@Infern0 & @LARaiders85
Just throwing out hypotheticals. And as a disclaimer--100% not recommending guys use any of that to rationalize any attempt at preserving or attempting relationships with Cluster B's. But I do think it's interesting at a certain point (unless it's just a helluva a coincidence for me) they pretty much seem to stop existing--when you have a strong mindset & sense of boundaries & and clarity of structure for what you will & won't allow into your life (including idealization), I think all but the most emotionally dysfunctional of women will fall in line.
I do agree with @Infern0 that at a certain point pwBPD will nuke the relationship or have their fear of abandonment triggered & will absolutely never be someone you want to build a life with; but I also think that their demands for narcissistic supply correlate directly with what self-sacrifices they perceive you'll make to accommodate those demands. I know with my ex there were 100 small instances I can think of where I slipped; and those instances were almost always followed by an escalation of the emotional dysfunction she would introduce into our lives (but always within the limits of what she knew I would allow her to get away with). These days, most girls will disappear entirely before they bring up any sort of demands for more of my time or attention (still a faulty coping mechanism--but one that's much more bearable).
Just throwing out hypotheticals. And as a disclaimer--100% not recommending guys use any of that to rationalize any attempt at preserving or attempting relationships with Cluster B's. But I do think it's interesting at a certain point (unless it's just a helluva a coincidence for me) they pretty much seem to stop existing--when you have a strong mindset & sense of boundaries & and clarity of structure for what you will & won't allow into your life (including idealization), I think all but the most emotionally dysfunctional of women will fall in line.
I do agree with @Infern0 that at a certain point pwBPD will nuke the relationship or have their fear of abandonment triggered & will absolutely never be someone you want to build a life with; but I also think that their demands for narcissistic supply correlate directly with what self-sacrifices they perceive you'll make to accommodate those demands. I know with my ex there were 100 small instances I can think of where I slipped; and those instances were almost always followed by an escalation of the emotional dysfunction she would introduce into our lives (but always within the limits of what she knew I would allow her to get away with). These days, most girls will disappear entirely before they bring up any sort of demands for more of my time or attention (still a faulty coping mechanism--but one that's much more bearable).
