Rant: I'm done with girls.

[ElStud]

One question, I ask you guys is, why do SO MANY OF YOU put females on pedestals? I mean really you do. In your advice, you assume that the girls I'm talking to are perfect. That they have no flaws. Why is it so hard for you to believe that a girl can be boring?

I really see no need to improve. If I can't get a certain type of chick, shall be it. At the end it's really not going to effect me.

Really, is bothers me how much of a deal some of you make about girls. Girls are girls. Simple as that. Why does there always have to be something wrong with me? I know who I am, cool, confident, funny and mostly real.

I don't care what you think and I don't care what chicks think. I'm not defending myself, I'm simply replying. If someone makes a smart ass comment, I reply.

Anyway, I don't care. Girls or no girls, I'm still the confident, cool guy I am. That's what makes me different from most of you. For most of you, you would probably die without girls. Girls are your life.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Still living in your own reality. Whatever works man.



Remember that story you told us about being escorted out of a university library by security and subsequently banned from the library for "talking" to some girl who really didn't want anything to do with you despite her repeated and obvious attempts to get away from you? That was hilarious!

Your problem is that you think you're hot sh*t. You're the best right? Well you're the only one who thinks so. I don't even think that way about myself and I'm more successful in every single aspect of my life (compared to you I mean). It's funny because I was like you before. Ego and all that, but as I learned how things worked and my place in this crazy world I became more humble. Knowledge is usually humbling. Fools have pride, and you are a fool but at least you provide us with entertainment. Thank you.

If you ever want to improve then cast your pride away. It's holding you back. Notice how you become so defensive over anything and everything? That's pride. You haven't changed at all since the last time I read your threads.

Maybe you like being stuck in the place that you are now? If that's the case, then don't change a damn thing and please write some more.

your so witty.

 

[Let's Get Real]

One question, I ask you guys is, why do SO MANY OF YOU put females on pedestals? I mean really you do.

You have made 1,844 posts on this forum and been on here since 2007. Are you really asking yourself that question? What does being successful with women mean to you?

 

[Alle_Gory]

In your advice, you assume that the girls I'm talking to are perfect. That they have no flaws. Why is it so hard for you to believe that a girl can be boring?

Haven't seen any such advice dealing with "perfect" women. That's your projection. People are flawed by nature. Some more than others.

I really see no need to improve. If I can't get a certain type of chick, shall be it. At the end it's really not going to effect me.

True. But there's plenty to improve on in life. Social skills, career, your favorite past times, etc.

Notice I never said women. Success with women is the symptom of a healthy and successful life (whatever that means to you). Or you can put lots of effort into women like the PUAs do, sacrificing everything else.

Why does there always have to be something wrong with me? I know who I am, cool, confident, funny and mostly real.

Because you're the only person you can control and improve. Can't change the world, but you can change yourself and have the effect you want on the world. Better than nothing.

It's nice that you think you're "cool, confident, and etc." but that's bullsh*t you apply to other people. We don't need any of that here. This is an anonymous forum. We don't even know your real name. What's the point of running game here?

I don't care what you think and I don't care what chicks think. I'm not defending myself, I'm simply replying. If someone makes a smart ass comment, I reply.

Anyway, I don't care. Girls or no girls, I'm still the confident, cool guy I am. That's what makes me different from most of you. For most of you, you would probably die without girls. Girls are your life.

You can believe whatever you want but if you want to have an effect of people, once in awhile you need to put the bullsh*t away and just look at yourself from another person's eyes. What people think of you and what's in your mind can be completely different at times. I don't care about people's comments either but once in awhile I take the time to listen like "if everyone says this about me, then maybe there's something to this, I should look into it".

your so witty.

My what is witty? Or did you mean to spell the word you're as in you are.

 

[runner83]

I can't get over how some people come on here raving about how good they are, and yet they can't get laid.

Something in their life (maybe multiple things) are wrong e.g. afraid of approaching, afraid of escalating, bad body, low confidence, no social life, too much importance on women etc etc

It is an undeniable fact that SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH THEIR LIFE.

Instead of coming on here complaining about it to a bunch of unsympathetic pr*cks like myself who can (and have) laid girls the first time we meet them, work out what is wrong and FIX IT!

Don't fall into the trap of thinking you will always be the same person. Winners are always looking to improve themselves.

Keep moving forward, that's how winning is done.

 

[Gray The Prince]

Hey OP, since you get to rant, so will I. (sarcasm)




(Me mocking the OP in his voice)

EVERY DAY I COME ON THIS SITE, I SEE THE SAME DAMN STORIES AND THE SAME DAMN PROBLEMS. JUST DIFFERENT GUYS. "OH, I'M PROTECTIVE, I HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY, IT'S NOT ME, IT'S THOSE SLUTS!!"

OH EMM GEE, WHY DON'T WOMEN LIIIIKE MEEE!!! I HATTEEE WIMMENZ, I'M GONNA GO SIT IN FRONT OF MY COMPUTER AND JACK OFF P0RNZ!!! :cuss:



Did I cover it all?

 

[The Assistant]

if Elstud is the laughing stock of sosuave, then what do you think the girls that he approaches think about him? Think about it for a second.

The only way for ElStud to ever become successful, is to WORK ON HIS APPEARANCE (he strikes me as the kind who never goes to the gym, doesn't have good fashion sense, and doesn't really try to look good), and THEN completely change his approach, so that instead of sounding like a creep when he talks to girls, he comes off smooth, calm, and sexy.

But hey, I know that the above advice will get ignored, as this guy has ignored EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF ADVICE HE'S EVER GOTTEN.

 

[Groovy]

I know who I am, cool, confident, funny and mostly real.

That is not congruent with your posts. Hell, I too thought I was the shiz a few years back and fewer girls liked me. I maybe sometimes tought: Bah, she has bad taste. (Ok, maybe not that ) Or something like: She is so lame, why can't she see I am so cool? Now that I have grown, I can see I didn't know what to say in a conversation sometimes, didn't really know how to defend myself sometimes, how to express myself, etc. I basically lacked some social intelligence sometimes. Truthfully, it was I who was the problem! Now that I changed, people, both girls and guys, respond much more positively to me. It wasn't the worlds fault, it was mines.

If you were cool, confident and funny girls would be all over you. What is more, you wouldn't be in this topic complaining the way you do. You'd also have a more open mind, and thank people for trying to help you out most of the time. I haven't seen your funniness yet, or your confidence. Studdie, you say you got confidence?

Elstud:
"I'm confident, I got no approach anxiety and I can approach any random woman and have a decent conversation. But for some reason I just don't get chicks and am starting to believe I never will."
Booyakasha!

"Cool" is a subjective term, but cmon, having an open mind, that is neat, at least try and not insult the forums and make lame statements about ppl like:"
Anyway, I don't care. Girls or no girls, I'm still the confident, cool guy I am. That's what makes me different from most of you. For most of you, you would probably die without girls. Girls are your life." Thanks for not having ANY faith in your fellow brothers from sosuave!!

BTW, you're saying you don't wanna change. But change is good. I will show you:
Imagine you're a guy who gets jealous or angry easily. That is a part of your personality, isn't it? Wouldn't you like to change that? Or would you get angry if a girl rejected you, and then you would say: "Bah, screw her, I'm not gonna change for her, I'll just find another girl who likes me the way I am and am gonna keep being myself". But you're not being very attractive that way. Nor good for yourself. Being angry is a pain in the neck and not healthy at all. So change, for YOURSELF. In this hypothetical situation, you'd have to STOP being so angry\jealous\negative, whatever it is. It'd be good for you, and attractive. I think I can even say that whatever is unattractive it's because it's also BAD in some way.

And thus it would be good for you to try and change it. Change yourself for you bro! You better check yourself before you wreck yourself!

Edit to add reply to Jack Torrance

I agree with you.

But the term "nice guy" is often used loosely. If a guy is nice to a girl, it doesn't make him a "nice guy".

You can be nice to a girl and still have power, but that's when you're going down the relationship route, rather than the one-night-stand route.

Nice, I didn't know that last bit about the relationship route. TY! It's true, being nice to a girl doesn't make you a "nice guy". That's when you're only nice, no confidence. For example, you said you were nice to lots of girls and they like you. That's because you must have something else combined with your niceness that's attracting them, like dominance or something cool like that. Awesome, man! : D

Also

It'd be much better if you could explain to us exactly how your interactions go, post up a conversation you have with a woman, we'll easily be able to see what you're doing wrong!

Exactly! You said it great, I concur word by word.

 

[squirrels]

Conversation is just a smokescreen...it's something you do to distract her while you're working on getting her horny.

Sh*t, Saturday night I got flagged down at a bar by some woman whose friend thought I was hot...within 15 minutes I'm holding her by the ass trying to convince her to kiss me to make another girl jealous...who wasn't even there. I don't remember d!ck about what I said to her...talking is just a front for what you're both REALLY after.

With the ladies, balls wins. Not conversational skills, not Don Juan tricks...BALLS. You have to have enough swagger to be able to tell yourself, "I AM, in fact, cool enough to talk to/f**k this girl".

If you don't think you ARE cool enough, maybe you need to take Seizeher's advice. Or maybe you're just delusionally hard on yourself.

You don't have to be gorgeous, but you can't be hideous. You don't have to be rich, but you can't be poor. You don't have to be a socialite, but you can't be a misanthrope.

As for "interesting" girls, no you're not going to be able to discuss the philosophical implications of quantum physics with them. You have to appreciate them aesthetically.

I'll confess to you...I LOVE women. Not as people...but then I hate just about EVERYONE as people. But I love the silly things they do, the ridiculous things in life that make them happy or sad, their vulnerability, their randomness, their coy little games, the way they throw up b!tchy attitudes to conceal their inner feelings of inadequacy/insecurity, the way they're all still "daddy's girl" underneath, the way they're always so soft when you touch them, the way they smell, the way their lips taste, the curves of their bodies, the way when you kiss them all pretense just melts away and they turn their eyes down in feminine submission...how can you NOT like that?

Stop expecting every girl to be your life-partner. Just see what you CAN enjoy about them at first. Get some girls and see if you can find any value in being around them.

If not...give it a rest. No one says you HAVE to be chasing tail all the time.

 

[PokerStar]

I'll confess to you...I LOVE women. Not as people...but then I hate just about EVERYONE as people. But I love the silly things they do, the ridiculous things in life that make them happy or sad, their vulnerability, their randomness, their coy little games, the way they throw up b!tchy attitudes to conceal their inner feelings of inadequacy/insecurity, the way they're all still "daddy's girl" underneath, the way they're always so soft when you touch them, the way they smell, the way their lips taste, the curves of their bodies, the way when you kiss them all pretense just melts away and they turn their eyes down in feminine submission...how can you NOT like that?

awww yeah!

 

[NoCommitments]

THESE ARE THE WORDS FROM A MAN, or should I say BOY, WHO CALLS HIMSELF ELSTUD????

I didnt read all the posts cause I'm sure they're all the same but dude DO NOT write that type of sh*t on here!!!

This is a place of encouragement & enlightenment! If you're having issues closing the deal it is not the girls...IT IS YOU!! yes you can't be an AFC but there is a way of being a nice guy with Alpha traits ...THATS SEXY TO A WOMAN.....Not a guy who says "Wah i cant get a girl so please accept my retirement"

In the words of Sargeant Hartman:

"You are nothing but an unorganized grabastic amphibian piece of sh*t"

GO SUCK C*CK or grow up! Those are your choices!!!

 

[Uberguy]

I'm done trying to approach women, I'm done trying to seduce women, I'm done trying to get women.

I'm done with them.

Awesome! Thank you for quitting. One less competitor to deal with.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

You guys are very witty...

Elstud, I totally understand your frustration.... evolution got it wrong with women. There are incredible women out there, no doubt about it. The problem is that they are a small minority, and you ending up with one is as difficult as winning 3 lotteries in a row... No matter how skilled you are, you might never find one through your social circle... you really need luck on this.

The majority of women, are *****y, with many mental disorders, much more stupid than the average guy, and with the princess syndrome. You can tolerate that while they are hot (these days until 20 before they become obese)...but after that unless you find a really good women, you better stay single... Otherwise you´l end up divorced, and paying for her to go shopping with her friends...

 

[JdelaSilviera]

double post

 

[VastanVer2.0]

For some reason when I read one of the OP's posts all I see is "waaaah, waah, wah". My computer must be ****ed, lol

 

[Slickster]

I'm done trying to get women.

The Holy Grail!

You found it.

Congrats and Welcome!

 

[ElStud]

That is not congruent with your posts. Hell, I too thought I was the shiz a few years back and fewer girls liked me. I maybe sometimes tought: Bah, she has bad taste. (Ok, maybe not that ) Or something like: She is so lame, why can't she see I am so cool? Now that I have grown, I can see I didn't know what to say in a conversation sometimes, didn't really know how to defend myself sometimes, how to express myself, etc. I basically lacked some social intelligence sometimes. Truthfully, it was I who was the problem! Now that I changed, people, both girls and guys, respond much more positively to me. It wasn't the worlds fault, it was mines.

If you were cool, confident and funny girls would be all over you. What is more, you wouldn't be in this topic complaining the way you do. You'd also have a more open mind, and thank people for trying to help you out most of the time. I haven't seen your funniness yet, or your confidence. Studdie, you say you got confidence?

Elstud:
"I'm confident, I got no approach anxiety and I can approach any random woman and have a decent conversation. But for some reason I just don't get chicks and am starting to believe I never will."
Booyakasha!

"Cool" is a subjective term, but cmon, having an open mind, that is neat, at least try and not insult the forums and make lame statements about ppl like:"
Anyway, I don't care. Girls or no girls, I'm still the confident, cool guy I am. That's what makes me different from most of you. For most of you, you would probably die without girls. Girls are your life." Thanks for not having ANY faith in your fellow brothers from sosuave!!

BTW, you're saying you don't wanna change. But change is good. I will show you:
Imagine you're a guy who gets jealous or angry easily. That is a part of your personality, isn't it? Wouldn't you like to change that? Or would you get angry if a girl rejected you, and then you would say: "Bah, screw her, I'm not gonna change for her, I'll just find another girl who likes me the way I am and am gonna keep being myself". But you're not being very attractive that way. Nor good for yourself. Being angry is a pain in the neck and not healthy at all. So change, for YOURSELF. In this hypothetical situation, you'd have to STOP being so angry\jealous\negative, whatever it is. It'd be good for you, and attractive. I think I can even say that whatever is unattractive it's because it's also BAD in some way.

And thus it would be good for you to try and change it. Change yourself for you bro! You better check yourself before you wreck yourself!

Edit to add reply to Jack Torrance

Nice, I didn't know that last bit about the relationship route. TY! It's true, being nice to a girl doesn't make you a "nice guy". That's when you're only nice, no confidence. For example, you said you were nice to lots of girls and they like you. That's because you must have something else combined with your niceness that's attracting them, like dominance or something cool like that. Awesome, man! : D

Also

Exactly! You said it great, I concur word by word.

How's it uncongruent? Haha, that's funny, you can apparently tell someone's "cool and confident" from their posts right?

So any guy who doesn't put chicks on a pedestal is "not cool and confident"?

Haha, these responses are entertaining. Please, tell me how that makes any sense. "COOL" and "CONFIDENT" are just something you FEEL. You can not "FEEL" such things over the internet.

Haha, I don't even know why I'm arguing with you guys. I know who I am and I'll be who I am, regardless of what you try to say I am.

I'm just saying, what's the huge deal? In the end all this confidence stuff, blah blah blah, it doesn't even matter. It's either you get girls or you don't. And I don't. Doesn't mean I'm not a cool guy still, but I don't get girls. At least I have the balls to admit it. How many of you can HONESTLY say that you could go up to ANY set without pissing your pants? I can.

Besides, what's this obsession on here with being the "Great Catch" or "The Shiz"? Some of us guys just want to find our dream girl.

 

[NoCommitments]

Haha, I don't even know why I'm arguing with you guys. I know who I am and I'll be who I am, regardless of what you try to say I am.

I'm just saying, what's the huge deal? In the end all this confidence stuff, blah blah blah, it doesn't even matter. It's either you get girls or you don't. And I don't. Doesn't mean I'm not a cool guy still, but I don't get girls. At least I have the balls to admit it. How many of you can HONESTLY say that you could go up to ANY set without pissing your pants? I can.

Besides, what's this obsession on here with being the "Great Catch" or "The Shiz"? Some of us guys just want to find our dream girl.

You are so ignorant! You know why???
Because in your corny & wannabe-humble way you're actually trying to convince us that you're different from all of us. THAT SOMEHOW YOU'RE BETTER because you have a grip on reality!!

Well here's the reality:
I can't speak for everyone but I know that YES I HAVE MAJOR APPROACH ANXIETY. I have admitted it on numerous posts: how I've blown so many potential opportunites..

BUT HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BOY(you) AND A MAN(me)....

I have come to the conclusion that I am learning from my mistakes. I can see when I'm doing something wrong because of their body language, etc... the girl winches or moves away. But other times when I change the transition etc the mood changes...the girl laughs, she's receptive, she's touchy feelie ... SOOOO

As a MAN I can understand that it's not the world against me ...It's just me fighting my own insecurities/inexperiences etc... I won't give up until I'm completely comfortable around anyone, anywhere, talking about anything... & believe me bro I'm not a young & great looking guy, so dont think a model is writing this while I having a harem of beautiful women waiting for me in the next room...

But to mention you have confidence & you have no approach anxiety & in the same breath say you piss your pants on the approach shows me you're not a very stable guy..

Go b*tch on another site or get a clue!!!

 

[Iceberg]

When the argument takes 3 pages to go into a complete circle, you know it's a good time to stop paying attention to the original poster.

This thread isn't a discussion. It's a cry for attention.

 

[NoCommitments]

When the argument takes 3 pages to go into a complete circle, you know it's a good time to stop paying attention to the original poster.

This thread isn't a discussion. It's a cry for attention.

YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!

One last thing ElStud: Go F*ck yourself! lol