Originally posted by a blah...:
I have sort of girly face and thin slim body. I don't look skinny, but i do look kind of gay (i even act like a fag around girls sometimes). Some girls think i'm cute, but most of the time they think i'm a weak, whimpy pretty boy. I think i can pull off decent amount of girls if i can change the way i look. I know i can change my body by working out but there's no way i can change my face. I want to look more like a "handsome men", not a fag. Can any of you older DJ's help me with my problem?
Holy sh!t, what are you, like 13?
Really dawg, I have next to no sympathy for you. You've come to the internet to work out your problems of self-perception. No matter what advice anyone gives you here, none of us can help you as much as YOU can help you.
This has nothing to do with "acting gay" (which is a stupid expression, there's no such thing) or whatever; your problem is self-perception. If YOU know you're not gay then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.
And the way you describe your facial features you're probably extremely "handsome" already. OWN that ****, be proud of it; you probably look better than 70% of the human race.
Now go out and live your life, find out what you like, what you don't like, what engages you, what turns you off. Find all those things and you'll be closer to who YOU are, and you better fvcking fall in LOVE with whoever that is, cuz all those other people that you say think such-and-such about you will ALWAYS be OTHER PEOPLE. You have YOU for the rest of your life.
And know what? When you love yourself and your life and the things that you do, your enjoyment of your life will permeate from every pore in your body, and people will be attracted to you. Men will wanna chill with you, women will be intrigued by you.
It's tough as hell, but the benefits are worth it.
Jesus, stop being such a b!tch and take care of your sh!t.
I'm done.