DISCLAIMER: This is really long. I'm halfway posting this for advice and halfway to vent....because I'm pretty sure I know what the advice will be.
First off, hey everyone. I'm a 20 year old college student, and I have been trying to erase the past 20 years of being a punk-ass AFC. Its a work in progress as you will see..
Anyways, I am visiting some friends back in early January right before school is about to start back up. My buddy's girlfriend is coming over and she's bringing over her friend with the intention of setting the two of us up. Let's call this girl Lisa.
I got trashed the night before so I'm taking it easy tonight. A few beers to be social but that's it. So in comes my friend's GF with Lisa - a GORGEOUS tall slender brunette. Just my type. She's really shy and she didn't know anyone there so I took that into account and made sure to adjust my game a bit to make her feel comfortable. Both of us know the deal, our friends are trying to hook us up together. So I go up and talk to her, introduce myself, the whole shabang. We get to talking for a little bit, I'm teasing her, she's hitting me playfully, etc. etc. Long story short, we end up outside making out later on. Due to the situation there wasn't much opportunity for anything else, but that was fine with me, because I really liked this girl and figured I would see her again.
Here's the rundown - her hometown is where I met her that night. She was home for break and she goes to school 4 hours away, about 3 hours away from where I go to school. She's a freshman and she doesn't have a car . So as you can see this is going to be tough.
I'll fast forward a few weeks. We had been texting every day, talking online, etc. We talked on the phone a couple times but she seemed to shy away from that so most of our contact was through computer/texting. She wants to see me soon, I want to see her soon. She tells me to come up and stay with her for a weekend. Valentines day weekend. I oblige. A few days later she thinks we're moving too fast and changes her mind. She tells me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship and if I came up there for Valentines day then that's probably what it would end up as. She tells me that she didnt want to hurt me because when she gets drunk she hooks up with dudes and she didn't feel like our relationship was strong enough for her to control herself. She tells me she cheated on her last boyfriend for this same reason. I later find out that she lost her virginity a few months ago but has gone wild since then. But like a little ***** I pay no mind.
So we call it off, slow down a little bit. A week or so later, she comes crawling back saying that she wants to see me on Valentines Day, and that she's going to try and get a ride home so we can meet up with our friends and hang out with them for the weekend. Turns out she can't get a ride, so me being the AFC that I am offered to drive up there, pick her up, take her home, and hang out with her for the weekend while I stay at my friend's place. This is a 7 hour trip for me. Each way. Yet I agreed because I really liked this girl and felt like I'd regret it if I didn't pursue this and I didn't want to look back and wonder 'what if'. A.K.A. I am a little *****.
We keep talking every day, we're both excited to see each other. She's telling her friends all about me, etc. etc.
So last Friday was the day. I got my stuff together and drove 3 hours to go get her at school. I met her roommate and a few of her sorority sisters who were conveniently in her room. Passed those tests and we headed out. Everything's going well. Its a 4 hour drive and this is only the 2nd time I have ever seen this girl before, so i thought it would be tough to sit in a car for 4 hrs together, but it wasn't. For the first hour or so.
Then, it happens. My steering column locks up and my engine light starts flashing.
My car breaks down.
On the side of the interstate.
2.5 hours from our destination.
There's no way we're going to get home, so she calls her friend from school who picks us up and takes us back to where we started. I was gonna stay the night there, and hopefully my car would be fixed by the next morning.
The next 48 hours featured one of the most epic collapses I have ever seen. Nothing went right. She started acting uninterested, her friends pretended I wasnt there, it was just miserable. Keep in mind, I know NONE of these people and even though I'm trying to be social and have fun with them when we went out, something just wasn't right. She kept saying she really didnt want to be there, she wished she was at home, etc. because she didnt want me to feel uncomfortable. We went to some parties, she wandered off, and I was left on my own.
The whole weekend was a blur. She eventually told me she was just getting a 'friend vibe' from me, and we didn't hook up or anything. SHe was being really touchy feely and kissed me a few times, but I chalked that up to sympathy. She ****ing felt sorry for me. But i continued to be a little ***** and buy her dinner, gave her flowers and a nice card on valentines, etc. etc. I left last Sunday about $400 poorer with nothing but a broken ego and a peck on the lips goodbye.
I was so confused. I kept asking her what changed, she tried to let me down easy by saying that she 'wasn't ready for a relationship' and that i was a 'great guy' and she 'wanted to see where things would go' when we could hang out more over the summer. I talked to her roommate and all she told her was that she didn't see me as 'boyfriend material'. That's all I could get out of her. We haven't talked in about a week and from what her friends have told me she hasn't said a word about me.
Here's the kicker - I STILL want this girl. Even after all that, I still like her and I am miserable right now. Next week she's coming home for spring break. I'm going to be in her hometown for my friend's birthday and they may stop by. Part of me wants things to back to how they were, but since that probably won't happen, I at least want her to feel like a ***** for completely ditching me.
How do I get back at her? This is immature as hell but I want her to want be back and regret letting me go the way she did.
(dont bother telling me how sad this story is...i just read it and it was like reading someone else's writing...i can't believe that i let a girl i have only known for 6 weeks turn me into such a *****)
First off, hey everyone. I'm a 20 year old college student, and I have been trying to erase the past 20 years of being a punk-ass AFC. Its a work in progress as you will see..
Anyways, I am visiting some friends back in early January right before school is about to start back up. My buddy's girlfriend is coming over and she's bringing over her friend with the intention of setting the two of us up. Let's call this girl Lisa.
I got trashed the night before so I'm taking it easy tonight. A few beers to be social but that's it. So in comes my friend's GF with Lisa - a GORGEOUS tall slender brunette. Just my type. She's really shy and she didn't know anyone there so I took that into account and made sure to adjust my game a bit to make her feel comfortable. Both of us know the deal, our friends are trying to hook us up together. So I go up and talk to her, introduce myself, the whole shabang. We get to talking for a little bit, I'm teasing her, she's hitting me playfully, etc. etc. Long story short, we end up outside making out later on. Due to the situation there wasn't much opportunity for anything else, but that was fine with me, because I really liked this girl and figured I would see her again.
Here's the rundown - her hometown is where I met her that night. She was home for break and she goes to school 4 hours away, about 3 hours away from where I go to school. She's a freshman and she doesn't have a car . So as you can see this is going to be tough.
I'll fast forward a few weeks. We had been texting every day, talking online, etc. We talked on the phone a couple times but she seemed to shy away from that so most of our contact was through computer/texting. She wants to see me soon, I want to see her soon. She tells me to come up and stay with her for a weekend. Valentines day weekend. I oblige. A few days later she thinks we're moving too fast and changes her mind. She tells me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship and if I came up there for Valentines day then that's probably what it would end up as. She tells me that she didnt want to hurt me because when she gets drunk she hooks up with dudes and she didn't feel like our relationship was strong enough for her to control herself. She tells me she cheated on her last boyfriend for this same reason. I later find out that she lost her virginity a few months ago but has gone wild since then. But like a little ***** I pay no mind.
So we call it off, slow down a little bit. A week or so later, she comes crawling back saying that she wants to see me on Valentines Day, and that she's going to try and get a ride home so we can meet up with our friends and hang out with them for the weekend. Turns out she can't get a ride, so me being the AFC that I am offered to drive up there, pick her up, take her home, and hang out with her for the weekend while I stay at my friend's place. This is a 7 hour trip for me. Each way. Yet I agreed because I really liked this girl and felt like I'd regret it if I didn't pursue this and I didn't want to look back and wonder 'what if'. A.K.A. I am a little *****.
We keep talking every day, we're both excited to see each other. She's telling her friends all about me, etc. etc.
So last Friday was the day. I got my stuff together and drove 3 hours to go get her at school. I met her roommate and a few of her sorority sisters who were conveniently in her room. Passed those tests and we headed out. Everything's going well. Its a 4 hour drive and this is only the 2nd time I have ever seen this girl before, so i thought it would be tough to sit in a car for 4 hrs together, but it wasn't. For the first hour or so.
Then, it happens. My steering column locks up and my engine light starts flashing.
My car breaks down.
On the side of the interstate.
2.5 hours from our destination.
There's no way we're going to get home, so she calls her friend from school who picks us up and takes us back to where we started. I was gonna stay the night there, and hopefully my car would be fixed by the next morning.
The next 48 hours featured one of the most epic collapses I have ever seen. Nothing went right. She started acting uninterested, her friends pretended I wasnt there, it was just miserable. Keep in mind, I know NONE of these people and even though I'm trying to be social and have fun with them when we went out, something just wasn't right. She kept saying she really didnt want to be there, she wished she was at home, etc. because she didnt want me to feel uncomfortable. We went to some parties, she wandered off, and I was left on my own.
The whole weekend was a blur. She eventually told me she was just getting a 'friend vibe' from me, and we didn't hook up or anything. SHe was being really touchy feely and kissed me a few times, but I chalked that up to sympathy. She ****ing felt sorry for me. But i continued to be a little ***** and buy her dinner, gave her flowers and a nice card on valentines, etc. etc. I left last Sunday about $400 poorer with nothing but a broken ego and a peck on the lips goodbye.
I was so confused. I kept asking her what changed, she tried to let me down easy by saying that she 'wasn't ready for a relationship' and that i was a 'great guy' and she 'wanted to see where things would go' when we could hang out more over the summer. I talked to her roommate and all she told her was that she didn't see me as 'boyfriend material'. That's all I could get out of her. We haven't talked in about a week and from what her friends have told me she hasn't said a word about me.
Here's the kicker - I STILL want this girl. Even after all that, I still like her and I am miserable right now. Next week she's coming home for spring break. I'm going to be in her hometown for my friend's birthday and they may stop by. Part of me wants things to back to how they were, but since that probably won't happen, I at least want her to feel like a ***** for completely ditching me.
How do I get back at her? This is immature as hell but I want her to want be back and regret letting me go the way she did.
(dont bother telling me how sad this story is...i just read it and it was like reading someone else's writing...i can't believe that i let a girl i have only known for 6 weeks turn me into such a *****)
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