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Master Don Juan
Part of a paper I wrote for a psychology class ... enjoy ...
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Some secular sources say that to attract women you must be the Alpha male. They often follow
by using a Beta male comparison, explaining something to the effect that they are groveling
sidekicks, who beg for scraps and get no attention or sex from females. They stereotype them
as incompetant, unable to fight for themselves and incapable to feel a sense of belonging.
In actuality, this description is not necessarily the start of a Beta male; it really
describes the basic development of an Alpha type personality. While it is true that beta
types do often become stepping stones and doormats, they typically receive a basic
reinforcement and positive level of feedback that Alpha types fail to receive in their
pre-adolescent developement. The psychologist Erik Erickson refers to this stage of
development as 'Industry vs. Inferiority.'According to his theory, if children do not
receive positive social feedback during this stage, they could form an inferiority
complex and lack developmental understanding of individuality and self-awareness later
in life. On the other hand, children who make friends, feel accepted, and feel competent
during this time develope a greater level of self understanding and awareness, and have
little trouble forging an identity.
While this may seem like an odd comparison, human psychology holds some amazing paralles.
In psychosexual theory, as defined by Freud and Erikson, Alpha type male personalities
form from the lack of self-esteeme envoked during the latency and genital stages of development,
causing them to develop tools to hide their lack of self-esteeme and worth [arrogence, ****iness],
control is more important than taking risk with their outlook being majorly pessimistic and minorly
optomistic, which adds to mystery and sex appeal.
On the other hand, Beta type personalities maintain a higher level of self-esteeme and
attract girls with good self esteeme. Confidence is real and apparent, risk is more often
taken and there is a good deal of trust. The primary outlook is majorly optomistic and
minorly pessimistic, which promotes a safe enviroment succeptable to change.
In both cases, Alpha and Beta type personalities develop during the latency and genital
stages of development depending upon biological and enviromental factors regardless of
gender [so there are alpha male/females and beta male/females]. In almost all cases, you
will often find that Alpha types attract Alpha types and Beta types attract Beta types.
However, you will occasionally find Alpha types and Beta type attractions based upon
misunderstandings of character, such as a Beta female mistaking an Alpha male for Beta or
an Alpha female mistaking a Beta male for Alpha. Henry Maslow, one of the first
psychochologist to do detailed studies on primate and human behaviour, observed that
it was in fact the Beta monkies that received the most sex and attention from females.
The Alpha types, the bigger more agressive monkies, were so busy fighting other Alpha
monkies they only managed to receive casual attention from female monkies.
Nevertheless, to say that all women are attracted to one type of male, whether Alpha
or Beta is absolutly poposterious. Both Alpha and Beta type Males receive attention
and sex from atleast some females throughout their lifetime.
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Some secular sources say that to attract women you must be the Alpha male. They often follow
by using a Beta male comparison, explaining something to the effect that they are groveling
sidekicks, who beg for scraps and get no attention or sex from females. They stereotype them
as incompetant, unable to fight for themselves and incapable to feel a sense of belonging.
In actuality, this description is not necessarily the start of a Beta male; it really
describes the basic development of an Alpha type personality. While it is true that beta
types do often become stepping stones and doormats, they typically receive a basic
reinforcement and positive level of feedback that Alpha types fail to receive in their
pre-adolescent developement. The psychologist Erik Erickson refers to this stage of
development as 'Industry vs. Inferiority.'According to his theory, if children do not
receive positive social feedback during this stage, they could form an inferiority
complex and lack developmental understanding of individuality and self-awareness later
in life. On the other hand, children who make friends, feel accepted, and feel competent
during this time develope a greater level of self understanding and awareness, and have
little trouble forging an identity.
While this may seem like an odd comparison, human psychology holds some amazing paralles.
In psychosexual theory, as defined by Freud and Erikson, Alpha type male personalities
form from the lack of self-esteeme envoked during the latency and genital stages of development,
causing them to develop tools to hide their lack of self-esteeme and worth [arrogence, ****iness],
control is more important than taking risk with their outlook being majorly pessimistic and minorly
optomistic, which adds to mystery and sex appeal.
On the other hand, Beta type personalities maintain a higher level of self-esteeme and
attract girls with good self esteeme. Confidence is real and apparent, risk is more often
taken and there is a good deal of trust. The primary outlook is majorly optomistic and
minorly pessimistic, which promotes a safe enviroment succeptable to change.
In both cases, Alpha and Beta type personalities develop during the latency and genital
stages of development depending upon biological and enviromental factors regardless of
gender [so there are alpha male/females and beta male/females]. In almost all cases, you
will often find that Alpha types attract Alpha types and Beta types attract Beta types.
However, you will occasionally find Alpha types and Beta type attractions based upon
misunderstandings of character, such as a Beta female mistaking an Alpha male for Beta or
an Alpha female mistaking a Beta male for Alpha. Henry Maslow, one of the first
psychochologist to do detailed studies on primate and human behaviour, observed that
it was in fact the Beta monkies that received the most sex and attention from females.
The Alpha types, the bigger more agressive monkies, were so busy fighting other Alpha
monkies they only managed to receive casual attention from female monkies.
Nevertheless, to say that all women are attracted to one type of male, whether Alpha
or Beta is absolutly poposterious. Both Alpha and Beta type Males receive attention
and sex from atleast some females throughout their lifetime.
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Once I develop in that area I'll lilely become receptive to intimacy. I'm unable to have closeness with anyone, not even friends who swear we are best friends.