier today. And she responds back "i read somewhere that guys who only email or send txt msgs only want sex."

WTF? Women have no idea more about relationships than men. She told me she read that on "yahoo." Men don't have crazy rules like that. They don't. We have in general rules but nothing so damn specific... and definitely nothing so specific while being downright wrong.

The reasons I don't call girls? I have no landline and my signal is sh1t at my house. A phone conversation is unbearable.. and i don't want to talk on the phone anyway. How the hell can one conclude that i'm only in it for sex because i only email or txt?!

I actually googled this, and it's out there. There are columns telling women not to accept dates from txt msgs. "If a guy asks you to hang out in a txt msg tell him to call you and ask you out properly or you won't go out with him." LOL if any girl treats me like a child and scolds me for the method i ask her out she can go back to dating chumps. No wonder why women b1tch. They are their own undoing. Yeah i send txt msgs "let's get mexican tonight...?" Damn right.. it's better for me than calling and her hearing "le... mex.. night" as my phone cracks up.