Ready to hang the game up.

[backbreaker]

I've used this alology before, but sex is alot like drinking. When you can't drink, all you think about is drinking, you don't understand why people would get tired of something so grand is alcohol.

After you have been there, got smashed a few times, had a dozen or so hangovers, i.e experienced all the crap that comes with drinking, the highs, the lows, and the awesomeness of drinking has worn off, it has it's place, but it's not the event anymore to be chased at all times.

Doesn't mean you won't ever enjoy a drink anymore, with the right meal a glass of red wine can make a great meal a memorable one, or sitting by yourself smoking a cigar, listening to music and drinking a scotch at just the right moment can capture a mood, but drinking, becuase you can, gets old and we demand more of ourselves as men than that.

With being a DJ, you have to accept your new reality of life that you can actually bang women, and keep it in check. Just becuase you CAN, doesn't mean you SHOULD. And not because of some stupid feminist morality bull**** or anything but simply becuase, we have better things to do with our lives that fulfill us. There is some get it out your systemness that goes on, but you should be well past the point where you are ****ing... as a goal. I ****ed as a goal when I first found this site.

I'm not saying you should go my route and get married but at the same time man, there is more to life then just *****. You should be able to meet a woman and actually find out stuff bout her and become interested in her, sex or no sex. You have become a robot to where every move you make is to try to ****, and while, dont' get me wrong, it has it's place lol, you are neglecting a whole hell of alot there.

Really what is going on, is that your subconscious is holding you to a higher standard than what you are holding yourself to. your subconscious knows you aren't getting anything out of your life and it's getting pissy. This is natures way of telling you to be a man.


But then we get to the nuts and bolts of your problem. You spend so much time whining about women, that you would run the ones you really want off. No one wants to **** a buzz killington. And those smart sassy intellecutal types, expect the same out of their men, not men who go around *****ing about how screwed up the world is.


The truth is very simple, you can either deny it, or put it of, but it won't go anywhere, and the truth is, it always starts and ends with you.


I took a break from this site. you have to sometimes, it's a virtual reality that if you stay here too long, you start to distort things from what they really are. You read just how screwy women are, you start going around, looking for screwy **** in women instead of just going with the flow and enjoying women for what they are or aren't.


I would suggest you do the same my man. You are too good to be in this type of runt



I don't think you have any real phycociatic issues, I just think you need a freaking break from it all. Figure out what you want besides to sleep with women, get away from this place for a little, learn a new language, swim, watch some football, go buy some music, run down the street naked, beat halo reach, whatever it is you do, do it.

best of luck and peace out.

 

[cordoncordon]

I've used this alology before, but sex is alot like drinking. When you can't drink, all you think about is drinking, you don't understand why people would get tired of something so grand is alcohol.

After you have been there, got smashed a few times, had a dozen or so hangovers, i.e experienced all the crap that comes with drinking, the highs, the lows, and the awesomeness of drinking has worn off, it has it's place, but it's not the event anymore to be chased at all times.

Doesn't mean you won't ever enjoy a drink anymore, with the right meal a glass of red wine can make a great meal a memorable one, or sitting by yourself smoking a cigar, listening to music and drinking a scotch at just the right moment can capture a mood, but drinking, becuase you can, gets old and we demand more of ourselves as men than that.

With being a DJ, you have to accept your new reality of life that you can actually bang women, and keep it in check. Just becuase you CAN, doesn't mean you SHOULD. And not because of some stupid feminist morality bull**** or anything but simply becuase, we have better things to do with our lives that fulfill us. There is some get it out your systemness that goes on, but you should be well past the point where you are ****ing... as a goal. I ****ed as a goal when I first found this site.

I'm not saying you should go my route and get married but at the same time man, there is more to life then just *****. You should be able to meet a woman and actually find out stuff bout her and become interested in her, sex or no sex. You have become a robot to where every move you make is to try to ****, and while, dont' get me wrong, it has it's place lol, you are neglecting a whole hell of alot there.

Really what is going on, is that your subconscious is holding you to a higher standard than what you are holding yourself to. your subconscious knows you aren't getting anything out of your life and it's getting pissy. This is natures way of telling you to be a man.


But then we get to the nuts and bolts of your problem. You spend so much time whining about women, that you would run the ones you really want off. No one wants to **** a buzz killington. And those smart sassy intellecutal types, expect the same out of their men, not men who go around *****ing about how screwed up the world is.


The truth is very simple, you can either deny it, or put it of, but it won't go anywhere, and the truth is, it always starts and ends with you.


I took a break from this site. you have to sometimes, it's a virtual reality that if you stay here too long, you start to distort things from what they really are. You read just how screwy women are, you start going around, looking for screwy **** in women instead of just going with the flow and enjoying women for what they are or aren't.


I would suggest you do the same my man. You are too good to be in this type of runt



I don't think you have any real phycociatic issues, I just think you need a freaking break from it all. Figure out what you want besides to sleep with women, get away from this place for a little, learn a new language, swim, watch some football, go buy some music, run down the street naked, beat halo reach, whatever it is you do, do it.

best of luck and peace out.

And he's back!!!! Yayyyyyyy!!! Welcome home!

 

[DanelMadr]

Really what is going on, is that your subconscious is holding you to a higher standard than what you are holding yourself to. your subconscious knows you aren't getting anything out of your life and it's getting pissy. This is natures way of telling you to be a man.


But then we get to the nuts and bolts of your problem. You spend so much time whining about women, that you would run the ones you really want off.

Hi backbreaker,
we had quite a fight about your thread
{Some of us thought you should make your girl suffer for hitting you. I actually was very happy to read your thread...especially the part where you say that she can't hurt you-it is like a child tantrum.
I guess some guys here are so brainwashed that they dislike the double standard. I say cherish the double standard.}

btw you should use Opera web browser it checks your spelling. Your sausage like fingers are producing quite a lot of misspells.

I think you're underestimating Squirrels a little bit here. He knows where the problem is...between his ears that is. But so more frustrating for him it is, that he can't change his attitude. I say he is burnt out. Maybe middle age crisis or shyt lika that. It takes time to clear his head.

He is clearly a smart guy, everyone expects from him the best. He expects of himself the best. The more frustrating it gets when he does not deliver the best. He is too hard on himself. I think it is the curse of all smart and gifted people. That is the reason why simple guys have huge confidence. Nothing is expected of them and they do not care, mostly because they don't see around the corner.

Furthermore I'm speculating here...At the same time he is afraid to leave his cubicle. Because he might experience a failure. And his ego is masking the fear as lack of motivation for what difference will he make? I say, he should do it just for the hack of it. Not to reach some goal. Just to prove to himself he is his own master.

I had to do it some time ago. Nothing drastic but I'd say it helped me to breathe a fresh air. Not the stale one I breathed for so long. Change is important, more so if it means a challenge, even if mild one.

 

[backbreaker]

thanks.


I was randomly thinking about this thread yesterday and I want to ask a question.

Why, are you wasting time with a girl who you would not take around your friends in the first place?

 

[backbreaker]

And he's back!!!! Yayyyyyyy!!! Welcome home!

glad to be home

I knew i would be back, but there are times you have to step away from virtual reality and get a dosage of real life. After some of the stuff I was reading I knew it was that time.

 

[squirrels]

thanks.


I was randomly thinking about this thread yesterday and I want to ask a question.

Why, are you wasting time with a girl who you would not take around your friends in the first place?

I was bored and horny and it beats X-box.

See, I wouldn't even say I have "low libido". The drive is there. It's just once I GET it, I've always felt crummy about it.

I was watching South Park last night (yeah, I know...I had to do some work from home so I was in for the night) and the Butters "Bottom B*tch" episode was on. Do you remember when he kissed that girl for the first time and he was just lying in bed staring up at the ceiling with a big smile on his face?

I've never felt like that after sex. I remember feeling like that after a date, or after my first lapdance back when I was 18...but I feel like that's probably how most guys feel after sex...and I don't feel that way.

What do I feel...I feel loneliness, guilt, shame, worry...I feel like it's a stupid, disgusting act and, regardless of the short-term pleasure, I should be able to rise above it. If the girl wants me to stay, I feel bad for not being the kind of guy who can "cuddle" with her after sex and make her feel good. If she wants me to go, I feel bad that I didn't mean anything to her.

But then I also feel ashamed and embarassed...I can't really say why. There's just this tremendous sense of "not belonging". Like, yeah, I banged this girl, there's a sense of triumph, but I feel like I shouldn't be there. Like it was either HER desperation or my ability to mask my own inadequacy that resulted in me "getting lucky". I feel like a con-man...and I keep waiting for her to "wake up" and realize that she just made a BIG mistake letting ME hit it.

There's still this layer of disbelief.

BB, you're a "real man", if half the stuff you say in your posts is true. You're a survivor in the true sense of the world, you've pulled yourself up from some major crap and turned into someone who leads a strong, successful life.

I would never want to trade places with you, but if we did, I'm sure I would crumble. Every time I attempt something, it's accompanied by that voice in the back of my head saying, "Who am I kidding? I can't do this."

I've told the story before...once, when I was at what I consider to be the "top of my game", I had gone out to dinner with this beautiful girl and had taken her back to my place, and we were on my living room floor making out...and I suddenly looked up at her and had the same thought enter my head, "who am I kidding? What did *I* do to get HERE?? I don't deserve this." And from there it was like a pin in a balloon. I never heard from her again, my other girls disappeared, started flaking, stopped returning phonecalls, this girl I work with who I was running with "on the down-low" finally dumped her crummy ex, only to immediately marry some other dude and leave me hanging.

With people like you, I'm sure you have this thought when taking on a new endeavor, "YES I deserve this, and YES I can do this".

Me, it's more like, "Who am I kidding? I can't do this! I'll give it a shot, but I know I'm gonna fail." Now I go in with determination, that I am going to force myself to keep going despite the inevitability of failure, and sometimes, hey, I surprise myself and succeed. But determination is not confidence. At the racetrack, hurtling down the front straight, the voice in my head tells me, "Who are you kidding? You can't brake that late into that corner without smashing into the tire-wall!" and I slow down early...unless I can summon up the determination to "do it anyway"...sometimes I get through cleanly, sometimes I ass-pack another rider and shatter my leg into three pieces. When on a tricky rock-wall, "Who are you kidding? Your fat arse can't balance through that move!" So I flail a bit and dangle from the rope until I summon enough determination to try to work through the problem. Sometimes I make it, sometimes I don't.

I was thinking about what everyone said on this thread a couple nights ago...and I came to the realization that maybe its not that I hate people, see the same traits in myself, and thus hate myself. Maybe it's that I hate MYSELF, see the same traits in other people, and hate them too.

"Confidence" seems, from my perspective, to be the ability of those people to ignore the inevitability of their own failure.

Maybe I didn't get told, "You can do it!" enough in my youth. Who knows. Some people who are taught from day one that they can do anything they want in life...not just spitting the cliche tongue-in-cheek, but REALLY believe that, tend to do better than me in life's trials.

But then, if that's the case...who's insane? Me? Or the world? Is the success of the confident man a manifestation of that confidence, or an aberration driven mainly by luck and bestowed upon people who truly DON'T deserve it?

I can't even fathom the idea of me DESERVING what I do have. It feels like a lucky gift, like I just "fell into something good".

I always told myself never to be satisfied, never to rest on my laurels...I taught myself to discard compliments, because I was afraid they would lead to complacency and arrogance.

Sh*t, my head is so f**ked up, I don't even know where to begin. (why I'm posting this is beyond me...thinking out loud)

 

[backbreaker]

BB, you're a "real man", if half the stuff you say in your posts is true. You're a survivor in the true sense of the world, you've pulled yourself up from some major crap and turned into someone who leads a strong, successful life.

every word. there are some things that i would not even post here truth be told simply becuase you would be like "..the ****?" and it would change your perception of me. I've been through there man lol. I've done things and been in places I don't even want to remember truth be told. I know a level of depression that I am sure few have ever had to experience.

But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. There is a quote I read every morning, it's from "as a man thinkith". it is "circumstances to not make the man, it reviles him to himself". You have become content with bagging 6's and watching south park, and quite frankly, you are too ****ing smart to not push yourself harder.

YouI am very happy for everything I went through becuase it builds character. I would not be the person I am without the adversities I had to endure and still do to some extent.


What I'm trying to ask is, are you that.. needy to sleep with someone you don't' like, versus being alone? couldn't that time be better spent doing something constructive?

I can't even fathom the idea of me DESERVING what I do have.

I am the same way. Never enough.



I think that is somewhat why you feel bad.

 

[synergy1]

Hey, synergy1. I like your attitude. I am just curious about one thing if you do not mind answering it would be helpful in my understanding. Did you former gf leave because losing your job? This question had a lot to do with men and their perceived value. It goes something like this and may sound familiar to a lot of men:

GF: I will stay with you no matter what happens. I love you....
(1 month later)
BF: I lost my job today. Big layoff.
GF: What??!!!! No..... Well, uhm... I am outta here!

Hah!

nah man my gf last year was really supportive of me losing my job. at first it took her a little bit to realize I was cutting costs, but she figured it out. I ended up going down south (one year ago tomorrow actually) to start the venture and left the gf back here at home. From what I heard from all mutual friends, it took her 6+ months to get over it, and it took some time for me too.

at least in my opinion, a high quality person who would have stuck through w/ me through it.

BB glad to see you back here!

 

[squirrels]

quite frankly, you are too ****ing smart to not push yourself harder.


What I'm trying to ask is, are you that.. needy to sleep with someone you don't' like, versus being alone? couldn't that time be better spent doing something constructive?

Smarts is nothing. Understanding something does not necessarily make you any good at it.

I'm very precise and good at understanding things. But I lack creativity...vision.

What 'constructive' thing would I do? That's what it comes down to...I ask myself that question...and no answer comes. I come up blank. So I sit down to play X-box. :kick:

 

[Die Hard]

Maybe I didn't get told, "You can do it!" enough in my youth. Who knows. Some people who are taught from day one that they can do anything they want in life...not just spitting the cliche tongue-in-cheek, but REALLY believe that, tend to do better than me in life's trials.

That's a start...

 

[backbreaker]

my mother wasn't very encouraging to me. lol, she did kick me out the house for basically starting my old business and not going to college.

I would not call it a belief to succeed, just determination not to fail. there is a big difference between the two. i just can't imagine failing.

man just find something you love. The creativity will take care of itself. i wouldn't be creative either if i were stuck at best buy lol. obviously I love horse racing. I make my money off the horses. half the day i'm working on these business ventures, the other half i spend at the track and at the gym/with fiancee and family. Now, one would think that is all, but no. I've curtailed my love/passion for horse racing into a full fledged business now lol. I'm starting a social network wiht a horse racing niche, it's going to take ab out a year to finish (right), and there is a product, that the site will sale as well that is going to take about 2 years to finish (right). we have built and are building more horse racing related iphone applications, i've branched off from my web development company and now all I do is equine/thoroughbred related sites like gainsway.com and breederscup.com/zenyatta (didn't do that), there are a couple of more heavy duty things i have in the works that i won't get into here becuase it's pretty unique, but when you find something you really like doing, tis' not hard to figure out how to have fun/make money at it. and the best thing is, i don't even consider what i do work. at all. I have a very unique angle at things, becuase unlike most people who are in the horse racing business, I actually gamble..lol, extremely heavily lol. and know what i want. and i'm using that knowledge of hey, why the **** don't we have this, to come up with new business ideas all the time.



my fiancee is even in the act now. she is a pure horse lover, and she basically gets paid to find homes for retired horses. bought her a pick up truck and everything. full fledged part time business, makes decent money too. checks up on the horses once a month to make sure they are okay, relocates them if necessary. and she could care less about the money, i pay the bills and she gets a check from her trust fund anyway every month, she just is passionate about the well being of horses when they are done at the track. too many horses go to kill pins when they are done just becuase someone was too lazy to try to find a good home for a horse. and she cleans house.

 

[Slickster]

"Confidence" seems, from my perspective, to be the ability of those people to ignore the inevitability of their own failure.

Yeah, and what is so hard about that?


No computer, no xbox go from there.

 

[Razor Sharp]

I just had to quote this as well and add to what Slickster said.

"Confidence" seems, from my perspective, to be the ability of those people to ignore the inevitability of their own failure.

For starters the only thing that makes failure inevitable is not trying.

Secondly, confidence thrives, not on the ignorance of one's own weaknesses and failures, but the ability to reach for the possibility of success, developing one's strengths to increase the odds in the process.

In a way your assessment is correct. Some "failure" is always inevitable. You won't hit a home run every time you step to the plate. The difference between winners and losers is that the former do not see their mis-steps as failures, but more as lessons as how NOT to play the game. Instead of looking at the missed shots as setbacks, the winners see them as necessary steps in the cultivation of skill/prowess. Losing doesn't make them distraught or wonder why they even try - it inspires them to kick more ass next time. Such a relentless attitude makes success inevitable, not failure.

IOW, your perspective is completely self-fulfilling. Each time you think to yourself it's hopeless - you put yet another nail in the coffin of your dreams, which are probably already half-dead and on life support from all the years you've chosen to ignore them in favor of your own shortcomings.

There is hope for you Squirrels - you can turn your life around. But I have some really terrible news that you are not going to like:

It's going to take a lot of hard work, discipline and sacrifice to get there. You gotta develop the habit of pressing ahead even when you don't "feel" like it, because only women and weak little boys are governed by emotion. More importantly you gotta learn to ignore that voice in your head that says you are destined for failure, and should not even bother trying. That's just laziness and fear talking - pure faggotry at it's flaming-est.

This is a very common symptom of people who live in their heads and base their worlds solely on intellectual observation. The sobering truth here is that you can take as many magic red pills as you want, but realizations mean nothing when it comes to truly believing in yourself. That only comes with the sweat of your brow, the blood of your efforts and the tears shed as you occasionally push yourself to the limit.

Because of all this, attaining confidence is a painfully gradual process. Like a mason you must stack up small victories brick by brick. You go through the motions everyday - sometimes your bricks don't set properly and you have to start over. But still you plod on because you have a clear picture in your head of the life you want, and frankly you are excited to see it materialize even if it's not happening overnight. Before you even realize it you become an expert at laying down those bricks, and the progress increases exponentially along with your confidence.

Then one day you take a step back and realize that you've built a massive monument to your dreams. Passerby's stop in their tracks to gawk self-consciously at what one man can accomplish. They ask you what your secret is, as if you got some alien anti-gravity technology, or a magical unicorn that you pull out of your ass that does all the heavy lifting. Surely there must be a trick! They shake their heads in disbelief when you let them know it's all the product of relentless hard-work, and the skills you gained in that process. Unsatisfied by your answer they trudge down their roads of misfortune believing that you are just "lucky".

Cynics will then come along and huff at your creation, saying that all life is futile and everything we strive for becomes dust eventually. They too echo choruses of "why bother"? Your answer leaves them without a rebuttal:

"Because it makes me f*cking happy"

Make a daily practice of inviting joy into your life. If you manage to experience that happiness in the midst of your hardest efforts, you will know without a doubt that you are on your path, and success will have no choice but to bend to your will.

If that sounds too esoteric, let me put it in terms that most pick-up geeks will understand.

Success is an HB10 who has heard every pickup line in the book. Men leer at her, almost scorning what they can't have and wonder why they are ignored. Then along comes a man who has worked on his mind body and soul to the point where he is impossible to ignore. He does not ask for her number or request permission to initiate the mating sequence like a good little robot. He whisks her off her feet onto the great dancefloor of life, spinning, dipping and pushing her wherever he pleases. There is no shame to his game later that night as he proceeds to f*ck her brains out in ways she didn't think was even possible. Days later HB Success is wondering why he hasn't called, only to discover that this renaissance man has multiple areas of pursuit, and she's just playing her part in the script he's writing.

What you need my friend is to spin more plates. Not just women, but real, attainable goals that you have put off for far too long. And don't try to feed me that BS about not having dreams. Everyone has them. Some of us are just not afraid of them consuming our reality.

 

[PokerStar]

little threads like this one, could make a whole difference in sosauve posters lives.

life is more then just banging hb10's. its about fullfillment where I think OP has a glass that half full.

good luck!

 

[Don Israel]

As I said before, the only prospect that turns me on is f**king other people's girls, not for pleasure, but just to make them look like fools for buying into this "love" crap. And I can take or leave that.

From what you said, it seems to me that you've reached such a high level in this game and that you've conquered women so much (which is what most of us strive to do) that the 'challenge factor' might have diminished in your case, thus causing a lack of interest in the game... just a thought.

...I Can't wait to reach that level! :box:

 

[Don Israel]

double

 

[bam bam]

I’m going to try to touch on the topics I feel are most important a lot to cover here…

It’s interesting how you decided to call the HB 6 when you where bored. Why call her in particular? Why not go out with friends? Why not just stay in play x box? You are bored right so going on a date with someone you don’t like and haven’t ****ed in a year is a bit odd I think. What I do find more odd is the fact that she was willing to go hang out with her since you haven’t ****ed her in a year +.

Do you talk to her on a regular? I’m willing to bet that you talk to her rather frequent. So why exactly do you have a woman who you don’t want to bring around your friends, and ****ed once over a year ago in your life? This right here is an issue of quality and value of your own time. If you respected your time and had good standards for women you would not have her around your life a year later. Why would you go back to this one particular woman when you claim to have two contacts that are in limbo waiting on you.

If you have no desire for women why call up an HB6 when you’re bored at all? Why even think about calling up a woman and not ordering a pizza/renting a game? This part is a bit fishy to me you claim to have no desire but yet you go on a date when you’re bored. You claim to be scared of semen seeping past the condom but yet you’re ****ing an HB6 who you haven’t ****ed in over a year. You say you don’t like sex but yet you go on a date with a woman who you obviously don’t like because you’d be dating her. There is a large incongruence with what you’re saying on this thread and what you’re doing in your actual life. Your story sounds to me like you added and took out parts of it to over dramatize your situation.

Let me ask this question what are you suppose to feel after having sex? I mean let’s be honest if you’re feeling comfortable and love connection right away that’s a bit odd isn’t it, especially if you’re sleeping with HB6’s. Most people don’t feel too much right away and as time progresses they start to develop more feelings and comfort. You have to be a pretty needy person to open up to a person on the first night. I’m certain that people who are not needy and desperate for being with someone feel a certain level of emptiness. How could you not? You do not know this person from a hole in the ground.

There have been a couple of hours you’ve spent together at drinks or dinner. Total hours spend less than a day even less than 12 hours in most cases. Our society imposes this view on us making us think that we have to feel this immense and immaculate connection from the first hello. Nothing is written in stone some people grow on you and you fall in love with them over time. While other’s you fall in love with their image from the start or who they are. These “rules” people have with how things should work are nothing more than opinions or broken messages. It takes time for people to open up to each other it’s not a one night thing.

Sure there are cases when you click with someone sexually and you two are in sync with each other in the bedroom. But most of the time our sexual encounters are far from that perfect synchronized sexual encounter. People big up their stories in R/L and on the forms, who is going to reveal to you that they felt empty and lonely inside? It’s not something most guys talk about. Most males identify their happiness with their ego. I slept with a woman therefore I am a champion and therefore I am happy.

Emptiness has no connection with his sexual experience. It would seem that you require a mental connection with a person and the sexual being secondary. That’s fine we are all different but you have to be aware of how you operate and work within those dynamics.

If you require a deep mental connection then seek it out. You won’t find that calling up HB6’s from a year ago hoping something changes. If you run into a wall! Why would you think waiting a year and running into it again is going to help you get to the other side?

Don’t be silly if something is that clear to you that it isn’t working for you don’t repeat the same mistakes a year later then get frustrated and write an over dramatized thread about how you want to drop a pursuit for a romantic partner. The fact that you wrote the article shows that you are confused. If you knew what you wanted you would have done it. Having a few random people fighting an uphill battle to logically define to you why you should pursuit it is irrational. We don’t know your life we cannot tell you why you should do something and that reason being the sole reason you continue on.

I am certain that you did not post this topic for actual advice on the matter. I am willing to say that you just posted this article to get a couple people to agree with you so that you can justify your loathing. You have no right to complain about the dating scene when you go out with women that are 6’s who you slept with once and left it alone. You’re trying to take an intellectual stand on this topic but unfortunately your logic stinks. You sir are a complainer who doesn’t know what he wants has a weak grasp of his own reality. You try to mask it with your faulty logic but I see through that.

You can use vague and general rebuttals all you want it doesn’t change anything. You’re playing xbox when you’re bored or calling HB6’s. How are you bored at your age? There are so many things to do in life. If you were playing xbox to take a break from being busy or doing activities in your life I understand. But there is no reason you should be bored at 31.

 

[backbreaker]

What an interesting thread…

I’m going to try to touch on the topics I feel are most important a lot to cover here…

It’s interesting how you decided to call the HB 6 when you where bored. Why call her in particular? Why not go out with friends? Why not just stay in play x box? You are bored right so going on a date with someone you don’t like and haven’t ****ed in a year is a bit odd I think. What I do find more odd is the fact that she was willing to go hang out with her since you haven’t ****ed her in a year +. Do you talk to her on a regular? I’m willing to bet that you talk to her rather frequent. So why exactly do you have a woman who you don’t want to bring around your friends, and ****ed once over a year ago in your life? This right here is an issue of quality and value of your own time. If you respected your time and had good standards for women you would not have her around your life a year later. Why would you go back to this one particular woman when you claim to have two contacts that are in limbo waiting on you. If you have no desire for women why call up an HB6 when you’re bored at all? Why even think about calling up a woman and not ordering a pizza/renting a game? This part is a bit fishy to me you claim to have no desire but yet you go on a date when you’re bored. You claim to be scared of semen seeping past the condom but yet you’re ****ing an HB6 who you haven’t ****ed in over a year. You say you don’t like sex but yet you go on a date with a woman who you obviously don’t like because you’d be dating her. There is a large incongruence with what you’re saying on this thread and what you’re doing in your actual life. Your story sounds to me like you added and took out parts of it to over dramatize your situation.

Let me ask this question what are you suppose to feel after having sex? I mean let’s be honest if you’re feeling comfortable and love connection right away that’s a bit odd isn’t it, especially if you’re sleeping with HB6’s. Most people don’t feel too much right away and as time progresses they start to develop more feelings and comfort. You have to be a pretty needy person to open up to a person on the first night. I’m certain that people who are not needy and desperate for being with someone feel a certain level of emptiness. How could you not? You do not know this person from a hole in the ground. There have been a couple of hours you’ve spent together at drinks or dinner. Total hours spend less than a day even less than 12 hours in most cases. Our society imposes this view on us making us think that we have to feel this immense and immaculate connection from the first hello. Nothing is written in stone some people grow on you and you fall in love with them over time. While other’s you fall in love with their image from the start or who they are. These “rules” people have with how things should work are nothing more than opinions or broken messages. It takes time for people to open up to each other it’s not a one night thing. Sure there are cases when you click with someone sexually and you two are in sync with each other in the bedroom. But most of the time our sexual encounters are far from that perfect synchronized sexual encounter. People big up their stories in R/L and on the forms, who is going to reveal to you that they felt empty and lonely inside? It’s not something most guys talk about. Most males identify their happiness with their ego. I slept with a woman therefore I am a champion and therefore I am happy. Emptiness has no connection with his sexual experience. It would seem that you require a mental connection with a person and the sexual being secondary. That’s fine we are all different but you have to be aware of how you operate and work within those dynamics. If you require a deep mental connection then seek it out. You won’t find that calling up HB6’s from a year ago hoping something changes. If you run into a wall! Why would you think waiting a year and running into it again is going to help you get to the other side? Don’t be silly if something is that clear to you that it isn’t working for you don’t repeat the same mistakes a year later then get frustrated and write an over dramatized thread about how you want to drop a pursuit for a romantic partner. The fact that you wrote the article shows that you are confused. If you knew what you wanted you would have done it. Having a few random people fighting an uphill battle to logically define to you why you should pursuit it is irrational. We don’t know your life we cannot tell you why you should do something and that reason being the sole reason you continue on. I am certain that you did not post this topic for actual advice on the matter. I am willing to say that you just posted this article to get a couple people to agree with you so that you can justify your loathing. You have no right to complain about the dating scene when you go out with women that are 6’s who you slept with once and left it alone. You’re trying to take an intellectual stand on this topic but unfortunately your logic stinks. You sir are a complainer who doesn’t know what he wants has a weak grasp of his own reality. You try to mask it with your faulty logic but I see through that. You can use vague and general rebuttals all you want it doesn’t change anything. You’re playing xbox when you’re bored or calling HB6’s. How are you bored at your age? There are so many things to do in life. If you were playing xbox to take a break from being busy or doing activities in your life I understand. But there is no reason you should be bored at 31.

post like this is why I continue to come back here. way to bring it my man.

 

[iqqi]

Great post bam bam, probably the best one on this thread, but PLEASE break up the paragraphs! Here, I'll do it for you. Just go back and edit your post so squirrels will read it! Lol...

What an interesting thread…

I’m going to try to touch on the topics I feel are most important a lot to cover here…

It’s interesting how you decided to call the HB 6 when you where bored. Why call her in particular? Why not go out with friends? Why not just stay in play x box? You are bored right so going on a date with someone you don’t like and haven’t ****ed in a year is a bit odd I think. What I do find more odd is the fact that she was willing to go hang out with her since you haven’t ****ed her in a year +.

Do you talk to her on a regular? I’m willing to bet that you talk to her rather frequent. So why exactly do you have a woman who you don’t want to bring around your friends, and ****ed once over a year ago in your life? This right here is an issue of quality and value of your own time. If you respected your time and had good standards for women you would not have her around your life a year later. Why would you go back to this one particular woman when you claim to have two contacts that are in limbo waiting on you.

If you have no desire for women why call up an HB6 when you’re bored at all? Why even think about calling up a woman and not ordering a pizza/renting a game? This part is a bit fishy to me you claim to have no desire but yet you go on a date when you’re bored. You claim to be scared of semen seeping past the condom but yet you’re ****ing an HB6 who you haven’t ****ed in over a year. You say you don’t like sex but yet you go on a date with a woman who you obviously don’t like because you’d be dating her. There is a large incongruence with what you’re saying on this thread and what you’re doing in your actual life. Your story sounds to me like you added and took out parts of it to over dramatize your situation.

Let me ask this question what are you suppose to feel after having sex? I mean let’s be honest if you’re feeling comfortable and love connection right away that’s a bit odd isn’t it, especially if you’re sleeping with HB6’s. Most people don’t feel too much right away and as time progresses they start to develop more feelings and comfort. You have to be a pretty needy person to open up to a person on the first night. I’m certain that people who are not needy and desperate for being with someone feel a certain level of emptiness. How could you not? You do not know this person from a hole in the ground.

There have been a couple of hours you’ve spent together at drinks or dinner. Total hours spend less than a day even less than 12 hours in most cases. Our society imposes this view on us making us think that we have to feel this immense and immaculate connection from the first hello. Nothing is written in stone some people grow on you and you fall in love with them over time. While other’s you fall in love with their image from the start or who they are. These “rules” people have with how things should work are nothing more than opinions or broken messages. It takes time for people to open up to each other it’s not a one night thing.

Sure there are cases when you click with someone sexually and you two are in sync with each other in the bedroom. But most of the time our sexual encounters are far from that perfect synchronized sexual encounter. People big up their stories in R/L and on the forms, who is going to reveal to you that they felt empty and lonely inside? It’s not something most guys talk about. Most males identify their happiness with their ego. I slept with a woman therefore I am a champion and therefore I am happy.

Emptiness has no connection with his sexual experience. It would seem that you require a mental connection with a person and the sexual being secondary. That’s fine we are all different but you have to be aware of how you operate and work within those dynamics.

If you require a deep mental connection then seek it out. You won’t find that calling up HB6’s from a year ago hoping something changes. If you run into a wall! Why would you think waiting a year and running into it again is going to help you get to the other side?

Don’t be silly if something is that clear to you that it isn’t working for you don’t repeat the same mistakes a year later then get frustrated and write an over dramatized thread about how you want to drop a pursuit for a romantic partner. The fact that you wrote the article shows that you are confused. If you knew what you wanted you would have done it. Having a few random people fighting an uphill battle to logically define to you why you should pursuit it is irrational. We don’t know your life we cannot tell you why you should do something and that reason being the sole reason you continue on.

I am certain that you did not post this topic for actual advice on the matter. I am willing to say that you just posted this article to get a couple people to agree with you so that you can justify your loathing. You have no right to complain about the dating scene when you go out with women that are 6’s who you slept with once and left it alone. You’re trying to take an intellectual stand on this topic but unfortunately your logic stinks. You sir are a complainer who doesn’t know what he wants has a weak grasp of his own reality. You try to mask it with your faulty logic but I see through that.

You can use vague and general rebuttals all you want it doesn’t change anything. You’re playing xbox when you’re bored or calling HB6’s. How are you bored at your age? There are so many things to do in life. If you were playing xbox to take a break from being busy or doing activities in your life I understand. But there is no reason you should be bored at 31.

 

[bam bam]

ty iqqi done and done...