Ok. So I've been going out with a co-worker who is probably an HB8 and I like a lot (I've posted about her before). The situation is complicated because she is on and off with a bf she has. At times she tells me they are done for real and then I discover that she's back talking to him.
I made mistakes with this girl from the start in letting her know I like her and showing too much interest. Slowly but surely I've stopped compliments and started acting more cold and indifferent which as expected peaked her interest in me.
We've gone out to lunch during work once and for drinks 3 times. She had a huge fight with the bf and hit me up wanting to meet up for drinks. I sensed she just wanted me there as a friend to talk about her issues and told her I wasn't available to meet. I really wasn't since I had set up a date with another girl who I don't like as much but had fun with her.
My question is did I go too far in letting my coworker know that I had a date with another girl. I did it to show her I have options and not available to her whenever she wants. Also to let her know that if she doesn't decide soon about whether to let the bf go for sure or not she will lose me to someone else. It's recommended to be indifferent and let women know that we have options but did I mess up in telling her I had a date.
She talks about this all the time now and says I chose someone else over her.
Yesterday she hit me up and said we should meet. I said ok and told her I'd pick her up at 8. She then said ... "On second thought ... maybe you should go hang out with the other chicky you were with." And then said she had other plans with a girlfriend but the gf was being flaky and she would let me know if the gf cancelled. Told her nope. Let's meet up another day then that she's not busy.
This chick has me confused. She texts and invites me out which shows she is interested but she wants things done on her terms. For example, she wanted to hang out Thursday night. I couldn't do it that night and offered another day. She said she couldn't.
It's like we are both on an ego trip and wanting to show who is in control. In the end no one wins.
I made mistakes with this girl from the start in letting her know I like her and showing too much interest. Slowly but surely I've stopped compliments and started acting more cold and indifferent which as expected peaked her interest in me.
We've gone out to lunch during work once and for drinks 3 times. She had a huge fight with the bf and hit me up wanting to meet up for drinks. I sensed she just wanted me there as a friend to talk about her issues and told her I wasn't available to meet. I really wasn't since I had set up a date with another girl who I don't like as much but had fun with her.
My question is did I go too far in letting my coworker know that I had a date with another girl. I did it to show her I have options and not available to her whenever she wants. Also to let her know that if she doesn't decide soon about whether to let the bf go for sure or not she will lose me to someone else. It's recommended to be indifferent and let women know that we have options but did I mess up in telling her I had a date.
She talks about this all the time now and says I chose someone else over her.
Yesterday she hit me up and said we should meet. I said ok and told her I'd pick her up at 8. She then said ... "On second thought ... maybe you should go hang out with the other chicky you were with." And then said she had other plans with a girlfriend but the gf was being flaky and she would let me know if the gf cancelled. Told her nope. Let's meet up another day then that she's not busy.
This chick has me confused. She texts and invites me out which shows she is interested but she wants things done on her terms. For example, she wanted to hang out Thursday night. I couldn't do it that night and offered another day. She said she couldn't.
It's like we are both on an ego trip and wanting to show who is in control. In the end no one wins.