My first post so here goes.
A few weeks ago, a woman from my work who had showed infatuation in me constantly kept following me like a lost puppy, finally asking if I wanted to go for coffee and we did. We hit things off and we exchanged contact details, she contacted me a few days later while travelling on business starting conversation with me which I kept to a minimum saying we should meet up when she gets back and she agreed. We met up when she got home from the flight, and she started to spew a lot of, in all honesty BS, such as she doesn't date, this is not really interest (even though she told her family about me, and her best friends, and that I should meet her best friends) among other things. All of which I challenged/called out and ensured that I set clear boundaries that I didn't really buy into her none-sense and it was more or less a ***** shield. She admit right off the bat it was and it was to see how men react.
Then came a few red flags - history of troubled father, violence (from herself), psychiatric visits - due to the stress of her work, etc.
At which point I thought I am not sure about this I need more time to really gauge this person. I closed things off by saying, I'll be seeing her around, and she asked when I would be around/my schedule which I told her and she told me hers.
I sent her a text the next day referencing a joke she found funny, and then went about my day. Unfortunately, I was unable to go into work due to family issues the next few days, so I was only able to see her at the end of the week at which point she quickly and easily agreed to go out and we hung out with a lot of touching/flirting/some kissing; but there was resistance to take it further.
Next time I saw her I got the cold shoulder, then the time after that I got initiation of conversation and slightly less receptive response to touch, but her friends were still all smiles to me. I knew she had a stressful project that day, so I messaged her if it went well and she wanted to meet the next week, she replied almost instantly to all texts and said it did go well but she can't because she promised to catch up with another guy that week. I played it off and said okay maybe the week after and left it at that.
The questions I have are did I fumble this up? Is it recoverable, if so how so? Do I simply go to ignore as per usual? or should I next?
A few weeks ago, a woman from my work who had showed infatuation in me constantly kept following me like a lost puppy, finally asking if I wanted to go for coffee and we did. We hit things off and we exchanged contact details, she contacted me a few days later while travelling on business starting conversation with me which I kept to a minimum saying we should meet up when she gets back and she agreed. We met up when she got home from the flight, and she started to spew a lot of, in all honesty BS, such as she doesn't date, this is not really interest (even though she told her family about me, and her best friends, and that I should meet her best friends) among other things. All of which I challenged/called out and ensured that I set clear boundaries that I didn't really buy into her none-sense and it was more or less a ***** shield. She admit right off the bat it was and it was to see how men react.
Then came a few red flags - history of troubled father, violence (from herself), psychiatric visits - due to the stress of her work, etc.
At which point I thought I am not sure about this I need more time to really gauge this person. I closed things off by saying, I'll be seeing her around, and she asked when I would be around/my schedule which I told her and she told me hers.
I sent her a text the next day referencing a joke she found funny, and then went about my day. Unfortunately, I was unable to go into work due to family issues the next few days, so I was only able to see her at the end of the week at which point she quickly and easily agreed to go out and we hung out with a lot of touching/flirting/some kissing; but there was resistance to take it further.
Next time I saw her I got the cold shoulder, then the time after that I got initiation of conversation and slightly less receptive response to touch, but her friends were still all smiles to me. I knew she had a stressful project that day, so I messaged her if it went well and she wanted to meet the next week, she replied almost instantly to all texts and said it did go well but she can't because she promised to catch up with another guy that week. I played it off and said okay maybe the week after and left it at that.
The questions I have are did I fumble this up? Is it recoverable, if so how so? Do I simply go to ignore as per usual? or should I next?
