I think most men can live with more love and attention going to the children. That isn't an issue I agree. The issue arises when women pour 100% of their effort into being mom, and 0 into being wife. This is a very common occurrence in marriages.
This is where your masculinity comes into play. She looks at you for leadership, so lead. By example. Don't become a 'Dad' only, but stay exciting for her as well so she won't forget to be your wife.
Agreed a man's leadership is also important. However, my personal experience, as well as observing others in their marriages, is that you can do most things right including leading and it many times doesn't mean your relationship is immune to the deterioration. Certainly, a man should always be the leader in any relationship and his failure to do so will only expedite that process.
If you don’t mind me asking, what happens at the four-year mark? Like, how do things go downhill?
Great post.
Both care less about the relationship. Boredom, Familiarity, relationship takes a back seat to careers. The women never behaves as good as she did the first 2yrs. More attitude, less submission. Not as easy going.
Its rare, no doubt. My son is about to marry such a girl (she's 20) but they are serious throw backs to past generations in a number of ways. My son and his fiance know my views on the topic and know it originated with my own grandmother's wisdom.
Appreciate your honesty.
The 'excitement chaser' often ends up permanently dissatisfied when she finds out that her happiness went out with the divorce.
And me, but I know I'm an exception.
“You sound like an incel” is used by both men and women for men saying anything they don’t like. It’s yet another reflection of the gynocratic order and deification of women.
A quote from Sexual Utopia (which every man in this era should read) pertinent to this post and thread generally:
Agreed. The same could be said going back 10-15 years ago. Maybe longer.
After being married for over 30 years, I agree that women get a better deal. This is one of the flaws of the old ways, men having to bear the responsibility of taking care of his wife. While it is our place “to provide”, it also becomes a burden to have to cover for her. I’ve been the sole financial provider for over 30 years. This puts me in the position to have to sacrifice my needs and wants to ensure the family is taken care of first. Seen a lot of wives sit at home and try to start random businesses or try becoming something, not many succeeded but the one who ends up being the financier is the husband. This old way of thinking leaves the woman in a perpetual state of childhood. She is the oldest child in the house, who has minimal responsibilities. A woman once said to me, “she cooks your meals and does your laundry, what else do you want?” As if these two tasks are equal to the mountain of responsibilities I own as the husband.
So what should we expect out of women? She has some value if she raises our kids, but what is the expectation for a woman in a relationship with no children? Truly, the mans role doesn't change.
