Hello everyone! I am RicFury, and I have been enjoying this website for years! Information in here is invaluable, and has helped me to not only get the girl of my dreams, but to make her BEG me to marry her! Now, on to the sad part...
My dream girl found me five years ago. We had the PERFECT relationship. Thanks to this site, I was the ultimate DJ and she responded like any normal woman would. I was constantly getting told that I was a "real man," and how "lucky she was." All of her friends in college wanted me, and almost all of them made a pass at me at one time or another, and, of course, made her want me even more. Her family loved me, he cat loved me, her dad loved me...all was perfect. We graduated college together, then had the most beautiful wedding you have ever seen. The whole community talked about it for MONTHS. Then, things began to change...
At first, it was the same. I was the "man" and she was the "woman." We both started working full time and got a nice apartment to live in. Because she had a medical degree, she naturally made great money right from the start. I had a busineess degree, and we all know how bad the economy is in right now. Through no fault of my own, she made TWICE the money I did.
STRIKE ONE.
Then, within a year's time she wanted a new house. Why? Because all of a sudden she was around all these doctors that made all this money and nurses that were all after them for their money. After I told her "NO, we don't need a house right now" she pointed out that even though I couldn't pay for a mortgage, SHE could. Now, when your WIFE comes to you with an argumant like this, it is hard to tell her "NO" when she is indeed correct. She found her dream house, the one we talked about when we were just dating. SHE could pay for it, so why not? In a year or two, my career will take off, right?
STRIKE TWO
After we got the house, things settled back down for a while, then she decided she wanted to have a baby. Turns out, almost ALL of the nurses in her unit were all of a sudden having babies. Worse, they all started going out to eat together and talking baby stuff and whatnot. My wife started feeling left out, and they were all basically rubbing her nose in it. You see, all of her nurse friends were in their early 30s, and she in her early 20s. All of their husbands were "nice guys" aka "AFCs" and they gave their wives whatever they wanted, when they wanted. To make matters worse, my wife was bragging about me and whatnot, and these older nurses were telling her how she can do better than that because they can get THEIR husbands to do whatever they wish. Why? JEALOUSY. They were all unhappy with their chump husbands, so they wanted to make SURE my wife didn't think she had a better "MAN" than their husbands.
STRIKE THREE
They messed up my wife, let me tell you. They got into her head. All of a sudden, she didn't want a DJ. She wanted a man to spoil her, to give her anything she wanted, when she wanted it. At least, that is what she THINKS she wanted...at that time. All she could see from this point on was a "REAL MAN" who had no right to tell her NO when she wanted something. All her friends told her so. All her friends told her that if I wouldn't hand over my paycheck to her, I wasn't a "REAL man." I wasn't a "REAL MAN" because I didn't make more money than her and I didn't support her completely financially. She believed it, and all of a sudden, everything I said from then on out was WRONG. She got to where she believed them over her own husband.
YOU'RE OUT!!!!
My wife left me, convinced she was getting cheated out of her happiness, and that I wasn't treating her right. When we were dating and engaged, we had a winning formula, and we had the exact same goals. Basically, she wanted everything too fast, and I couldn't deliver fast enough, so I get dropped. I can honestly say, I DJed her to the very end, but she left, regardless.
CONCLUSIONS?
My woman was NOT a "gold-digger." She was a great girl, never touched and I was the ONLY man who could get her. She told other people our business, and she ended up listening to the wrong people tell her what to do. Because of her "girl power" friends, I became the enemy. Other jealous women may not affect a real DJ, but they CAN get to and affect another woman. You see, women may really WANT a DJ, a "REAL MAN", but they do NOT want another woman to have what they don't have. My woman should have been happy with what we had at that time: no debt, a great house, our whole lives ahead of us. She wasn't happy, so she ended it. My wife ended our marriage for no real reason at all, other than she wasn't happy. And the hardest part was:
THERE WASN'T A DANM THING I COULD DO ABOUT IT.
My dream girl found me five years ago. We had the PERFECT relationship. Thanks to this site, I was the ultimate DJ and she responded like any normal woman would. I was constantly getting told that I was a "real man," and how "lucky she was." All of her friends in college wanted me, and almost all of them made a pass at me at one time or another, and, of course, made her want me even more. Her family loved me, he cat loved me, her dad loved me...all was perfect. We graduated college together, then had the most beautiful wedding you have ever seen. The whole community talked about it for MONTHS. Then, things began to change...
At first, it was the same. I was the "man" and she was the "woman." We both started working full time and got a nice apartment to live in. Because she had a medical degree, she naturally made great money right from the start. I had a busineess degree, and we all know how bad the economy is in right now. Through no fault of my own, she made TWICE the money I did.
STRIKE ONE.
Then, within a year's time she wanted a new house. Why? Because all of a sudden she was around all these doctors that made all this money and nurses that were all after them for their money. After I told her "NO, we don't need a house right now" she pointed out that even though I couldn't pay for a mortgage, SHE could. Now, when your WIFE comes to you with an argumant like this, it is hard to tell her "NO" when she is indeed correct. She found her dream house, the one we talked about when we were just dating. SHE could pay for it, so why not? In a year or two, my career will take off, right?
STRIKE TWO
After we got the house, things settled back down for a while, then she decided she wanted to have a baby. Turns out, almost ALL of the nurses in her unit were all of a sudden having babies. Worse, they all started going out to eat together and talking baby stuff and whatnot. My wife started feeling left out, and they were all basically rubbing her nose in it. You see, all of her nurse friends were in their early 30s, and she in her early 20s. All of their husbands were "nice guys" aka "AFCs" and they gave their wives whatever they wanted, when they wanted. To make matters worse, my wife was bragging about me and whatnot, and these older nurses were telling her how she can do better than that because they can get THEIR husbands to do whatever they wish. Why? JEALOUSY. They were all unhappy with their chump husbands, so they wanted to make SURE my wife didn't think she had a better "MAN" than their husbands.
STRIKE THREE
They messed up my wife, let me tell you. They got into her head. All of a sudden, she didn't want a DJ. She wanted a man to spoil her, to give her anything she wanted, when she wanted it. At least, that is what she THINKS she wanted...at that time. All she could see from this point on was a "REAL MAN" who had no right to tell her NO when she wanted something. All her friends told her so. All her friends told her that if I wouldn't hand over my paycheck to her, I wasn't a "REAL man." I wasn't a "REAL MAN" because I didn't make more money than her and I didn't support her completely financially. She believed it, and all of a sudden, everything I said from then on out was WRONG. She got to where she believed them over her own husband.
YOU'RE OUT!!!!
My wife left me, convinced she was getting cheated out of her happiness, and that I wasn't treating her right. When we were dating and engaged, we had a winning formula, and we had the exact same goals. Basically, she wanted everything too fast, and I couldn't deliver fast enough, so I get dropped. I can honestly say, I DJed her to the very end, but she left, regardless.
CONCLUSIONS?
My woman was NOT a "gold-digger." She was a great girl, never touched and I was the ONLY man who could get her. She told other people our business, and she ended up listening to the wrong people tell her what to do. Because of her "girl power" friends, I became the enemy. Other jealous women may not affect a real DJ, but they CAN get to and affect another woman. You see, women may really WANT a DJ, a "REAL MAN", but they do NOT want another woman to have what they don't have. My woman should have been happy with what we had at that time: no debt, a great house, our whole lives ahead of us. She wasn't happy, so she ended it. My wife ended our marriage for no real reason at all, other than she wasn't happy. And the hardest part was:
THERE WASN'T A DANM THING I COULD DO ABOUT IT.
