Preemptive breakup with my gf

[charlezz]

Just finished party. Number closed a 6/10. Having fun in the party and noticed girls slipping looks at me.

Just for updates, more texts from my gf(or ex), she declared her undying love, and she miss me madly and she is in a deep pain. Etc etc.. All the most 'romantic' things u guys can imagine..

I Ignored and eating 4 eggs for protein to shape up my body and going to a deep slumber.. See you guys tomorrow and update u all~

 

[Tiguere]

Nice turn off your phone before going to bed.

 

[charlezz]

She sent me a whatsapp text, saying if i still love her, please contact her, if not she will know what i mean, afterwhich blocked me on whatsapp. Jeez..

 

[Renegade357]

Good job, I did a pre-emptive breakup about a month ago myself. My girl was doing the same kind of stuff as yours. Nearly the same story we were planning a trip together too. She was very indifferent at the end that's what pissed me off the most.

I wasn't as ruthless as you with my break though. I called her and said "Look, I'm not happy, you're not happy, let's split." After talking about it for a while she finally agreed. Pretty lame. Haven't heard a peep from her since.

So kudos to you man especially being strong enough to ignore her gushing texts..

 

[charlezz]

Added on, she texted my close friend via Facebook that she is extremely sad that we broke up.

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So Renegade bro, how does it turn out?
Did she have any new guy? If so, were they together when she turned indifferent?
It sounds to me that you may have talked too much (power being on her side although u initated the breakup... And sounds like u seek her approval for the breakup) during the breaking up conversation..

How does it turned out in the end?

 

[youngmack]

Yeah don't feel sorry for this broad. She is being manipulative. If you were to go back to her, she would do the same sh1t again. Its all a game.

 

[charlezz]

Updates,

She called today and I answered.
She asked why am I so cold towards her and being so unfair to her. She mentioned that she hasn't done anything like what I have done.

I said," Cool it, if u wanna talk, talk calmly"

She said that she finally gets closure since I answered the call..
She lost control of her emotions and talked (forgot the content) and cried and cup down the phone...

Is she crazy? Or am I wrong? Jesus

 

[Renegade357]

She said that she finally gets closure since I answered the call..
She lost control of her emotions and talked (forgot the content) and cried and cup down the phone...

I think women go nuts when they don't have closure dude. You denied her of that while you ignored her. Sounds like she might have gotten it with that phone call. I dunno.

 

[Solomon]

Updates,

She called today and I answered.
She asked why am I so cold towards her and being so unfair to her. She mentioned that she hasn't done anything like what I have done.

I said," Cool it, if u wanna talk, talk calmly"

She said that she finally gets closure since I answered the call..
She lost control of her emotions and talked (forgot the content) and cried and cup down the phone...

Is she crazy? Or am I wrong? Jesus

Your second guessing yourself which is causing you to be over analytical. I cringe that you picked up cause it's exactly something I would do in a moment of weakness. You got the best advice here but you choose to ignore it

At your age you should always be dating 2-3 women at a time. No excuses.

The point is you should be spinning plates right now, or as I like to call it building a "Team". You should be focused on getting new numbers, new women, instead you are worried abut reasons and answers you won't get. I get it OP, I'm just like you I was in a situation as well but now she got what you wanted except you won't get closure. I see two things happening

1. You gonna bytch out more and meet up with her to talk, and get answers she will lie to your face and you will take her back because you're soft

or

2. You will head this advice and go out meet new women and ignore her from now on

The choice is yours

 

[Renegade357]

So Renegade bro, how does it turn out?

I don't know man. I doubt we'll talk anytime soon. We were together about the same time as you. There must be something about this time of year. A lot of my friends have broken up with their girls very suddenly for stupid reasons.

Did she have any new guy? If so, were they together when she turned indifferent?

I don't know for sure if there was a new guy. Of course the way she acted it's common practice for us to assume there is. I personally think I was a long long rebound for her. She got out of a long term relationship with a guy who rocked her world a while before we got together and I doubt she ever recovered from that.

It sounds to me that you may have talked too much (power being on her side although u initated the breakup... And sounds like u seek her approval for the breakup) during the breaking up conversation..

Well it's not so much like I was trying to game the breakup. It came to a point where I was tired of her acting the way she did over the past month. So I just put my foot down. Told her we either work it out or we part ways. She was totally wishy washy the whole time so I just made the decision for her. I said "I don't want someone who's wishy washy about me so we're done. Good luck, no hard feelings. Bye."

How does it turned out in the end?

Probably eternal no contact. This girl never loved me. She was too damaged to ever have that capability. The only reason we stayed together so long is because I gamed it well and gave her ample space. Eventually she couldn't fake it anymore. It hurts like hell but it's over and I'm glad. I can find someone who doesn't imitate a sack of rocks when I try to get intimate with her.

My biggest mistake was ignoring the scars and baggage with this girl. Thinking she'd eventually come around. Never again.

 

[Renegade357]

2. You will head this advice and go out meet new women and ignore her from now on

Yeah, he needs to talk to other chicks regardless of what happens. He needs time away from this chick to clear his head up. If she comes begging again in a few months then fine but he's gotta keep it on his terms but that better be some damn good begging. And she shouldn't be anything more than one of several plates. The EX is back to date 1 imo. No exclusive BS relationship. I don't believe in seniority status with women.

 

[Lord Hypnos]

Is she crazy? Or am I wrong? Jesus

she's gaming you bro! Crying, and guilt trips; those are the go-to tactics that women use to get their own way, hence why NC is so effective

 

[charlezz]

FVCK!!!! I screwed up!!!

I lost controlled of myself. After she cupped the phone, I called her 6 times and she did not answer the call.

She texted me that she can finally move on and she is disappointed in me (???) I replied with "I think you are not in the right emotion to talk. We will talk another time"

DAMMMM!!! Why did I screw up!!!!? I am sorry guys that I didn't heed most of the advices...

Question is... Now does she have the power over me?

Back to NC... Without expectation...
Hate myself...

 

[charlezz]

My close friend is beside me now. He said that I didn't actually lose my dignity by calling her 6 times. It is just that this gf of mine is crazy and doesn't know how to control of herself. He says the same thing... NC and take Zero bull**** from her.

 

[charlezz]

Sorry for the repeated post, can moderator assist remove?

 

[youngmack]

These cluster B's are too powerful yo

 

[charlezz]

These cluster B's are too powerful yo

She classified as cluster B?

 

[Renegade357]

I called her 6 times and she did not answer the call.

Lol, calling her 1 time was a D-. 6 times is total epic failiure.

Question is... Now does she have the power over me?

Yeah it's over. You gave her the power and some. You pretty much convinced her that she made the right choice. Now she's laughing about you behind your back to her friends and the new guy. Sorry dude, just telling you the truth. Learn your lesson for crying out loud.

Best move for you to is to tell her you are sorry for blowing up her phone. You were drunk or something. You're gonna step away for a while and you don't want her to contact you again. You get some dignity points back from that.

And NEEEEEEEXT!

 

[Lord Hypnos]

She texted me that she can finally move on and she is disappointed in me (???)

sorry pal, but you lose! it's funny how people come here for advice, receive guidance from DJs who have been in these exact same situations before, then they go ahead and do the total opposite of the advice they received!

if you try to pull a power move like a pre-emptive break-up, at least have the balls to go FULL NC (without exceptions). She won by getting all emotional and pulling at your heart strings; she is testing you to see if you mean what you say, or if you are just bull****ting around.

 

[Solomon]

Here is the answer OP

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