The story begun 18 months ago. I used to work with this girl. I knew she had a bf, but I flirted with her just for fun. After 3-4 coffee dates, we went out a Friday night. We made out, I told her that this thing is not going to work cause I don’t really want to take you from your man (7 years LTR). She breaks up with him, comes with me. 3 months later: Almost in love with her, she breaks up with me…not particular reason given. Thank God she left for another job. I moved on with my life but we kept a casual contact (eg. One phonecall every two weeks just to say “hi”).
Fast forward to 3 months ago. She tells me to go for some coffee. I had no problem with that. We had a great time, just like good friends. Then, she tells me to come to my place to watch a movie. I had already made my decision not to f*** her (I don’t need her sex, I have plenty). She hits on me verbally, I turn her down. She come for a movie again. She seems standoffish, I don’t give a f%^&. We go out for a drink. We flirt a bit. We go out again. I screw her.
In the meantime, she has come back to my workplace (same building, different flours). She keeps contacting me, I propose to her for another date. And then, she gives me the line “I have a problem, we will go out when I solve it. Please, don’t ask me what it is, let me handle this”. I say, ok. I wait for 15 days (I keep contact with her and asked her twice if her problem was solved). Then, I call her and I told her that I was tired from her behavior. She said, I know. I told her that I’m going to finish this thing. She tells me that she still has the problem, that she likes me, but she cannot do anything more serious with me. I say ok.
I cut contact for 5 days, and she sends an SMS (5 in the mornig) “Hope you’ re ok. Thinking of you”. I didn’t like that at all. I called her the other day and I told her to cut that crap and move on with her life- I just want to keep a casual contact, just because we work in the same place. And I don’t want sex with you, I have plenty with other women. She said that I’m rude and uncool. I hung up, saying “No I’m not. Goodbye”. She calls 5 minutes later and says “I apologise. But you exaggerated a bit”. I told her “No. This is my opinion. And I’m not exaggerating at all”.
5 hours later, I get an SMS “My problem is that Nick (7 years LTR BF) came to me and said that he cannot live without me. I wish I were stronger. But I care for the feelings of people I love. I never took advantage of your friendship- I stopped seeing you as a friend a long time ago. I’m sorry I lost you completely. Be happy”.
My reply “Ok. Point taken. Marry him. But don’t try to come to me again, when you two have problems. Have a nice life. I care”.
What do you think of this? I still like the girl, but I don’t want to keep her as a **** buddy and of course I won’t get in the friend zone. I don’t need her sex, I have 3 other women that satisfy me right now. Any comments are welcome….
Fast forward to 3 months ago. She tells me to go for some coffee. I had no problem with that. We had a great time, just like good friends. Then, she tells me to come to my place to watch a movie. I had already made my decision not to f*** her (I don’t need her sex, I have plenty). She hits on me verbally, I turn her down. She come for a movie again. She seems standoffish, I don’t give a f%^&. We go out for a drink. We flirt a bit. We go out again. I screw her.
In the meantime, she has come back to my workplace (same building, different flours). She keeps contacting me, I propose to her for another date. And then, she gives me the line “I have a problem, we will go out when I solve it. Please, don’t ask me what it is, let me handle this”. I say, ok. I wait for 15 days (I keep contact with her and asked her twice if her problem was solved). Then, I call her and I told her that I was tired from her behavior. She said, I know. I told her that I’m going to finish this thing. She tells me that she still has the problem, that she likes me, but she cannot do anything more serious with me. I say ok.
I cut contact for 5 days, and she sends an SMS (5 in the mornig) “Hope you’ re ok. Thinking of you”. I didn’t like that at all. I called her the other day and I told her to cut that crap and move on with her life- I just want to keep a casual contact, just because we work in the same place. And I don’t want sex with you, I have plenty with other women. She said that I’m rude and uncool. I hung up, saying “No I’m not. Goodbye”. She calls 5 minutes later and says “I apologise. But you exaggerated a bit”. I told her “No. This is my opinion. And I’m not exaggerating at all”.
5 hours later, I get an SMS “My problem is that Nick (7 years LTR BF) came to me and said that he cannot live without me. I wish I were stronger. But I care for the feelings of people I love. I never took advantage of your friendship- I stopped seeing you as a friend a long time ago. I’m sorry I lost you completely. Be happy”.
My reply “Ok. Point taken. Marry him. But don’t try to come to me again, when you two have problems. Have a nice life. I care”.
What do you think of this? I still like the girl, but I don’t want to keep her as a **** buddy and of course I won’t get in the friend zone. I don’t need her sex, I have 3 other women that satisfy me right now. Any comments are welcome….
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