Rant: I'm done with girls.

[phlong bong]

I agree this is good for you. Get everything else in your life together so this you don't sound so depressed and bitter.

I first started getting success with girls after I studied so hard I was sure I would ace my exams and get into med school later. I was so tired from studying that I just wanted Have fun... So I just invited a random girl I made eye contact with in library for late night food. I was feeling so good about myself I just radiated good vibes and fun. She later told me that was the best date/ dinner she ever went out on.

After working hard on myself and not for girls, I find I radiate good feelings, become more playful, and genuinely interested in what others are doing in
Life.

 

[Groovy]

How's it uncongruent? Haha, that's funny, you can apparently tell someone's "cool and confident" from their posts right?

You're joking right?? How can this be hard to understand? I don't know. I will have to repeat myself. This time you will understand, it can't get any more simple then this. Even a 10 year old would no doubt understand this one, bro. Just read it again. I got the impression you didn't even think about it, since you say something so ridiculous like "You can apparently tell someone's "cool and confident" from their posts right?". I will explain it once again, however, no problems bro. It just takes me 5 minutes anyways, and maybe it will help you out, so why not?


Elstud, YOU ARE INCOGRUENT. YOU CONTRADICT YOURSELF IN THE VERY FIRST SENTANCE OF THE THREAD!
"I'm confident, I got no approach anxiety and I can approach any random woman and have a decent conversation. But for some reason I just don't get chicks and am starting to believe I never will."

If you were confident, you'd believe you are great and cool, and thus, you'd simply believe that it would be easy for you to get chicks. How the hell does any confident guy think "I will never get girls?" That's sssssssoooooooooooooooooooooooo contradicting. I am sure you will agree with me one this one. You can't disagree. A confident guy would think something more like "I am great, I can get good woman, why not?".

That's maybe the reason why you don't get girls, your lack of confidence. You may think you're confident, but apparently you're not.

 

[Darth]

You can believe whatever you want but if you want to have an effect of people, once in awhile you need to put the bullsh*t away and just look at yourself from another person's eyes. What people think of you and what's in your mind can be completely different at times. I don't care about people's comments either but once in awhile I take the time to listen like "if everyone says this about me, then maybe there's something to this, I should look into it".


I want to quote this, this is a great post.

 

[Ashcraft]

I agree with Iceberg.

 

[squirrels]

Haha, I don't even know why I'm arguing with you guys.

"Ha-ha! You people are beneath me! I am so awesome, it is laughable how you call me into question! I don't know why I waste my time associating with you!!"

I do.

Because you're trying to convince yourself that there is nothing wrong with ideas you have and the approach you are using, despite the fact that NONE of it is working for you.

Because it's more important for you to feel comfortable in your ability to represent yourself as a perfect human being than it is to get out there and try something different and take a chance at being happier with your current romantic situation. (God forbid you actually LEARN something...that would suggest that...*gasp*...maybe you DON'T know everything!!)

And because the best way for you to do that is to hang out on an Internet forum and put up such a convincing "argument" (if that's what you call your collection of fallacies and ad-hominem attacks) that other people agree with you and tell you as much to validate your sense of self-worth.

Do you want to "be right" or do you want to "get laid"?

You decide. We're fine here either way.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Haha, these responses are entertaining. Please, tell me how that makes any sense. "COOL" and "CONFIDENT" are just something you FEEL. You can not "FEEL" such things over the internet.

You've given us dozens of threads of crazy stories of you getting your ass handed by women and security people who escort you out of places.

People don't want to talk to you. That doesn't make you "cool" and "confident". You're no social butterfly is what I'm saying and that won't change until you admit to yourself (not to us) that you have a problem and you need to change.

How many of you can HONESTLY say that you could go up to ANY set without pissing your pants? I can.

Until they bring out the pepper spray and call mall security. Then you lose bowel control no matter what.

Besides, what's this obsession on here with being the "Great Catch" or "The Shiz"? Some of us guys just want to find our dream girl.

Why would your dreamgirl be with a schlub like you? What do you have to offer her in return?

If you want to have the best, you better be the best.

Because you're trying to convince yourself that there is nothing wrong with ideas you have and the approach you are using, despite the fact that NONE of it is working for you.

But he's approached hundreds of women and "sets" of women too! That's success! And not only that but from the HUNDREDS he's talked to he's banged.... ummmmm... how many is that again ElStud?

LOL. I'm sure you know what you're doing. You've done this for years and look at the end results! All those women you've been with! Keep it up because it's working great so far. Right ElStud?

 

[Jack-Torrance]

ElStud is so ALPHA and COOL maaaaan!

Maybe if he keeps using the cool PUA mindsets that he is the prize and it's their loss, he'll FINALLY get a girl... Riiight?

ElStud, my advice is to drop the faggoty mindsets, can't you see that no matter HOW much you try to pretend you are the prize and too good for them, it's not going to work for you. EVER. No really. EVER. You will die a virgin if you don't change anything. HONESTLY, you actually will.

Obviously you don't care about that though, because girls are only secondary to you and you have more important things in your life! (Yeah I'm sure if you keep forcing yourself to think that you'll finally get laid!) :crackup:

 

[Jack-Torrance]

You're right, I'm not a master Don Juan. I don't desire to be a Master Don Juan. See, I actually want to be able to get women by being me. I don't want to have to use all these petty tricks, routines and stuff to get women. That's just silly.

But I guess it works better than being genuine.

Waaaait, this isn't ElStud! You are surely a troll! You used to constantly claim you were the prize when you used to post about your failures!

You don't need tricks, routines and stuff. Just explain what you say to women. Are you quiet and just make small talk or something? Because yeah, that's understandable how this could happen.

 

[ElStud]

You know what's hilarious? Most of you giving advice have under 100 posts. This is how Sosuave has always been. People who don't get ass, give people advice, then get MAD when that person doesn't take it. It's Deja Vu.

A real "don juan" wouldn't get butthurt if someone didn't take his advice. Most of you guys are fakes, accept it.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You know what's hilarious? Most of you giving advice have under 100 posts. This is how Sosuave has always been. People who don't get ass, give people advice, then get MAD when that person doesn't take it. It's Deja Vu.

A real "don juan" wouldn't get butthurt if someone didn't take his advice. Most of you guys are fakes, accept it.

Dude. I havent even read your thread, but this seems stupid. Anyone could be sitting on the other end; no matter how many posts they have. You got over 1000 posts, and here you are, saying you're quitting girls. Something tells me you're not getting ass, and your theory is destroyed, now go ahead and make another rationalization.

Go ahead and improve your life, instead of ranting on an internet forum.
Just be yourself.

 

[The Assistant]

You know what's hilarious? Most of you giving advice have under 100 posts. This is how Sosuave has always been. People who don't get ass, give people advice, then get MAD when that person doesn't take it. It's Deja Vu.

A real "don juan" wouldn't get butthurt if someone didn't take his advice. Most of you guys are fakes, accept it.

the fact that you lack any kind of reason or logic is just amazing to me....I didn't know that there were people out there like you. It's no surprise why you are utterly unsuccessful with girls.

 

[ElStud]

the fact that you lack any kind of reason or logic is just amazing to me....I didn't know that there were people out there like you. It's no surprise why you are utterly unsuccessful with girls.

Ah, you're so predictable. First you make a statement with no basis behind it, then you act like you know me. But yeah, that was my point, you have under 100 posts and yet you're criticizing someone who has been approaching and doing the PUA thing for years. I may not get girls, but atleast I'm not ACTING LIKE IT, when I can't.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Dude. I havent even read your thread, but this seems stupid. Anyone could be sitting on the other end; no matter how many posts they have. You got over 1000 posts, and here you are, saying you're quitting girls. Something tells me you're not getting ass, and your theory is destroyed, now go ahead and make another rationalization.

Go ahead and improve your life, instead of ranting on an internet forum.
Just be yourself.

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ElStud is old news, repeating itself.

 

[The Assistant]

Ah, you're so predictable. First you make a statement with no basis behind it, then you act like you know me. But yeah, that was my point, you have under 100 posts and yet you're criticizing someone who has been approaching and doing the PUA thing for years. I may not get girls, but atleast I'm not ACTING LIKE IT, when I can't.

how stupid does someone have to be to think that "number of posts on sosuave = how good he is with women".....you know why you're still a virgin? Because you're just a very stupid and ignorant person.

Your thread history PROVES it.

 

[chiyeung]

The fact that you don't get girls after years mean that you're doing something wrong. I'm 19 and i am no where close to being a DJ, yet i get "vagina".

you cant just be yourself.

 

[Nikoli]

Here's one thing that repells women as much if not more then neediness and desperation....BITERNESS. They can smell it a mile away and it usually accompanies the first two things. It's a huge turn off for them cauuse it usually means you're getting over a girl or have struck out with a few up to her.

I battle with this alot too. I get bitter when I look at how easy some girls have it and how they treat the guys in their life. The guys just keeping coming back for more and the girl keeps treating him like ****. Anyone with any perception and knowledge of male/female relations has felt this in his heart and it is so damaging to your game cause it keeps you from being open to meet new and amazing women.

My biggest advice to keep this bitterness at bay is to keep active in the gym and do a lot of sports/physical activities. Whenever I start feeling this I hit the gym hard and sweat it it out. After an hour or so if hitting the weights and doing cardio you'll find you feel better about yourself, your situation, and the women that are around you.

Good luck and keep up the good fight.

N.

 

[Nutz]

You're right, I'm not a master Don Juan. I don't desire to be a Master Don Juan. See, I actually want to be able to get women by being me. I don't want to have to use all these petty tricks, routines and stuff to get women. That's just silly.

But I guess it works better than being genuine.

Women judge you on the external, your perceived status, and so on when you approach them. They know nothing about you as a person, so when they reject you off the bat, it's not you they're rejecting but your approach. It's either sloppy, you have BO or bad breath, or some other factor that's putting them off. To put it bluntly you should know all this already.

 

[Gray The Prince]

you know why you're still a virgin? Because you're just a very stupid and ignorant person.
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No lol, ElStud is still a virgin cause he sits on the computer all day and makes threads about why he doesn't get girls. Hence why he has 1800+ posts.

You will die a virgin if you don't change anything. HONESTLY, you actually will

He's not going to die a virgin, he'll just pay for a prostitute.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Damn elstud, I haven't spoke to you in a long time especially since I had stopped reading this forum...

My question is, in the past year or so how dedicated have you been in terms of improving yourself? I knew you since you were back in high school and I remember stating that you should think long term because high school isn't like real life.

- Did you get a job in order to buy a car?
- Do you actively experiment when interacting with women?
- How many women have you interacted with in the past month? How many of those did you give the opportunity to exchange numbers?

Reality doesn't lie, proof is always in the pudding, if the objective results isn't showing a consistency of women actually liking you then it's you and there is work to be done. Accept it an start from there...

It would be a whole different thing if even 70% of the women you met enjoyed being around you but 30% are on some next ****. I don't jokingly say I'm fascinating due to some delusional thing, I know it because past experience shows that these women regardless who they are always seek me out in some way.

This doesn't happen over night nor is it left to chance, I've bust my ass to become how I've become. You knew me from when I first got out of high school and was going to acting school. That was around 08...

Were in 2011 now, I've been through so much **** but the dedication and effort to grow who I am is what kept me going. I'm drastically different from how I was in 08. An I only mention this because I was in a situation that caused me to question myself "Do I want to whine about my situation OR do I want to grow and expand my reality?" (Remember I used to tell you to hit the mall even though there weren't many people or anything)

The mere fact that I NEVER want to go back to living how I used to live has caused me to go out during snow storms busting my ass in hopes of growing. At 4am in the morning I have to sometimes run 2 miles just to get home since the bus isn't running. I knowingly go out knowing it will be dead due to weather BUT if I don't go out then I stay in the same situation. My logic is that standing under a phone booth in a thunderstorm is worth it if I atleast attempted to meet the next person who potentially can help change my life.

Perfect example, last sunday I spent a accumulated 5 hours on the train. I went home early almost going to bed until I at 10:45am I said "If I don't go out I will not make money and I'll be stuck in my situation, I can't pass up this day I'm going OUT!!". (I was only in my house for 10mins) The end result I met new contacts AND had an insane experience of being in a taxi with 2 bi sexual chicks and ending up at a stripclub for the first time in my life.

That choice to continue growing is the difference that made a difference, so simply suck it up if you really want to improve your life and the experiences you have then GROW INTERNALLY and let the external reality unfold as you change.

P.S...This is the video of sunday night, imagine if I didn't go out I would've met 0 new contacts. I continued to build relationships with many of the people in that video. (As you'll notice I'm in vid)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tv4I79ljYM

P.S.S...As a person who've known you for awhile, DO NOT ***** OUT on life an settle for mediocrity. I have a friend who makes me sad because it feels like he is slowly losing focus on his life and improving it meanwhile I'm so dedicated that I would rather die than not live how I want to live. There is NO REASON to live just to say your alive, live how you want to live and use that to fuel your internal growth. A quote some wealthy guy once told me was....

"Live a few years like most won't, so you can live the res of your life like most can't."

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Nice post, Snow Plowman!

Which one is you in that vid?
You are 20y.o., right?