Ok, but then comes the question of: Then how come I'm not getting a shot at all these good-looking women if there aren't that many good-looking guys to go around? By all means, I should be, ESPECIALLY since I'm an above avg.-looking guy.
I would say that there's more to your circumstance then you think.
There's a flaw in your premise that's unknown to you that accounts for that.
I don't believe these women are settling for these average/below average Joe's because there aren't enough good-looking guys to go around. If that were honestly the case, then I should be getting my fair share of hotties on the weekends. But that's FAR from the case.
Here, you're establishing a premise that's specious.
There's several flaws in that logic.
1. That you will pull hot women based on your looks alone.
You're the guy that, from your previous posts, does things like wave at women you don't know to call them over
You're the guy that, IMO, misreads women upon which basis you then next them
2. That you actually are above average in looks.
Maybe to them, you're not. Or maybe you are, but you're not their type. Or maybe you are but there's something in your approach or body language that works against you.
3. That hot women will aprroach men.
Doesn't happen that often. They don't need to make approaches.
4. That your definition of "fair share" is realistic.
Maybe a couple every few months, what you have been getting, is more realistic then expecting a swarm of 9's and 10's to surround you every weekend.
5. That you can pull a ton of hot women in a club.
Maybe they're there with guys they already know, or are already in a social circle. Or since they're at a club on a weekend night, they have their shields up. Or again, hot women don't have to go making approaches.
Even still though, my cold-approaches in the past month have been a dive, except for this past weekend where on one occasion I was c*ck-blocked by her friend, and the other occasion where I didn't escalate enough after my opening(I'll admit, I was a little uncomfortable the way her friends were looking at me
The whole PUA idea of cold approaches and opening sets, though it can be done, isn't really the most conducive environment. You walk up to a woman on the street, for example, she's going to be naturally more on guard then say you met her at a mutual friend's party.
Then, you're approaching women where she has a friend present and sure, the friend can c@ckblock. Those are the circumstances under which you're attempting to make this work. It's a hostile environment going in. Plus, women may be in a serious relationship, she may be a lesbian, you may not be her type, she may just be there to dance, there's a lot that can be going on you don't know.
This has nothing to do with how good looking you may be.
Personally, edger, from what I've read that you've posted, I think there's something in your vibe that's not working for you.
I have found when you salivate over one and she is the only one in the pipeline, you have already prized her. Not because you are not proficient as a DJ, but simply because she is the only one.
I think the salivation is more about how she hits the right spot in my wiring rather then her being considered a prize. Yet I understand what you're saying fully, and I can see why and how that would happen, and does happen to guys, and that's why I intentionally don't permit myself to consider her in that way, so I don't fall into that trap.
It's great that she can make my endorphins fire, but "prizing" someone - that's all in the mind, really. When a tempting girl is the only option that gets your blood flowing, you could easily let your mind dwell on her - it feels good to do so. But, it's letting your mind dwell on it that then makes her loom larger then life and correspondingly gives her more importance in yours.
So I don't let my mind drift to thoughts of "wow, she's really great..." concerning her, I'll just let it happen if it happens (just knowing that it is an option is thought enough) and instead, think, "wow it would really be great if I could round up a few more like her" and look to my own life for things to do to keep myself entertained and busy as my "options" regardless whether i'm with anyone or not.
